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  1. Good ones....Rotting leaves and really really OLD books are up there too (I love going to a main library for that reason)! Some others that I remember fondly... Jasmine Lillies My cedar humidor My gradeschool pencil box Freshly cut grass Bacon Wood burning in a fireplace Pipe smoke Rain (but there's something about New England rain that's better than any other place I've been) The first snow of the year Frankincense and Myrrh
  2. No way, that's why I moved back here. I work in IT here, and make many times my Thai salary.
  3. I grew up in a haunted house. Houses without things that go bump in the night seem boring and empty to me. It would be like someone paying me 130k to go home for the night, lol.
  4. This is a LOOOOONG thread, and I did a little skipping, so if my two cents have already been paid by someone else, then I apologize. One thing I'd like to bring up is that MOST farang who come to Thailand also LEAVE Thailand eventually too. We all want to work towards our own future, retirement, or at LEAST financial security. I worked in BKK as an English teacher for Berlitz at what is, in Thailand, considered a reasonable rate. I just about got by with this. The first year or so, before I became proficient in Thai, I was taken advantage of by Thai merchants who thing Farang are made of money. I put a stop to that as soon as I was able. Back to my point...I want to buy a house in the USA someday. Lofty dreams in a Thai's mind, and they might even say I am dreaming myself. A house considered DIRT CHEAP in the USA costs $150,000 to $170,000, and that's in areas FAR from where I come from. My ex-girlfriend bought a condo three years ago for about $300,000 in Massachusetts, and NOT even close to the city. My salary in Thailand was 20,000 to 25,000 baht. On a busy (but rare) month, I made 30,000. Now, let's take the price of the cheapest possible house I can find in the US, about 4000 km from my home. $150,000 times 40 baht to the dollar (the rough average of the past 4 years or so). That equals 6,000,000 (six MILLION) baht. Let's say that I could earn my top rate EVERY month (30k), and that I could save 50% of my salary (which was nearly impossible, as my landlord was always ripping me off with inflated phone and electricity charges). It would take me 33 years of continuous work to buy that house at TODAY's rate. Of course, the price of said house would go up 400, 500, or more percent in that amount of time, so I'd NEVER be able to afford it. Now let's say I want to buy a house in Massachusetts, where I come from. If a CONDO costs 300k, then I can expect a house to go for at LEAST $400k (16 million baht). And my average salary was closer to 23k baht/mo. I haven't calculated that, but you get the point, right? To sum up...for many farang, even WITH what Thais consider to be inflated salaries, life in Thailand is life on hold. It's completely unproductive time with nothing but the experience (and don't get me wrong, the experience is something I wouldn't trade for the world) to put towards the future. Sure, I've seen some expats making extraordinary money in Thailand, especially the ones working for the oil companies. They are also employed by Western companies. But these are not the rule, they are the exception. I would just consider these people the ones who CAN save for a house in the West where the rest of us cannot. I'm back in the states now, working towards my future, because I couldn't in Thailand. I'll be back to visit as often as I can. Hopefully, sometime in the future, I'll be secure enough so that I can spend long periods of time there WITHOUT a job, but I have to make that happen from here.
  5. I saw a news story about a place (I think it was somewhere in France) where you could go and pay a fee to take the weapon of your choice and destroy a junked (but otherwise whole-looking) automobiile. It looks very therapeutic. If you can't find a place like that, you could probably just use the car of the person who pissed you off.
  6. I prefer no makeup for the simple reason that there will be no unpleasant surprises waking up some morning.
  7. If I led you to believe I have written off white women, I'm sorry. I'm not racist. It's American(esque) culture that I don't care for, and I don't care to pursue anything serious with a product of that culture. Not to say I would flat out refuse an attractive American woman. I just wouldn't consider getting too serious. And don't disrespect me by saying I'm looking for something "subservient." Never, in anything I wrote, did I imply that. You can think I'm an a**hole all you want, and I don't give a flying ****, but don't make **** up and slander me with it. Ok?
  8. :shock: wow. boston you're really laying on the charm. i'm sure there are dozens of women reading this saying "wow. that's what i want. a guy who's annoyed with me before we even meet, just coz i'm female." I am talking about females because this is in the context of romantic relationships. There are very few people, female or not, who would not annoy me given enough time with them. Again, not to say there cannot be a constructive relationship. There just has to be acceptance on both sides. And besides, since when was chatting on a forum about laying on charm? Is it not more about speaking one's mind? Unlike some, perhaps, this isn't where I come to "get some." My purpose here is to exchange ideas, not charm the pants off women. If there are any women here who don't have a problem with me speaking my mind, then I'm sure I'll hear from them. If not, all the better that I didn't try to be someone I'm not. Having to defend my views here has probably made me come off as very negative. I'm actually quite positive and pleasant to be around, and I don't go spouting every view that I have that can be taken as negative.
  9. I know precious few men who, having been with their women for a long time, do not find them highly annoying in at least a few ways. So what does what I have to say reveal about me? While I aspire to have the patience of these precious few, I have yet achieved this, and doubt I ever will. This is not to say that you cannot love someone who annoys you. If I couldn't, then i'd be a very lonely man, which I am not. Like I said, you need to find mutual acceptance as well as positive things in common. I doubt anyone (with the exception of one young TF girl) would argue with that.
  10. Well said. I don't have a race preference either. I make my judgements based on the individual attractiveness and personality. I make culture a starting point for looking, but I certainly wouldn't refuse to date a really nice American woman.
  11. Fake? I know a couple of kratoeys that might take exception to that remark. Beauty is beauty. I just have a hangup about being attracted to another man. I won't allow that to happen. Not to mention that my door is exit-only, if you know what I mean...
  12. Had my first when I was 17. Went 2 years exactly after that before I got my next nookie.
  13. Then I wouldn't expect anything more from you than I would expect from an American. Thankfully, I've met only patient women from Thailand. Personally, there isn't a woman on the face of the Earth that I don't find annoying. Unfortunately the things I find annoying are things that go along with being female, not with being Thai, American, etc. However, the happiness comes when I find one with whom I can have a mutual acceptance of annoying things.
  14. First of all, I'm not bitter at all. I find the culture disagreeable, and choose not to participate. Nothing more, nothing less. I don't drink Budweiser either, but would you say I'm bitter about American beer? As far as the numbers, what would make you think that the unregistered marriages in Thailand would end with a different frequency than the registered ones? Perhaps to you they mean less, but to Thais they don't. They both have the same significance and obligation in the eyes of Thais, and many of them actually resent the government trying to control what they see as part of their private life and culture. And lastly, most Thais I've talked to on the subject find the aspects that we've discussed about Western culture distasteful. Sure, they'd be happy with a bit more independence and having their own say, but not to the extreme that it exists in the West. I treat every woman I'm with as an equal, and that's enough for a Thai. Hoever, Thais don't confuse equality with sameness, a trait I find extremely attractive.
  15. Mai ta-lok. Kit-wa narak mak mak leuy
  16. Are you talking about me? If so, I wouldn't say I lost my faith in women. Quite the contrary, I think. I gained a better understanding, an understanding our cultures tend to deny us. I think if you can be more relaxed, you can focus on the things that are REALLY important. You really need to question everything you were ever taught. Don't blindly accept that things are right or wrong. Ask yourself WHY, and make sure you get answers. Not to say that you will stop believing in things, although there are some things that you may. But this will also help you reaffirm what you KNOW is right.
  17. We have a saying in America, "Better to be judged by twelve than carried by six." Gig, number 3 is right out. If any Thais see you hurting a soi dog, you're in deep ****. The collars don't mean the dogs have owners, per se. But Thais know that any dog without a collar will be picked up and "taken to the farm" as it were. They aren't prepared to let that happen to any neighborhood dogs, so they throw collars on them. I'm like George of the frikkin jungle, so I've never had any animal agress on me. I'm inclined to say #1, because I make friends with all the soi dogs that way (although they don't actually threaten me). But #2 sounds like a viable option. The only thing I'm concerned about is the dogs getting so pissed off that they ignore the effects of the pepper spray and REALLY come at you.
  18. last i heard asian women are quite capable of divorce also. Yeah, but again, look at the numbers.
  19. It's not just Boston. I'm living in Denver now. The women here are friendlier than Boston, but nothing like Thais. Those are the ones I would say appreciate the aesthetics of Asians. Did I get caught using a euphemism? Oops! :oops: As insulted as I'm inclined to be by that statement, I can only find myself agreeing.
  20. funny that's not what i hear generally. if you date a jp woman like that she's probably the exception, everything i'm hearing (and this is from japanese women friends) is that the majority of japanese women are materialistic and self absorbed, more concerned that their husband devote their paycheck to a new prada bag for them than anything else... in short that assertion, to me, reeks of stereotype and i dont really smell much reality to it... Stereotypes aren't as bad as they're cracked up to be. Are they fair to individuals? Absolutely not. But who ever said life was fair? You can look into any group of people and find a good match for yourself. But do you REALLY want bad odds? I don't. You really can think of it as a numbers game, and if you look into a culture that has more of the things you value than another culture, your odds of finding someone are much better, and it will probably happen more quickly.
  21. I agree there are many awesome Western women out there. Problem is, you can't really tell that they AREN'T awesome until the day they hit you up for the divorce.
  22. I agree with you about everyone being an individual, but culture comes into play as well. As wrong as we're taught it is to judge someone by his culture, the influence cannot be denied. Western women are brought up in, what I consider to be, an extremist culture of independence. They are taught to be self-reliant and independent as ALL costs. They are VERY unwilling (in general) to put up with the annoying little things about men. They want to make the statement "We don't NEED you. If we WANT you, we'll call you," and they do it quite well. I don't blame the women, per se. I blame this culture. Men WANT to be needed. I want to feel like there is a reason I'm there other than the whim of a woman. Thai women are still being brought up in a culture of "Love your man, do everything you can for him and to make the relationship work." THAT'S what Western women aren't getting. And I would venture to say the 90% of men who still dig Farang women have by-and-large NOT travelled too much, and certainly haven't been to Thailand. Then, in America at least, there's the overconsumption part of our culture that affects MOST of us, not just the women. I've been back in the states for about 5 months now, and I haven't met a SINGLE (that's 1, not as-opposed-to-married, lol) woman who's piqued my interest even remotely. There just aren't any that I find attractive. I am of the opinion that ALL Western men, Americans in particular, should spend a few months travelling the world just to see how the other half lives. It might be a humbling experience for everyone.
  23. ok, ok... ...and until someone is convicted we don't 'send him to the electric chair, gas chamber, give him lethal injection or throw him in with some heavy convicts.' In civilised countries we don't do any of the above in any case. I think it's more barbaric to let a person like that continue to exist than anything we could possibly to do him, and that includes things a lot worse than the methods of execution listed. I think it's uncivilized to the victim to allow people like him to live. Given the option, a peaceful injection is about the most civilized thing anyone could do, for the mad animal who did the crime, the victim, and society. Any other option is completely UNcivilized.
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