Dear friends of mine, I promise I won't post something like this ever again. Actually, I want to relief.. writing might about it might make me feel better, I hope.No, this isn't about my sad feeling, but it's about my friend who is feeling down about herself.Yes, she is big woman just like me. I got phone call from her last week. She told me about what her friend (guy) told me about herself. She asked him what was wrong about her, why no one interested in her. My thought "I wouldn't ask that kind of question, I did it before, but now I don't wanna know the answer, cuz I think no one can give the right answer" Me: "What did he say?" Her: "He said... 1st: it's about my physical, it's not about Big Body, or Good Shape" but why you let yourself look broken down and old, Why don't you take some supplements such as Q10 or some vitamins... use day and night cream to make your skin nice. And have you ever go to the good salon? change your hair style? it help... you should try.Me: Hmm that's true.My friend: huh? Me: Oops, ok go on.... hehe.My friend: Ok, and then he said I should change the way I make up, and outfit..What do you think Neung? Tell me, I look that bad??Me: Hmmm (The moment of truth) Ok he, hmmmmmm hmmmm he was too straight but I think I agree with him. We are over 30 year old sis but we don't have to feel that way.My friend: That's the point, we are old, so we should wearing some outfits suit our age.Me: In my opinion, we can made ourself feel younger by the outfit and hair and make up.My friend: OK Neung, if you agree with him, would you help me to change the way I look?Me: (Damn!) ok I will try then.The next day, we went shopping, she asked me if her nose was too flat, should she go for plastic surgery? I said asked her for what? I do not believe in plastic surgery at all... I told her that we should reduce our weight and see what will happen. Then, on Friday, I called her that Stila discount at Chino Thai building, I told that her should go to get some... she said if the price are not lower than 200 baht she would buy it... Damn!! I asked her if she did asked me to help...  lower than 200 baht cosmetic sometimes dangerous for her skin... I use good one for foundation and powder (I have many rate) She said "Neung, I won't do anything else, if I can't reduce my weight, I won't do anything" Damn I think she might get me wrong for sure... If we still "fat" "Big body" we can still make ourself look better, don't we? I think we still have right to be beautiful na. Nowaday, she takes "Reductil" to reduce her weight... I don't know what else to say. I did took it before, and I looked fine... but my family and my friends said I was strange... and I was so scary at that time. I knew I never felt good, always angry, I always puke after meal (still now).Should I tell her about it? or let her take it and see what will happen? but I can feel she act difference. My idea for myself, I believe in inner beauty, jing jing, If no one can't see, I can feel... and that's fine. Without those medicine, I gain my weight but I'm happy. Apart from Thailand politic, I'm happy with everything. I enjoy cloths shopping, make myself look nice (in my own way) Please correct me, if I'm wrong...Big women can be Beautiful, right?

Yes, big women can be beautiful.

And a girl can always make the best of what she has, instead of giving up because she isn't perfect :-)

Neung, you already know the answer to that. You gave the answer at least 3 times in your journal. :-)

Be who you are and enjoy your life.

I hope your friend finds a way to do that.

Yes, you're right big women can be beautiful. How old is your friend, if I may ask? Because she doesn't sound grow up to me (sorry na kha). It isn't always about how you look, it's about personallity also. I believe many men will agree on this.

Sure big can be beautiful. Dress to complement your shape and have good attitude. With a nice smile and attitude men will come !

Get counseling. Then get stomach staple op.

just look at Gettie, she is the most beautifull non slim girl I have ever seen.

Most annoying of (some) women is they want to improve their looks / personalities but they never want to put any effort to it.

You are right ,sis. Hmm I use to be too stingy to make myself look better. But I think sometime we have to invest for making ourself feel good and look good. Cheap stuffs can be low quality and brings the bad thing to us. I used a cheap eye liners and now I have cyst in my eyes. It doesn't worth to use it. We couldn't bring the money when we die so we better enjoy every moment of life.

I also would like to suggest her to Exercise as it is not only help us to lose weight but it makes us can release all the depress from work. Anyway, It is her respondsblility to make herself feels good and it is her choice to make herself looks better so you could give her some advices. Have a lovely Monday , sista.

the fact is she have to find something she can pround of...

losing weight maybe nothing if she can not have good personalities....

no need make up ... just smile .. smell nice .... good mood ....think positive everyone will want to be her friends

my big friend married to a very handsome and rich farrang.... they always happy together ... she make him laugh alots also good cook

I understand the feeling that she won't do anything til she lost some weight..

I skipped my class for 2 weeks after I came back from abroad trip with 10kg extra... I told myself I won't go to Uni like this so I spent 2 week on scary diet, pill and ****.. It's not healthy to take diet pills tho those you got from hospital/clinic, it f**ked my brain... its scary, isnt it? that it can stop us from feeling hungry... but I needed to lose weight within 2 weeks so I did it.

Nowadays, if anyone say that Im fat, I just smile and tell them that "yeah, I'm going to join Tida Chang contest" and so they will stop talking about my body.. lol

Change something like hairstyle, make-up, dress will do... start doing it now if she really feel bad about herself but need a bit investment..

Yes big woman can be beautiful in and outside.....dont worried. You born to be beauty:-) I think medicine too dangerous ..yesterday I saw news report about on woman died because of regain her wieght by taking medicine. To lose weight is easily by reduce the meal and exercise:-) See! monk can survive wih only one meal a day...and They all seem healthy aan smaller:-) Cheer you up!

Nothing much to say now, I know that you are beautiful Bcool..in the way you are which is not so much people can reach that point: self -respect, but not arrogant.

You are cool!

Posted by Neo [ 29 June 2009 | 11:10AM ]

Yes, big women can be beautiful.

And a girl can always make the best of what she has, instead of giving up because she isn't perfect :-)

>> Agree kha p'Neo... I'm trying to convince my friend that way... just no time like present...

Posted by petey [ 29 June 2009 | 11:11AM ]

Neung, you already know the answer to that. You gave the answer at least 3 times in your journal. :-)

>> haha really? let me count... "

Be who you are and enjoy your life.

>> I was regret about myself before, believe me!! From my look when I was young people around me think that I was fat and idiot... except my dad n' mom who believe in me, and now I prove it.

I hope your friend finds a way to do that.

>> I hope she will do soon.

Posted by pandorea [ 29 June 2009 | 11:13AM ]

Yes, you're right big women can be beautiful. How old is your friend, if I may ask? Because she doesn't sound grow up to me (sorry na kha). It isn't always about how you look, it's about personallity also. I believe many men will agree on this.

>> She is your age kha p'Nicky. Actually, she was good before, she is very good working woman, but after she fell in love (one side love) with someone (that I told her he was GAY) she was changed.

I told her just don't change herself cuz of that some men, just do it for herself...

Posted by eagle [ 29 June 2009 | 11:26AM ]

Sure big can be beautiful. Dress to complement your shape and have good attitude. With a nice smile and attitude men will come !

>> Nice smile?? hmmm it might be true kha, I have nothing to prove now... but when I start "Think Plus" project I got some

Posted by SweetieBabie [ 29 June 2009 | 11:34AM ]

Get counseling. Then get stomach staple op.

>> stomach staple?? à»ç¹§ÑÂ

Posted by Geee [ 29 June 2009 | 11:50AM ]

just look at Gettie, she is the most beautifull non slim girl I have ever seen.

>> Sarcastic?? If that just go away laei

Posted by bigKus [ 29 June 2009 | 12:01PM ]

Most annoying of (some) women is they want to improve their looks / personalities but they never want to put any effort to it.

>> Hrrrrrr... don't know what to do, she said she needed help but doesn't let me help... I like to be cheap chick but not every time na.

Posted by Puriku [ 29 June 2009 | 12:06PM ]

You are right ,sis. Hmm I use to be too stingy to make myself look better. But I think sometime we have to invest for making ourself feel good and look good. Cheap stuffs can be low quality and brings the bad thing to us. I used a cheap eye liners and now I have cyst in my eyes. It doesn't worth to use it. We couldn't bring the money when we die so we better enjoy every moment of life.

>> ohh i had problem with the cheap eye liner before ja... i bought 50 baht from local market... I had cyst and my eye was red... grrrrrrr since that I bought reasonable and good quality one... no more cheap eye liner jing jing.

I also would like to suggest her to Exercise as it is not only help us to lose weight but it makes us can release all the depress from work. Anyway, It is her respondsblility to make herself feels good and it is her choice to make herself looks better so you could give her some advices. Have a lovely Monday , sista.

>> She and I do exercise 2 a week at least ja.. for her, she wanna reduce her weight... for me I just wanna enjoy to do it...and get fit. cuz I don't wanna feel stress when I do exercise, thinking about losing weight I feel depress.

Posted by faycyber [ 29 June 2009 | 12:35PM ]

the fact is she have to find something she can pround of...losing weight maybe nothing if she can not have good personalities....

>> That's true.

no need make up ... just smile .. smell nice .... good mood ....think positive everyone will want to be her friends

>> Someone need ja, such as myself, I don't believe in natural beauty.

my big friend married to a very handsome and rich farrang.... they always happy together ... she make him laugh alots also good cook

>> She is so lucky na.

Posted by babyoiy [ 29 June 2009 | 12:39PM ]

I skipped my class for 2 weeks after I came back from abroad trip with 10kg extra... I told myself I won't go to Uni like this so I spent 2 week on scary diet, pill and ****.. It's not healthy to take diet pills tho those you got from hospital/clinic, it f**ked my brain... its scary, isnt it? that it can stop us from feeling hungry... but I needed to lose weight within 2 weeks so I did it.

>> If short time it's ok, and it's so easy to lose first 5 kg. in one time, and then another 5 kg. in one time... I did it before, by taking some pills, Xenical and reductil worked so well with that, but you have to take some fiber capsule and some vitamin. It's hard after that... yeah it f**ked my braing... made my emotion up and down...as I said I always puke after meal... and puke when I smell some bakery. Horrible. no more pills.

Nowadays, if anyone say that Im fat, I just smile and tell them that "yeah, I'm going to join Tida Chang contest" and so they will stop talking about my body.. lol

>> hehe at least we can make some money if we got to be Tida Chang... My gay friends always said I was "FAT and Ugly" when I was in uni. I just said ok. but now my attitude changed... I said I love the way I look "ÊÇÂàÅ×áä´é" "äÃèÊǵ١éèÃàÅ×á" ÃÕÃÃäÃÃÑéÂ.

Change something like hairstyle, make-up, dress will do... start doing it now if she really feel bad about herself but need a bit investment..

>> yeah... it's investment. For career, and for our mind.

Posted by Wanika187 [ 29 June 2009 | 12:57PM ]

Yes big woman can be beautiful in and outside.....dont worried. You born to be beauty:-) I think medicine too dangerous ..yesterday I saw news report about on woman died because of regain her wieght by taking medicine. To lose weight is easily by reduce the meal and exercise:-) See! monk can survive wih only one meal a day...and They all seem healthy aan smaller:-) Cheer you up!

>> I can't skip meal, I need some energy Breakfast makes me have creativity idea in the morning, lunch keep me alive, dinner hmmm make me don't feel hungry in the middle of the night.

Posted by Exploring [ 29 June 2009 | 1:03PM ]

Nothing much to say now, I know that you are beautiful Bcool..in the way you are which is not so much people can reach that point: self -respect, but not arrogant.

You are cool!

>> Thks kha... actually, I'm not that beautiful, i'm cute à¢Ô¹ÃèÃ

Stomach Stapling is an operation to make the stomach smaller with adjustable gastric banding. With a smaller stomach, you will feel full a lot quicker than you are used to, therefore you eat less then you lose weight.

But it is suggested to life threatening obesity and possible suicidal patient. Your friend sounds quie unhappy thats why i mentioned counseling.

Big or small, we are all creatures of God no ?

I think she just wants to be thin then guys will pay (more) attention on her.

People can say good thing about being fat and stuff but hey, you people.. ask yourselves again if you ever want fat chicks as your girlfriends or wives? I know it's not about beauty outside but you can't say no that it's the first impression.

Posted by SweetieBabie [ 29 June 2009 | 1:56PM ]

Stomach Stapling is an operation to make the stomach smaller with adjustable gastric banding. With a smaller stomach, you will feel full a lot quicker than you are used to, therefore you eat less then you lose weight.

But it is suggested to life threatening obesity and possible suicidal patient. Your friend sounds quie unhappy thats why i mentioned counseling.

>> Ahh ok...My doctor told me about it then (in Thai) I just scared, I don't need any operation, so scary.

Posted by dundee_thailand [ 29 June 2009 | 2:02PM ]

Big or small, we are all creatures of God no ?

>> May be, I don't believe in God but I believe in metabolism. hehe.

Posted by cool_A [ 29 June 2009 | 2:24PM ]

I think she just wants to be thin then guys will pay (more) attention on her.

>> I won't say she wanna be "Thin" it doesn't sound healthy to me... reduce weight as BMI said might be a good word.

People can say good thing about being fat and stuff but hey, you people.. ask yourselves again if you ever want fat chicks as your girlfriends or wives?

>> Ahh someone might say it cuz they wanna make me feel good.. but hey someone really think that way.

OK about having FAT CHICK to be wives and GF. I really don't know about the guys, but for me I'm alright with that. I can't live with the super good looking guys / girls who are the jerks or son of *******.

Then ask yourself, it you have good looking BF/husband, will you leave him if he is changed when he get old, and has big belly??

I know it's not about beauty outside but you can't say no that it's the first impression.

>> I know inner beauty sounds stupid to someone like you, but at least it will be live longer, beautiful women, handsome men, when time pass by they will go old and take their beauty away, what's remain?? From the pic that I saw in your profile? you seems beautiful and young girl na. Hope you can save it till the end of your live.

SweetieBabie:"Stomach Stapling " wanted to have that before but I was thinking it would stop me eating but i know now I just want to eat even I feel full .... so sad JING JING JA...I dont know what to do now...want a perfect body like yours

bCool:I dont believe in natural beauty too I need that too but not too much ...

bigKus: "Most annoying of (some) women is they want to improve their looks / personalities but they never want to put any effort to it."

.... yes, very true!