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What kind of a Thai lady is she?


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I recently was told a rather sad story about a farang who went to Thailand and while it seemed to have all the usual well worn tell tale signs of the typical negative Thai lady with Farang sort of stuff.

The main differnce about this whole thing that struck me was that it seemd to have a qualitive difference.

Basically this Farang guy meets Thai woman in BKK at some nightclub/hotel and becomes very interested and friendly with this woman, but he cant decide what sort of a girl she is?

He ends up sleeping with this girl and they hang out together all the time. It all has the familar pattern of a rich farang with a girl who is with him for money? So in the eyes of many reading this she is like a "bar girl" or "freeelancer" But here is the thing, and Id love to see what Thai women and farangs think about this [it has got to be very unusual}

THEY NEVER HAVE HAD SEX [EVER!] - NEVER KISS ON THE LIPS- NO SEXUAL ACTIVITY BETWEEN THEM.

So while they sleep, eat, drink, wine, dine, together and have lots of affection for each other in all sorts of ways [they embrace and cuddle in bed] they seem like a couple in every respect except maybe just the sex thing?

Do people think this girl is like some sort of prostitute? [she receives money and presents as gifts regularly] if so why? and what about the farang? Is he a sex tourist? Like it seems he is just lonely and like the company of a nice woman [who doesnt?] So what is wrong with this situation.

Key point im told is that the guy is very sensitive to the experience in Thailand that many Farang guy have when they feel that just being with a Thai lady makes her somehow suspect?

He is in his early 30s she late 20s he is not ugly or some big ogre either, she is quite beautiful.

I never heard that kind of a story before but it mad eme wonder about all our attitudes and prejudices?

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I recently was told a rather sad story about a farang who went to Thailand and while it seemed to have all the usual well worn tell tale signs of the typical negative Thai lady with Farang sort of stuff.

The main differnce about this whole thing that struck me was that it seemd to have a qualitive difference.

Basically this Farang guy meets Thai woman in BKK at some nightclub/hotel and becomes very interested and friendly with this woman, but he cant decide what sort of a girl she is?

He ends up sleeping with this girl and they hang out together all the time. It all has the familar pattern of a rich farang with a girl who is with him for money? So in the eyes of many reading this she is like a "bar girl" or "freeelancer" But here is the thing, and Id love to see what Thai women and farangs think about this [it has got to be very unusual}

THEY NEVER HAVE HAD SEX [EVER!] - NEVER KISS ON THE LIPS- NO SEXUAL ACTIVITY BETWEEN THEM.

So while they sleep, eat, drink, wine, dine, together and have lots of affection for each other in all sorts of ways [they embrace and cuddle in bed] they seem like a couple in every respect except maybe just the sex thing?

Do people think this girl is like some sort of prostitute? [she receives money and presents as gifts regularly] if so why? and what about the farang? Is he a sex tourist? Like it seems he is just lonely and like the company of a nice woman [who doesnt?] So what is wrong with this situation.

Key point im told is that the guy is very sensitive to the experience in Thailand that many Farang guy have when they feel that just being with a Thai lady makes her somehow suspect?

He is in his early 30s she late 20s he is not ugly or some big ogre either, she is quite beautiful.

I never heard that kind of a story before but it mad eme wonder about all our attitudes and prejudices?

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Contrary to what most people may think, most people - even "sex tourists" - are looking for love (or some semblance thereof) even more than sex. I don't think this story is unusual at all.

As far as what to "call" her or him or their relationship - I don't really think it's anybody else's business....

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Not to sound cynical but I have heard stories of gals playing along, not asking for anything (money, gifts etc) and basicaly getting him infatuated. She strikes later once he is hooked. This information came to me via a friend of a gal who pulls this stunt. These girls can usually be found hanging around in Spasso or Riva's. They typically have 3-4 of these walking ATM's on the go. Again, just what I heard.

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Slurms strikes up a very valid point...Even Bunny_girl's question requires a decent answer...Sex, no sex...Relationship for money is just that...Money...regardless of the mutual lack of sex part...

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>>>Do people think this girl is like some sort of prostitute? [she receives money and presents as gifts regularly<<<

A decent girl from whatever background would refuse the regular offerings of money/gifts.The occasional present..sure thats fine.

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Thanks for the replies so far. I am none the wiser really and there have been some good points made. The main thing is that the guy has a hangup about sex in the sense of somehow by not having sex he is either showing respect for her and letting her know that he values her for who she is? As opposed to just geting something out of her?

The gifts and money issue come up in the context of the guy knowing full well that what amounts to not too much for him in terms of cash can and does mean a lot to the woman and he likes to have someone he can direct his kindness to?

It is not clear if the girl ever asks or solicits for such gifts/ money I dont think that is the case and I think she was as surprised and at first hesitant about accepting?

I dont think it is natural to not consumate such a realtionship after a certain amount of time? But at the same time my original question is what does it say about the Girl here and how would Thai women or society view such a girl?

What do YOU think?

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There is no question what kind of girl she is. She is a bargirl or whatever you want to call her. I bet if the farang wanted sex he would have got it. There can be 1000 resons why didn't want sex - a few allready meantioned.

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if two people always hang out together, there must sth between them, as for what, good friends? money?sex?love?... who knows?!just themselves can tell, hehe

stories r stories, reality is reality, for me, i just believe what i seen, especially for a relationship.

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wallace> thanks u made me smile! good points

dee> likewise

khun_lung- self confession> sorry to say that nope ur wrong! it pressuposes that I would sleep with a woman. cuddle etc etc and NEVER HAVE SEX? eh NO CHANCE! As i said above "I dont think it is natural to not consumate such a realtionship after a certain amount of time? "

more close to the truth I think is that this guys whole is a crock of.... and he just cant or wont admit that he went with a "service provider" as opposed to actually meeting a girl?

Still it does highlight the fact that one does wonder if it is possible for a Farang to actually have a Thai GF or wife? without the clouds of suspicion surrounding such a relationship.

In the west most ppl couldnt care less and mixed relationships are no big deal

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>A decent girl from whatever background would refuse the regular

>offerings of money/gifts.The occasional present..sure thats fine.

Gotta call BS on that. I don't think accepting gifts or money has anything to do with decent or not.

As for this relationship, he's paying for her company. That's their arrangement, so more power to them. Are there feelings there? Well, tell him to stop paying and tell her there's no more money, then you'll see what feelings she has for him. (Although I suspect that you'll have to infer her feelings, as she won't be around long enough to actually tell you)

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their has been the suggestion that if u take money and gifts out of the equation then the girl would no be around? Intersting maybe and maybe not.

How about this, A farang even with a "service provider" is teking her valuable time? SO That does not mean she does not grow attached to the guy or really ike him? suppose a even a bargirl goes with a guy, well we assume she has been with many? but she actually may like some more than others? may even grow genuinely attached to a guy? especially if he treats her so much better than she is used to ever being treated? Or is that a philosophical discussion for another day?

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Another possibility? The guy is some sort of a gulf war veteran and had his balls blown off? SO can do the business anymore and so has to content himself with all the other pleasures of being with a woman?

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