This is really heart-breaking (well, sort of) to talk about. A housemate who is leaving for good for her home country, whom I have always treated as a friend and looked after her interest, actually stole my hairbrush a few days before she is due to leave! Today, when she is leaving the place, I unexpectedly walked past her door and saw her combing her hair. It was with the identical hair brush which I have lost a few days ago and been searching high and low for it since! The same one, exactly the same and also with the identical Bodyshop logo! My favourite hairbrush...

I was shocked and asked her, "Did you find this somewhere?"

She said, without looking at me, after pausing for a while, "It is in my drawer all the time."

I: "Does that mean you find it somewhere?"

She: "No, I bring it from my home."

All said without looking at me in the eye (which was so unlike her).

I returned to my room, then went to her room again.

I: "Did you find it somewhere cos I have one exactly like this."

She: "No, it is my brush and I have it for 5 years already."

I gave up, kept quiet and left. But I stll saw her to the airport. To think that before leaving, I gave her a farewell present and said to keep in touch. And many times when I cooked, I always asked her if she wanted to eat (sometimes she did). And etc. I am rather disillusioned about human nature and female to female relationship. I think maybe she has a bad habit to steal small things because of something she is feeling unhappy about inside of her. We gals share a common bathroom and the brush went missing after I accidentally left it in the bathroom after a bath. My sis said to me today, "If she really wants it, let her have it la. People use before already, she still wants it. Maybe Bodyshop is very expensive in her country." She's from Farangland and a farang - I really don't think she can't afford a Bodyshop hairbrush. It is more of the interpersonal hurt I felt about caring so much for a person I think of as a friend who in the end turns out to be a betraying, dishonest fake friend. Why? Why are people like that? Are there no more true friendships between the same sex anymore?

Well please don't feel bad with your housemate. She's only a person you met but it doesn't mean you can't find a good and true friendship between the same sex from others. Never give up hope my friend. However, I understand you will always suspect other women until time will prove their habit. Let keep this story as your experience to learn people who has a weak point.

Let read from my signature here and I do hope it can encourage you in someways ^^ "If you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was."

someone would keep a hairbrush for 5 years???? And no. Bodyshop not particularly expensive here in UK. Sneaky thing to do...

I have true relationship with my best friend for more than 15 years.

Yuk!! Using someone else's hairbrush.

I haven't used a comb or brush in years. :-)

yes you must watch out for women will do one thing and say another...I should have warned you sooner! maybe your gift should have been a hairbrush across her bottom...

(@ Iain I have had a hairbrush for more than ten years... you can clean them...just a suggestion LOL)

wel people can be disappointing ...good that you were pleasent to the end...maybe she will explain some day............

she may have wanted it to remember you by. Did you give or plan to give her a gift before she left? I n some way people will take things of other people to remember the experiences they had with them. No its not right but it may be the only way they can just cope with the separation. Bobby pins, hair pins, berets, toe ring and maybe even a candy wrapper. Just thought i would throw that out there.

yes you must watch out for women will do one thing and say another...I should have warned you sooner! maybe your gift should have been a hairbrush across her bottom...

(@ Iain I have had a hairbrush for more than ten years... you can clean them...just a suggestion LOL)

wel people can be disappointing ...good that you were pleasent to the end...maybe she will explain some day............

I am shocked!!!!

You still have enough hair for a brush????

Just a suggestion Danno; some of us buy a new one every year...:twisted:

I am shocked!!!!

You still have enough hair for a brush????

Just a suggestion Danno; some of us buy a new one every year...:twisted:

A new one every year...novel idea!! you are sooooo trendy!

Iain I still have more hair on my (ahem) bottom than you do on you head by the looks of it! LOL

It's sad to read that someone is ruining a trustful kind of friendship because of a f*cking hairbrush!

she may have wanted it to remember you by. Did you give or plan to give her a gift before she left? I n some way people will take things of other people to remember the experiences they had with them. No its not right but it may be the only way they can just cope with the separation. Bobby pins, hair pins, berets, toe ring and maybe even a candy wrapper. Just thought i would throw that out there.

(read the post carefully) "I gave up, kept quiet and left. But I stll saw her to the airport. To think that before leaving, I gave her a farewell present and said to keep in touch."

somebody stole my hairbrush 15 years ago and i was so devestated i still haven't been able to replace it !!!!

You did the right thing, just let it pass. Someday she will regret her actions.

yes you must watch out for women will do one thing and say another...I should have warned you sooner! maybe your gift should have been a hairbrush across her bottom...

wel people can be disappointing ...good that you were pleasent to the end...maybe she will explain some day............

Sigh... Thanks Dan... I hope so she will... Actually she has told lies to us a few times before about her studies so I did suspect that she seems to have an issue about somewhere. But never thought she would do this after all my best attempts to be sincere and friendly to her.

she may have wanted it to remember you by. Did you give or plan to give her a gift before she left? I n some way people will take things of other people to remember the experiences they had with them. No its not right but it may be the only way they can just cope with the separation. Bobby pins, hair pins, berets, toe ring and maybe even a candy wrapper. Just thought i would throw that out there.

The gift was given to her after the hairbrush went missing but before I discovered she stole it.

Maybe I'm too naive but I thought when I gave her the couple of chances to explain that she 'found' the hairbrush somewhere so that she could save face and return to me, she should have done so if she ever still treasured our friendship. Probably there never has been any friendship between the two of us in the first place, at least to her.

Anyhow, I still returned her hug at the airport (she hugged the 2 guys there first before she did it to me; she hugged me last and with the least expression).

someone would keep a hairbrush for 5 years???? And no. Bodyshop not particularly expensive here in UK. Sneaky thing to do...

Yes, indeed sneaky... n not admitting it too

Yuk!! Using someone else's hairbrush.

Weird right? Actually I really feel it strange that someone will covert another person's hairbrush! It's not like it's made of jade or gold!

Thanks Kaunitz and Skywarrior... Yup,I guess the loss is hers not mine. A hairbrush is easily replaceable but not a trusting friendship...

somebody stole my hairbrush 15 years ago and i was so devestated i still haven't been able to replace it !!!!

Lol, don't be sarcastic ok Anyway it's more of the broken trust than the value of the hairbrush itself!

As a parting gift, you should have gotten her an identical hairbrush.

Pack it in a box and tell her to open it when she arrives back in Farangland.

As a parting gift' date=' you should have gotten her an identical hairbrush.

Pack it in a box and tell her to open it when she arrives back in Farangland.[/quote']

ooooah...good one Rob!

ooooah...good one Rob!

And if you really hate her, pack orange peels and dog treats in a box and let the sniffer dogs at the airport go crazy.

@Rob - haha such a sweet revenge ^_~

it's her loss hazel!!!!!