11.01.10 at 09.01 AM Iâ€™m at the NZ consulate and Iâ€™m a first applicant. The receptionist look through my applications and:
Receptionist: you have to wait 6 weeks for your visa approval.
Me: why is taking so long?
Receptionist: 1 you are never travel oversea before
Me: Iâ€™ve been to Abu Dhabi before as a business trip.
Receptionist: thatâ€™s doesnâ€™t count, and the 2 you apply for visitor visa while your invitation letter say you both in serious relationship as a boyfriend, girl friend, right?
Me: Yes, and?
Receptionist: why donâ€™t you do sponsorship visa is easier to get approved.
Me: I donâ€™t need sponsor, I want a visitor visa and I have copies of bank statements and other docs.
Receptionist: do you talk to each other by phone often?
Me: Yes, and mostly by email exchange.
Receptionist: do you have picture taken together to show us?
Me: Yes, I have, but No, I wonâ€™t show you, because itâ€™s inappropriate. Its personal pic-tures..
(She looks at me while Iâ€™m saying â€œpersonal picâ€ but I turn my face away to avoid eyes contact.)
Me: is it possible that I can get visa approved sooner.
Receptionist: it depends on how soon your boyfriend can provides us his information. Wait until you get contact by us.
Iâ€™m abit disappointed while Iâ€™m taking bts home to get my sandals replace my high heel because it is killing me. Thinking of 6 weeks to get visa it is really frustrate me I have planned to see ADCD concert in Auckland on Feb 04, 2010 and I will miss even Valentines Day.
10.15 AM. At work Iâ€™m abit despond and thought, maybe mom doesnâ€™t want me to go thatâ€™s why itâ€™s so difficult. Iâ€™m talking with dad & mom the night before I handed visa application.
Me: Dad, Iâ€™m thinking maybe I take a trip oversea.
Me: I go to a man
Dad: Oh No, you donâ€™t want to go, daughter. Why he is not come to you?
Me: He came here already last year.
Dad: Ok, ok, your mom is here waiting to talk to you.
Mom: what is it, daughter?
Me: Mom, I will go to oversea to meet a man.
Mom: No, you donâ€™t go anywhere, honey. U know a girl in our village went to her bfâ€™s country and when sheâ€™s there, her bf bring not only his members family but also the whole town guys to sex her. When she come back she told me she almost dead . some even do anal sex and lick this & that. What an orgy animal!!!
Me: Mom, he is a nice guy.
Mom: I donâ€™t care he is nice or not, but if he love you he must come to meet you hear.
Me: what if I married and live in oversea?
Mom: that is another case. You can get any man here and marry any man in Thailand.
Me: Mom, I donâ€™t need ANY man.
Mom: you love him that much? And it makes you want to go to see him?
Me. Yes, mom.
Mom: No, I not let you go, but if you go I will hold my breath to dead.
Me. Ok, ok, mom Iâ€™ll not go any where, and Iâ€™ll be here in Thailand.
Mom: No, I donâ€™t believe you, you are lying. Dad, dad come, come talk to your daughter, she is not listen to me. Sheâ€™ll come to a man in oversea.
Dad: Listen to your mom, daughter, donâ€™t go or she will die.
Me: Dad, I said Iâ€™m not going anywhere, I didnâ€™t say I will go at all.
I almost snap my mom back as â€œ when I was young you marooned me and now you try to cage me like Iâ€™m an animal but I will not let you do thatâ€ it would make mom cry for two weeks and more over she would be more hurt to know I remember my childhood. At first I thought I would tell her the truth when Iâ€™m back from NZ but Iâ€™ll tell her I didnâ€™t go any where and told her he is the one who come to see me here. It is my solution to protect my man to be resented by mom, incase they met because Iâ€™m afraid my mom would thought â€œthis is a man who make my daughter come to himâ€ she probably fine but inside she would be abit like a hen protecting her chicks.
Everything seems hard for meâ€¦. and Iâ€™m exhausted â€¦.
Anyone used to go to NZ? And have you wait that long to get visa approved?