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_________________________________________________________________ mollycoddle - verb treat (someone) very indulgently or protectively. - noun an effeminate or ineffectual man or boy; a milksop. ORIGIN mid 19th cent.: from molly [girl or prostitute] (see moll ) + coddle . _________________________________________________________________ Same story over and over again. Example 1: One of my staff took Friday off because her brother fell off his motorbike and broke his leg. He ended up in hospital and had pins etc put in his bones. Very expensive. Now my worker has to take time off work to take care of him until he can walk (he has no insurance or money), so i need to get a freelancer in to take her place to get work done (at my expense) But talking to her today, she told me she has always taken care of her younger brother who is now 32 years old. He's never really had a permanent job, never had any money or taken responsibility for anything. He borrows money from his sister every month. He always has and she keeps giving it to him. He lost a lot of money (his sisters) doing up a car and then not able to sell it for what he invested. He has no future except more of the same. Example 2: Someone close to me has an older brother 35 years old. He has never studied or got a degree, even though he had same advantages as his sister, who holds 2 masters degrees. He has never really held a long term job. The mother has invested in him many times to start a business, and each time he just fucks up and they lose money. Now the parents (mostly his Mommy), is trying to set him up again this time as coffee shop owner. He drinks every day, hangs out with his mates and is generally lazy and good for nothing, while his Mom and sister run around trying to get him some sort of steady situation or find something he is good at so maybe he can be a success (which is all the Mummy wants). Examples 3-100.... all similar stories I know. I see SO many Thai guys like this and I always feel the same... I just want to slap them in the head!!! But then, I also see that the more that the parents do for them and give to them, the less they have to do for themselves. They end up with little or no self worth or self esteem. There's no reason to try hard because Mommy will sort out the mess for them. They are 'mollycoddled' boys who never grow up. In a society and culture where so much is expected from the girls in a family, what hope is there for the men if they are treated this way from young by their parents? If there is one thing that Thai females can change in this country to give it a better future... DON'T mollycoddle your sons to end up in this pathetic way. Help them be strong to stand on their own 2 feet and take responsibility... and not be useless Mommy's boys. Any thoughts?