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lekjingjing

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I met my bf here , and now the relationship has grown up for 3 years...Smile

it is 1year that we were just friend, and 2years for in relation.

since we committed to be a couple, we have met only 2 times, one in Thailand and another in his country.Cool

we do not talk everyday, we talk and see each other only when he is online at his work,

so if weekend, or at home, no communication at all. Yell

I trust my bf, all what he said to me, but sometimes i scared about the relationship .. it is so unstable , because i think too much and be so much lonely.  Eventhough he always tells me his love never changes, only no time to do in what i ask for....

how about your case???

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I met my bf here , and now the relationship has grown up for 3 years...Smile

it is 1year that we were just friend, and 2years for in relation.

since we committed to be a couple, we have met only 2 times, one in Thailand and another in his country.Cool

we do not talk everyday, we talk and see each other only when he is online at his work,

so if weekend, or at home, no communication at all. Yell

I trust my bf, all what he said to me, but sometimes i scared about the relationship .. it is so unstable , because i think too much and be so much lonely.  Eventhough he always tells me his love never changes, only no time to do in what i ask for....

how about your case???

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Well dear... I have mostly passed through distance relationship with my bfs..well most of them are not Thai.... And today I told myself to keep away from that cos I am quite fed up and feel uncertain with that...

However it depend on you. What I can say is we dont know tomorrow. Nothing is certain in this world. The best thing is you shall prepare your heart and mind always that anything can happen.

I dont say for you to give up or cheer up but it is not easy to keep long distance relationship.

Anyway I wish you best of luck!

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girl,ive been with my bf for 4 and half years,we havnt have a chance to meet much coz we both quite busy sometimes,but we try to be together as much as we can...long distance relationship is hard work,all you can do is "trust" each other,i know it couldnt help to think sometimes...but be patient! :) hope its all work out for you :D

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my case is i met him on 18.04, 2009 and before that didn't count....up until now our correspondent 3 to 5 times a week by phone, and also email. once we've been known each others in complete 1 year and 7 months (calculate from the date we met) we are going to....... (you know)

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Just from my personal experiences, I have not had much luck with long-distance relationships. Other people might have different experiences but that's been mine.

I think one of the hardest parts of a relationship is those moments that you can only experience when you're around each other a lot. How is that person when they are bored, cranky, tired, etc? If you only see each other once a year it's easy to be upbeat and in a good mood the entire time. But what if you saw that person every day for 3 years? How about those boring times sitting at home watching television?

I'm kind of with PeeMarc and Liebe on this one, if you only communicate when he's at work . . . it sounds a little strange. Especially the no talking during the weekends part. Where does this guy live that he doesn't have an internet connection at home? Are there no internet cafes in his town so he can chat with you on the weekends?

Hmmmm . . . .

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me neither, although I tried my best to keep the love alive. I phoned her at least every two days (after her office hours) but it did not work out well. I found her a perfect business opportunity over here. She would have had very good career option in her job over here. I tried to show her my sincerity and the only butterflies I had were the ones in my belly dancing around, because it made me feel good.

All she had to do, was to follow my invitation and to see where and how I live. Just some sort of assuring her that she would get all the support in a real good surrounding. A place that would make her feel cosy - her home, too.

And then I got fu**ed up again. Her office colleague wasnt fivethousand miles away like I was - only five metres. So he had the better cards.

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Seems me strange no internet at home.. When 2 people loves each other, it is so nice to connect for hours on Skype or MSN with video conference. Internet is now afordable nearly everywhere in western countries, and VOIP phone providers as Voipbuster pro allow 300 minutes/week "free minutes" internet voip phone calls to thailand landlines for just 15 euro a year (this has to be payed extra) ! For Thai mobiles, Voipbuster pro cost only 0,5 eurocent /min: so for 1 euro you can talk 200 minutes on your thai gf mobile !

see http://www.voipbusterpro.com/en/calling-rates.html

Connecting only in office is really frustrating, and dangerous to keep your job... Sorry to say so, but this sounds really as double life with "wife" at home, or at least too much money sparing character wich is really hard for everydaylife: minimum investment for international videoconference and phone calls seems necessary when a relationship is growing into stable times.

When you did visit his country, there was no phone landline in his home?

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Absentee 26 October 2010 12:20PM

Long distance relationship seems lonely but not all bad. Weekly argument and fall out is not fun! <<<<

only weekly !!!! glad to see things r improving !!!! :-)

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Hmmmmmm....sound strange! talk only at work..I had the distance relationship for 4 years and It's fading away now.:-) Important is your heart I think. If you away but you feel love and passion still when you come back to meet...Its good though. cheer you up:-) But time changed people changed:-) Hope you both good:-)

Kj

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Thx for all comments,

first year of the inRelation, it seemed ok, we used to talk almost everyday, both his office and home, (he owns his business---he decided to found his company since we talked about future together) ... but life is not easy, he always tells me that he works very extremely hard , too hard to have even his private time for food or sleep properly...that what he tells me all the time, and I trust him. Because I love him very much and I know he is honest to me. ... Although there are sometimes i feel Am I a fool? , it is not easy to keep patient or understand him in everything, ... I try to think positive, and be very patient as much as I can.

- We never call on phone. He said it is vey expensive. Even I call to him, it is too expensive to answer the call in his country,...this sounds very strange for me.... and even I try to send him the website for cheap call, he does not want to use it... I do not know why, maybe he wants his private time, and he thinks only talk at office is enough... T_T

-Because of love , so I trust and keep being patient... I only want to share and exchange others' experiences about their distance love...

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I had a long distance relationship with an Australian woman when I was living in California. We met on a boat trip in Australia. I actually went over and lived with her for a while, but kept heading back to my homeland for a couple of months at a time (my "escape route" she called it). But once I went back to California and stayed too long, and the phone calls became less and less frequent. Eventually the relationship died a natural death.

I think long distance relationships add another layer of difficulty on things, so you had better have a really strong bond between you. My advice to women in these situations is always the same - talk is cheap - look at what he does not what he says.

Good luck!

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Due to my experience, there is always a big difference between "trhew internet" relationship and everyday relationship... This is why internet should be, folowing my advice of course, as close as possible to real meeting: frequent video-conference is ideal for that. I met my wife 3 years ago, and we become friends on internet. I did travel total 5 times in 2 years to visit her country (China) and friendship grow (we did stay together total 80 days)... I also do other travels in thailand, france, england, martinique (hiking one week), swisterland (mountain climbing), marocco 10 days (hiking in Atlas). After 2 years, we both realize we never feel so good that when we are together: we did discover love is there! We decided to try common life. Tooks few months to ask visa. After one year, love has grow very strong and we see our choice seems the good choice!........... But everyday life together forced us to manage characters and culture differences: the 5 short 2 weeks holidays together did not show us the problems we had to manage within this year. Anyway, this is ok and love grows, hehe... Never think long distance only talks can assure you a real happy life: you will have to learn "nearly from zero" to discover the other one!

What concern telephone: voipbuster calls, as i told you, are really cheap to give from anywhere in the world into thailand people. the cost should not be a problem! (15 euro = 1 year of 300 minutes/week to thai landline, and 0,005 euro/minute to thai mobile - this cost less money than the contraceptive pill !)

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