When I first joined this website, my status set to be engaged

After while, things changed… in a good way perhaps,

My status set to be Single and Not looking.

And I have been thinking, maybe I should change to be Single and looking.

But what does it takes?

Looking for a relationship on-line in the era of globalization,

One must believe that it is possible.

Honestly I don’t.

How can you fall for someone you haven’t met?

How do you know, it isn’t your own imagination that you fall for?

Surfing and reading profiles, most of the people say good things about themselves.

But… what is it between the line? How many things that left behind?

What if… what if you fall for someone who lives in another continent.

What would happen to you if that person just disappear?

All you got is just address over the internet connection…

And it easy to disappear, all it takes is just one click at block.

It’s work both way.

So…I’m hesitated.

It is easy to read me, for the person that I am.

Because I have a space that expose my life, my feelings

and I’m honest with everything I said.

Never occur to me that one day my honesty will become a great tool for psycho, weirdo men, using it hurt me terribly.

Unfortunately, it happened.

It reminded me how weak I can be at one point.

Only a weak person that easily get hurt, so I MUST be stronger.

I am an optimistic person, too optimist until friends said I’m close to be stupid.

I can’t change that.

Guess I must live with full of awareness and be more careful.

Still I can’t decide, should I edit my profile?

I need you guy’s voices.

Thank you.

kid mahk

u can edit everyday na..sabai sabai jai....

Do.. whatever you wanna do.,,,.

Do... whatever you feel happy with na ka..

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you can have a trial n' error u know u can always change it back

the power is in your hand

If you are single and intersted in meeting someone, you should put single and looking!

You should also be cautious and use good judgement in meeting new people. There are a lot of crazy people out there and some people take advange of good people. But there i also a lot of really good people out there too! Don't give up!

Good luck to you!

Unny is right kha .... JUST DO IT!!!!

Yes... guess I'm thinking too much.

Maybe I should just click , as everybody said I can change it back anytime

Thank you everyone.

The whole online thing used to be an issue but I don't think it is anymore. You don't have to fall for someone online. You can meet them online and then fall for them after you meet. I've met friends, business contacts, etc over online and rarely do the people end up being too different from the people I thought they were.

I can't tell you whether to update your profile but don't let the fact that you're meeting someone online be the biggest issue.

You seem quite a sensible person, I am sure your judgment of people is the most important thing here whether your profile is single and looking or single and not looking wont make any difference to this, the only thing you may find is that you are approached in a different way from some of the newer men on this site searching for single and looking. The people who know you here already will all treat you the same.

up to u

it's not that you can change it back whenever you want, although you can.

you can change it to anything you want it to be at anytime.

more possibilities for an optimist.

always do thing that make urself happy.. if u r ready for a new relationship then choose a single and looking one.. it does not matter the one u r looking for would be found on this site or from real life.. be happy na..

always do thing that make urself happy.. if u r ready for a new relationship then choose a single and looking one.. it does not matter the one u r looking for would be found on this site or from real life.. be happy na..

hmmm. maybe i should keep my mouth shut as i may be the wrong person to comment on this, on a whole lot of levels including what to put on a profile (the careful observer will note that my profile is rather um... abstract).

i've done the online 'romance' thingy and while it worked out pretty well a couple of times, until we actually met, it was mostly fantasy, which is very, very, very dangerous, at least for a fragile flower like myself. one of them nearly worked out but it just got too inense too quickly because we had this immense fantasy life built entirely on clever words. in general i'm not a fan of online mating rituals, not at all.

i've done the long distance thing, and while i'm stupid enough to believe that it *could* work as long as there's a plan for how to actually get together (and i've actually 'gotten together' twice) stakes are very very very (is that enough 'very's? probably not) high, and you could end up halfway around the world, living in your ex's family's shophouse after being talked into giving up your comfy 22nd floor apartment and getting dumped 2 months later, and wondering what the hell your'e doing stuck in a city you never had any intention of living in.

so far i haven't found a 'right place and time.' i'd prefer to meet people from real life and get together because of shared interests etc. but i don't usually have the patience for that. iinstead i've end up meeting women in bars and clubs on 3 continents and they turn out to be insane more often than not. it doesn't seem to be geographical. i can't imagine men are any saner.

so the short version is, i haven't the faintest clue as to how online "dating" should work, so i tend to avoid it. if i were to try it again, i would tend to want to have a coffee or something with someone fairly quickly before i had too much time to get interested in their online persona, before deciding it was a 'date,', rather than buildling up a lot of expectations around a first meeting arranged via the internet.

as i said though maybe i should just keep my mouth shut for a great many reasons. i can't even tell you convincingly that you're thinking too much; i don't know how to keep from thinking too much.

Hi,

Its a nice thought ...

I guess confession is what u have done

and

I guess confession is what you are getting from all the members out here ...

One thing is there ... its makes all of us feel great.... I mean many members giving you guidance (nice work)

I would agree towards do what makes you feel good and yes does not hurts others feeling at the same time...

Optimize your results

Well, I have seen people who put Single but not looking and still looking and flirting around... and since we are here on a dating website. I have no idea why we should be shy to admit what we want??? and that we are not even looking for anything at all here!!!???

well i'm sticking with my simple solution: i just turned the status line off completely.

wow Zeusbheld talking a lot of sense lol

Online chat is fine for introduction but it can never be a relationship until you have met.

Some guys come for 3 months Holiday a year and 'long distance relationships' like this never work.

If he tell you he loves you then tell him to get on a plane to meet you...NO EXCUSES

Dont sit on the computer dreaming of the perfect life....get out and meet people !!

If you want to try to meet anyone on this site, your status should read single and looking......otherwise, anyone that is wanting the same, will just bypass you and on to another profile. TF, is just another tool, to possiblly help meet others. You just need to use common sense and good judgement when you do have another that's interested in becoming better friends and maybe a relationship can become real?

I know, if I was looking, than any profiles that said, married, engaged,with a partner, and single not looking would just be wasting my time in my search. Good luck to you whatever.

I disagree with a lot of the comments here. If I were you, I would keep my setting to single and not looking. I think if someone is really interested in you, he should try and speak to you anyway. Also, it is often good (in my opinion) to be friend with someone before dating seriously. Pretending to be 'not looking' is a good way to do just that...

Good luck, I'm sure you'll have a lot of mail from interested guys within the next few days. Let me know if you need somebody to evaluate potential candidate.

I say change your status to widowed. It'll be a great conversation starter and you'll meet lots of guys looking to take advantage of your fragile emotional state. Or married (with children), then you'll at least know that everyone hitting on you is highly motivated and a real go-getter. It's win-win.

Posted by Tony_Sorco [ 13 August 2007 | 1:25AM ]

wow Zeusbheld talking a lot of sense lol<<<

it doesn't happen very often. maybe someone should take a picture...

When I enrolled here 2 years I was single and looking.

My experience, i think TFmen tend to talk with many girls at the same time.

And their schedules messed up.

When I got bf (not from TF), I hadn't edited my profile about relationship status coz I forgot to think about it.

I just wrote about my relationship in journal. But then someone asked me why my profile is "single and looking". So I am obliged to hide my relationship status!

Whether you can fall in love online or not depends only of your imagination. Do you really think that you know the person who meet you in real life or even person who lived with you for years? No. We don't know even ourselves. As for the change of status from "not looking" to "looking", I don't think somebody cares of this status when he or she decides to write you or not to write.