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To be with a person from a different culture is sometimes hard when language barriers and also knowledge and understanding of our different cultures make things more difficult. How have you experience the culture aspect negatively and positively when beeing togheter? So Q; what is the worst culture thing to accept/understand when being with a thaigirl/farang? Go to the tempel every week end? lol ok you tell me!

I thought that I finally started to figure out this conundrum but once again I am completely wrong. When I first got to Thailand I thought that the only women that approached single men at a bar were girls looking for a client. I am not interested in sex tourism, so I generally politely excused myself. After a while I realized that there are girls that are genuinely interested in talking to me and tried to make some friends. Perhaps my biggest mistake is that I meet girls at a bar... Well, I really can't say I meet them: I dance, they come up to me and start a conversation. Otherwise I continue dancing and when the music stops I go home. I've met a few female friends that way, and as friends they are awesome. The second that relationship crosses the line into the sexual territory that is when the troubles begin. Dealing with mainly American Girls I find that most of them appreciate honesty and guys that are very straight forward. So generally, I'm very open on my views on sex. I don't push the subject because that is not my main objective here, but if the conversation comes up, I like to be clear so that there is no misconception. What I tell a girl that is trying to go in that direction is: "I just got out of a 6 years relationship that went really bad toward the end. I don't feel emotionally capable of engaging in another one. If you want to have sex, it's for fun. If you can't deal with that I much rather be your friend." In other words I tend to ruin a potentially romantic moment in order to safeguard my sanity. For me, drama and confusing sexual situations are worse than not getting laid. In any case... I can't seem to avoid it anyway. I met several crazy girls. I don't know if I should go into the details of each encounter... that's up to you my reader... but each one left me more and more confused. How do I keep making this so complicated? Or maybe Thai girls are really crazy!!! I don't know, you tell me. Your soon to be monk friend. V