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3 Things That Can Ruin Your Relationship


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I found this article is interesting to read ...infact it's so true that I have ruined my relationship several times by various reason but definitely what they have stated here is accurate

"When being in a relationship, a lot of compromises must be made to keep things running like a well oiled machine. By keeping things in a happy medium things will go well. If you start becoming too selfish, you can ruin the relationship. If you get too comfortable, you can ruin the relationship. If you start becoming too jealous, this can also ruin a relationship. Not avoiding these pitfalls can diminish your love.

1. Becoming Selfish

Becoming too selfish in a relationship is a huge problem. If you just keep worrying about how you feel and what you want, this will start to make your partner feel as if the relationship is one-sided. Being selfish makes you become neglectful to what your partner wants and unconcerned for their needs; this will conjure up some pretty heated arguments and fights. By becoming too selfish, it not only will ruin your relationship but weaken other areas in your life like your friends, family and work.

2. Growing Jealous

Jealousy in a relationship is something that every couple goes through but when it starts to get the better of you it begins a strain on the trust that you two share; this is when it will create problems and pending demise of your relationship. If you have to constantly keep tabs on where your partner is at, it will make you seem like more of a parent than a partner. With jealousy being a big problem and source of many fights, it would be wise to sit down with your partner and explain to them why you are so jealous. It can help you ease the thoughts running through your mind when they are not around.

3. Growing Comfortable

The last thing that can ruin a relationship is getting too comfortable. This stage of a relationship happens when you feel like you don't need to keep up the image you had when you first met your partner. You can be really secure with your partner that no matter what you do, they will except you for you. Watch out for this kind of mentality because getting lazy, gaining a little weight, or letting your hygiene get out of control can stir up up a mess with your relationship."

But think again...If I don't feel that I could see a picture of myself growing old with that person ,why shouldn't I end it? and If I feel comfortable about who I am and live my daily life in happiness ...why such men is make significant part anyway?

Have a wonderful Thursday everyone :)

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I found this article is interesting to read ...infact it's so true that I have ruined my relationship several times by various reason but definitely what they have stated here is accurate

"When being in a relationship, a lot of compromises must be made to keep things running like a well oiled machine. By keeping things in a happy medium things will go well. If you start becoming too selfish, you can ruin the relationship. If you get too comfortable, you can ruin the relationship. If you start becoming too jealous, this can also ruin a relationship. Not avoiding these pitfalls can diminish your love.

1. Becoming Selfish

Becoming too selfish in a relationship is a huge problem. If you just keep worrying about how you feel and what you want, this will start to make your partner feel as if the relationship is one-sided. Being selfish makes you become neglectful to what your partner wants and unconcerned for their needs; this will conjure up some pretty heated arguments and fights. By becoming too selfish, it not only will ruin your relationship but weaken other areas in your life like your friends, family and work.

2. Growing Jealous

Jealousy in a relationship is something that every couple goes through but when it starts to get the better of you it begins a strain on the trust that you two share; this is when it will create problems and pending demise of your relationship. If you have to constantly keep tabs on where your partner is at, it will make you seem like more of a parent than a partner. With jealousy being a big problem and source of many fights, it would be wise to sit down with your partner and explain to them why you are so jealous. It can help you ease the thoughts running through your mind when they are not around.

3. Growing Comfortable

The last thing that can ruin a relationship is getting too comfortable. This stage of a relationship happens when you feel like you don't need to keep up the image you had when you first met your partner. You can be really secure with your partner that no matter what you do, they will except you for you. Watch out for this kind of mentality because getting lazy, gaining a little weight, or letting your hygiene get out of control can stir up up a mess with your relationship."

But think again...If I don't feel that I could see a picture of myself growing old with that person ,why shouldn't I end it? and If I feel comfortable about who I am and live my daily life in happiness ...why such men is make significant part anyway?

Have a wonderful Thursday everyone :)

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Thanks for sharing my dear friend...I think i don't have 1 & 2 ...

but 3...let just say i love seeing my body be in good shape and porpotion not because of guy :) :)

now u know and u have to teach me as well na... ;):D

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Jealous = love still ? I do not know ... never done that ...I trust someone I love 100%

Growing Comfortable = can you accept me as the way I am ??? ........ I dont know I never changed...... already comfortable at the first time we meet

Too selfish ??? NO NO NO ... should not do ... .that is not "love"

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Well, i also know that "active" tenderness, as well in everyday life as in bed life is also one of the best way to keep love as fresh as the first day! This allow passion to grow within the years, and not decrease...

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Jealousy is easy to identify, a little or a lot or somewhere between. Only a little bit is good, shows you still care.

The bit about selfishness though, that is a tougher one to identify. Where do you draw the line? A relationship is not all numbers, "I took her out 3 times, she took me out 4 times" "I gave her 3 hours massage, she gave me 2". You can't use a timer for everything you do and keep score. Also, many couples are a perfect match at 25/75%, one giving 25% the other 75%. If they are happy that way, then don't try to change them. But I should say "others" may see it as 25/75 and try to change them, they may feel it is 50/50.

At one point in my life I worried about being too selfish, (I didn't know how to measure it) till I saw what went on in other relationships. After that I realized I was the one giving too much and it was my partners that were selfish.

Now to complicate it further, there are cases where one half of a couple is selfish to the other half, but generous with others (friends or family). If you put up with that for too long (after you identify it) you deserve it. I had that happen to me once, after I identified it, I backed way off, stopped being soooo nice, stopped giving little gifts here and there, stopped holding her in bed. Now the funny part, after I backed off being too nice, she tried harder to be nice to me, to get "the old me back" but it was too late for her, she was not nice to me for too long.

Comfortable. When the two of you can fart in front of each other, then you are very comfortable :-) But as others said, I want to look good for me, not just for my partner.

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3. Growing Comfortable

The last thing that can ruin a relationship is getting too comfortable. This stage of a relationship happens when you feel like you don't need to keep up the image you had when you first met your partner. You can be really secure with your partner that no matter what you do, they will except you for you. Watch out for this kind of mentality because getting lazy, gaining a little weight, or letting your hygiene get out of control can stir up up a mess with your relationship."

If you created an image to launch the relationship, then you're in the wrong relationship anyway - no relationship can possibly work if the people in it aren't honest about who and what they are

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"If you created an image to launch the relationship," Like a total slob dressing very neat for first date then reverting to slob after date 5 or 6? Yes, true, but it is so common for all to "show their best side" during early relationship, just a matter of how severe the attempt to "hide their worst side". Of course, in my case, I am lucky as I don't have a "worst side" ;-)

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Thank you everyone for your input ,for whom success in longterm relationship to marriage I wish you could keep that till death do your part ( if it's me I would rather die before my partner) but these day seem that not many people can keep their eternity love ...but I still belive in love and will finally found someone I want to spend every day life in tenderness with him :) finger cross !! LOL

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P'Jcack --> you could never tired of shagging if both do it right or fulfill each other fantacy :D

Faycyber--> untill you really spend the days and nights with him for 2 years upward, those 3 items will occured from time to time but if 2 years things still the same and all sweet ..wait till you reach 5th year :) sometimes we just ignore each other needs and feel too comfortable to get dress or seduce the guy like we used to .

Francios--> your positive thought has always gives me hopes :D

GermanUSA--> your case sound so familair to me

Elegant--> well ,then you are normal LOL

PeterH-->there are many reasons for not working relationship.

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I might make a lot of mistakes in relationship... being too good, giving tooo much, doing tooo much... when thing is toooooo much..... it's easy to be broken :-( ya like tooooo comfy... i agree with the article

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