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Good evening everyone. I would like to ask some advice. I have recently been living in Khon Kaen, and been hanging out with a friend from home. My friend is somewhat of an expert on Thailand and has been guiding me through all the potential taboos and social faux pas that one might perpetrate. Anyway, being with my friend has given me the opportunity to meet some very nice Thai people here in Khon Kaen. Experiences with one of these people has prompted me to write this journal. I have recently become familiar with a Thai woman. I have spent a few weeks getting to know her. She is everything I look for In a woman. She is beautiful, the same age as me, has a university education, runs her own, successful business and is open minded and understanding. She has a lovely group of friends, an adorable family and for me to pay for anything requires some considerable effort on my part. Bearing in mind the importance of status and wealth in Thai culture, and fully aware of the concept of 'face' I explained to my friend that I am a Romany Gypsy, and that to many people I am the dregs of English society. She didn't seem to care. On the contrary, she seemed to be fascinated by something, up until that time, she new nothing about. So it appears that I have met the woman of my dreams, but one small issue is giving me considerable brain ache. She has only ever had one boyfriend (at university) and never had sex with him. After some thought, I arrived at the conclusion that she is still a virgin, and she told me that we would only have sex after we are married. Actually, at times it seems that we are only friends and are destined to remain so. We are usually in the company of other people, and when we are, it means that we cannot so much as touch each other. When we are in public we can't even go as far as holding hands. The only conclusion I have been able to draw is that she is a very traditional girl. I have total respect for her wishes and intend to continue to respect them. Now, marriage is till a long way off, but something has crept in to my mind. Can I marry a girl I have never had sex with? To many of you this might seem like a silly question. I am fully aware that chivalry has died, except among Gypsy folk and The English Upper Middle and Upper Classes, but in my culture, couples usually end up having sex after a short time. Indeed, the outcome of such encounters usually contributes to the overall question of whether or not two people are compatible. So, I am thinking, how do I know if me and this woman are compatible until we have had sex? I would like to ask anyone with any experience of this kind of situation, or any experience at all to offer me some advice. I have trawled the forums on TF and have seen many references to bar girls and buffaloes. I can see that this is some kind of ongoing joke, but would respectfully ask that comments like this are not made. I welcome advice, however frank, brutal or concise it may be, and especially welcome comments from Thai people as I believe you are probably best qualified to comment. My thanks in advance Sherriff (Luke)
Ok Guys i am attedning a wedding at the end of the yea rin Koh Samui between a thai woman and my friend from the UK. I imagine it will be beach affair but not entirely sure. Anyway i'm a little unsure what to pack when it comes to what to wear at the wedding, I will be away for three months in total so don't want to take too much as it is. Now i know i won't be expected to wear a suit like I would here in the UK but i imagine shorts t-shirt and sandals might be a bit too casual. Does anyone have any experience/advice? My mates are in the same boat....none of us have a clue.