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I came across this post and I would like to share it here, it's a beautiful message for people seeking the perfect relationship and the right person. ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER? During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥
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If I like someone and believe that she also likes me what is the way to confirm that. I am too shy to tell her that I like her.
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As we are living in the world with no borders, interacting with other people via the internet. Many people even fall in love online (as they claim) while living thousands miles away in the virtual world. So just wonder would you get your bags and language tapes ready and fly to your love one? and if I may answer this I would say YES, well actually I already DID! :wink:
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Hello all you lovely Thai ladies, as we all know one of the main attractions of us Farangs is our big bank accounts. So given the option of a rich young handsome Thai man or a rich young handsome Farang man which would you go for. You would be rich for the rest of your life beyond your wildest dreams whichever one you choose.
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Hard to find true love......but toooooo...easy to get SEX everywhere >.< this is what we call "LIFE" ????
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Usually I go out of my way in little ways to make my wife happy. Small gifts here and there, foot/shoulder massages, going out to get/make her favorite foods, etc. In turn, she goes waaaay out of her way to make sure I'm happy. There were times that I would draw the line at some things until she became pregnant. For instance...she really wants to go to JJ Market right now. I only like to go there in december and january when it's not extremely hot. JJ Market sucks when its hot and crowded. However...she REALLY wants to go, and I have to oblige since I'm not the one carrying around our baby all the time. I also used to have a "card game" night once a week that I've stopped recently... What are some nice things that you've done for your loved one(s) recently? I know that its getting harder and harder for Jeab now, and I'm looking for other ideas to try and make her happy and relaxed. :roll: Besides the usual spending time, having fun, and relaxing together, what are your ideas to make your partner happy? What would you want your partner to do/give to you which would brighten your day?
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I heard someone said that.. but always think that just a load of bullshit.. But today I start thinking... maybe.. there is some truths in that.. To break up when you still love each other.. It hurts... don't you think?
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I thought that I finally started to figure out this conundrum but once again I am completely wrong. When I first got to Thailand I thought that the only women that approached single men at a bar were girls looking for a client. I am not interested in sex tourism, so I generally politely excused myself. After a while I realized that there are girls that are genuinely interested in talking to me and tried to make some friends. Perhaps my biggest mistake is that I meet girls at a bar... Well, I really can't say I meet them: I dance, they come up to me and start a conversation. Otherwise I continue dancing and when the music stops I go home. I've met a few female friends that way, and as friends they are awesome. The second that relationship crosses the line into the sexual territory that is when the troubles begin. Dealing with mainly American Girls I find that most of them appreciate honesty and guys that are very straight forward. So generally, I'm very open on my views on sex. I don't push the subject because that is not my main objective here, but if the conversation comes up, I like to be clear so that there is no misconception. What I tell a girl that is trying to go in that direction is: "I just got out of a 6 years relationship that went really bad toward the end. I don't feel emotionally capable of engaging in another one. If you want to have sex, it's for fun. If you can't deal with that I much rather be your friend." In other words I tend to ruin a potentially romantic moment in order to safeguard my sanity. For me, drama and confusing sexual situations are worse than not getting laid. In any case... I can't seem to avoid it anyway. I met several crazy girls. I don't know if I should go into the details of each encounter... that's up to you my reader... but each one left me more and more confused. How do I keep making this so complicated? Or maybe Thai girls are really crazy!!! I don't know, you tell me. Your soon to be monk friend. V
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there's been a lot of tension, friction and teenage angst coming to the fore of late, and I reckon it's just about time we all shrugged that **** off and started hugging each other wit a bit of unrequited lurve. So I'll start by hugging... Iain_D, cos he's a funny bloke and a family guy. English_Bob, cos if anyone needs a hug, it's him. Nave, cos she's very lovely. AomLovely, cos she's also very lovely and called Aom. Cherie, cos I've upset her. Tangwaa, cos she's a girl and my sister is a girl too. Rob Admin, cos he's like the owner or something. PeeMarc, who sees deserving rolling eyes in every post. Gav, cos he's just a nice guy. Natural, cos she's, like, really lovely. Nicky, of course, cos she calls me Tony. And anyone else who knows me. It's ok to hug someone na.
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Would you tell the girl who you found her fascinately crushing on your GAY male friend ?
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Does saying "I love you" to a girl/guy you're dating, mean "I'm IN LOVE with you"?
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If you would like to have a little daughter. Would you love your child if is a boy and not a girl as you wanted?. If you would like to have a little son. Would you love your child if is a girl and not a boy as you wanted?. please
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Flamingos are incredibly social birds, living in colonies consisting of thousands. Although they flock together in colonies, a flamingo's most stable social organization is the pair bond, consisting of one male and one female. Pair bond tends to be quite strong, as they are often seen together throughout a given day, even outside of the breeding season.The mates seem to be closer to each other than any other bird, seen sleeping and feeding side by side. As the flamingo's most stable social organization is the pair bond, it should be no surprise that the bird's mating system is monogamy. Even though the term of a pair bond varies considerably, in all instances, flamingos have been found to be purely monogamous. ----------------------------------- I think anyone wants to be monogamous.... so am I. But there are many reasons which effect to couple life.... we cant maintain as intention. Anyone wants to share ideas??? please.....
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Is there a way to get "butterfly" boys to care for you? When a guy says he just wanna have fun or doesn't wanna have a gf, does he mean that or it's just that he doesn't like the girl enough? Even if you're not ready for a relationship for whatever reason, does it really matter if you run into a girl you really really like? I always believe a girl have the power to change a guys mind if the right button is pushed??
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My love is like an ocean It goes down so deep My love is like a rose Whose beauty you want to keep. My love is like a river That will never end My love is like a dove With a beautiful message to send. My love is like a song That goes on and on forever My love is like a prisoner It's to you that I surrender.
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Has anyone ever told you "Baby, I love you so much that I could die for you"? Or Have you ever said that to anyone? I just thought about it today. My first impression is that it sounds so sweet.. that someone can sacrifice his/her valuable (or worthless) life just "for you". Sweet, isn't it? But to think again... Doesn't it sound intensely selfish? Because if "he/she" died for you, how would you continue your life happily, peacefully without that person? How many days/weeks/months do you have to cope with your loss? How difficult does it sound...to live life the way it used to be.... Would you believe if you heard that... How many people actually have willingness to "die for you" ? ... huh? :roll: :?:
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:? :? Why is it that we love the ones who ignore us and ignore the ones who love us?
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I am in love with my best friend, but he doesn;t love me. .....
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UPDATE on 15-10-04 Well this has become a fascinating piece of research. Posters to the thread are overwhelming negative to the concept, with the romantic true love theme very strong. The poll results speak for themselves though: Yes - have done: 50% Yes - can imagine: 15% No - don't think so: 13% No - definitely not: 15% Don't know: 4% 65% of respondents say 'yes' it IS possible to love two people at the same time (an interesting correlation to the result of the Turkish poll!) (sample size 44). So it appears that what people know from personal experience to be true, they are reluctant to express such an apparently 'politically incorrect' view in a public posting. So why the difference? Why are the 'yes-ers' content to answer the poll but don't feel compelled to post a thread? Why are the 'no-ers' so strong (and sometimes judgmental) in their postings? [Obviously, on such a subject everyone's answer is a personal expression - but it is interesting to see how people think that because they themselves feel a certain way, then other people should do too.] Does the question mean different things to different people? Does the answer change with the experience of the individual? Is there a correlation of answer to other factors - eg Age, Number of previous serious relationships? Whether they have children? Western or Asian Background? hmmmm... social research indeed! I suspect the variation is what the term 'love' means to people, and I would like to see if there is a correlation between 'yes' or 'no' answers and number of previous relationships - knowing, from personal experience, that experience of a serious relationship serves to educate about what love means :-) Romantic and Blind or Practical and Mature? So I will run a new poll: Is it possible to love two people at the same time? Yes/No - I have had two or more previous serious LTR's Yes/No - I have had one or none previous LTR (LTR = Long Term Relationship) Please refer to the new Poll posted in this forum, and post your response. Cheers! td ORIGINAL POST -------------------- Is it possible to love two people at the same?... "October 03, 2004 One wife or two? A new Turkish divide Matthew Campbell, Istanbul A RECENT poll in a Turkish newspaper included an eye-catching statistic. A substantial majority of the population ? 63% ? thought it perfectly acceptable for a man to have more than one wife. .... [from the London Sunday Times this weekend]..." The current forum thread concerning 'sincere men' raised some interesting views... this adds to the debate I think.... can a guy be sincere and still see more than one woman? Re Turkey... that's, er, 44 million people!!..... Let's have our own poll :-) COULD YOU LOVE TWO PEOPLE AT THE SAME TIME? (ie relationship-wise, not parent-child etc.) Cheers td http://www.timesonline.co.uk/newspaper/0,,176-1291390,00.html
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Did anyone become a lover but you didn't meet her/him in real person yet?? How do u think?How does it work? Of course,It is possible but I just curious..