I can't believe my dad doing this to me again. I thought he changed but I guess people won't change Honestly, it is not that I don't want to help my step mom & my dad, It just i'm stuck with my fiancee visa. I have to ensure my record is clean from any loan. My parents don't understand. Instead, they manipulate me, making me feel guilty & mentioning what they have done for me this 10 months. All this years, my parenst neglected me. They even took advantage of my bf (Now ex) . What kind of parents asking my bf money without my knowledge? I only know after he give them. I was unlucky because my bf actually hot tempered and everytime he is moody, he will mention my parents debt and he beat/hit me every single week. Why I didn't runaway? It's because I feel that I owe him When I was living in Kuala Lumpur, I received a lawyer letter. They wanted to sue me for not paying telephone bills. I was like "Huh? Since when i apply telephone line?" I called my sister and asked her to check for me. When I was young, my step mom make 1 copy of my Identity Card....in case if the original is lost. I guess they used that copy to apply the telephone line & fake my signature. I was really mad.....because i don't like to be sue for something I never done. I have to pay the bills and I lost all my savings After 3-4 years, I managed to end my relationship with him because I no longer owe him. I found amazing guy and we want to get marry. After 5 years living on my own, I thought of spending some quality time with my family since I'll get marry next year (And I already forgive my dad). Unfortunately, after 10 months living with them, my dad forcing me to take car loan. He knew my visa is still under processing and yet he making me feel like i'm a bad daughter. Why are they being so selfish? Why is it so hard for me to find my own happiness? Why they always ruin my happiness? Why i'm so unlucky to have this type of parents??????/ What's my fault? 

Sorry to hear that.

Learn from it, pick up, and move on.

deal with the problems...

if you let it go... it gonna go in cycle... again and again...

head up and move on

I remember during the Vietnam war era, I saw alot of women treated as just pieces of property by their parents....very sad. It sounds unfortunate that your father is still living in that era.....very sad to hear about. It's hard but you have to completely cut your family from your life, or you won't have a life to live.

one thing: it's not your fault! you have your own unique personality, and it can be very different from your parents personality, I think the best way is to accept that you and your parents are different, and focus on your future life with your husband!

Set Johnny on him.

Funky_house : Wow, you still remember Johnny. Johnny no longer with me. He's with my ex.

I learnt a long time ago when it comes to family not to expect too much. I learnt form my mistakes and deal with my family the same way, from a distance. If your family has let you down before for more than likely they will do it again.

I will always love my family but I know not to put myself in a position where they could let me down. I see them on my terms and my terms only. You need to be strong and remember that family are not always a help and can mess your life up.

It's ok to forgive just remember not to forget!