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 Here is the situation:
 

A girlfriend said to her bf’s close friend, I got a flu (as an excuse of not so being active and tiresome looking during holiday) which is true in her sense since she have got fever.
 

A boyfriend of several months said, "Don’t believe in her, she says what you what to hear”( he said to his close friend)
 

This conversation happened among tree people, bf, gf, and his bf’s close friend of 7 years at the first time that the gf met his close friend.
 

 
 

It is a simple situation that happens all the time when friends get together, but I want to hear your opinions, if you ever experience this situation  as a woman, or please share, if you are a guy and did that . Do you think there are anything wrong at all in this conversation and please share your interpretation?Thank you!

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 Here is the situation:
 

A girlfriend said to her bf’s close friend, I got a flu (as an excuse of not so being active and tiresome looking during holiday) which is true in her sense since she have got fever.
 

A boyfriend of several months said, "Don’t believe in her, she says what you what to hear”( he said to his close friend)
 

This conversation happened among tree people, bf, gf, and his bf’s close friend of 7 years at the first time that the gf met his close friend.
 

 
 

It is a simple situation that happens all the time when friends get together, but I want to hear your opinions, if you ever experience this situation  as a woman, or please share, if you are a guy and did that . Do you think there are anything wrong at all in this conversation and please share your interpretation?Thank you!

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Her boyfriend is belittling her, and making her look bad in front of his friend. The relationship won't last if he keeps costing her to loose "face". From his response it sounds like she does her best so he won't loose "face", and I doubt if he is even aware of it. That's just my feeling.

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You say that what she said is true "in her sense" because she had a fever. A fever and the flu are two different things so what she was saying was not true. She did not have the flu. That's like telling someone I broke my leg which is true in my sense because I bumped it on my coffee table and have a bruise.

But, in general, I think the bf/gf have bigger issues. It's likely that he's venting his frustration to his friend in front of her on purpose so she'll loose face. It's a very common farang sort of response. If you embarrass someone they'll think twice before they do it again. I'm not saying it's right. It's just that it's very common.

It also indicates deeper problems in their relationship that he would treat her do disrespectfully in front of his friend. He obviously is angry about her behavior and it's likely something that has been bugging him for a long time.

You've just given us a small snippet of their relationship. It's hard to understand his behavior without knowing many other things about their relationship. And we've just heard your version of her version.

Most of the time things are far more complex than that.

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Thank you everyone. I picked up some points whether there are belitling,being not serious in taking so,her poor english communication about flu and fever, about him having some displeasures which results in treating her disrespecfully.All are something to think about.

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