SoBeIt Posted January 19, 2011 Report Share Posted January 19, 2011 2 questions here... Have you ever have the feelings that you don't want to have or feel? For example; - I don't want to feel sad, if my dog died. But I do feel sad.. - I don't want to feel stupid when you cheated on me. But I do feel so freaking stupid. etc... Thoes unwanted feelings are annoying, How do you deal with it? Accept it that you feel that way or do something about it to make yourself feel better? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted January 19, 2011 Report Share Posted January 19, 2011 One thing I have learnt in the Voice Training class... before we get one the stage...we always feel panic, exciting. We asked the teacher how could we control it? He said let it be. When you feel panic let it happen, when you exciting let it happen. Don't try to control. Those feeling won't happen so long, they will be end at some point. Those feelings show our human being. I think he got a good point. At pain management class, doctor said something similar... Pain shows that we are human. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koolbreez Posted January 20, 2011 Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 Those are natural feelings. If you suppress them, at some time they will come out. It is much better to just let them come out when they happen as Neung points out. You let the feelings come out when the incident happens, then you know why you are having those feelings. If you try to suppress those emotional feelings, then when they do come out, and they will, you will not know what they are associated with, and you can come to the wrong assumption about what is causing those emotional feelings. It is human to feel sad when sad things happen, as it is just as human to feel mad when someone cheats on you. Deal with the feelings on the spot, and don't let them build. It is not in some peoples nature to confront what is causing those feelings, but if you don't they will build, and build, until you no longer can control them when they do come out, and they will. kaunitz 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted January 20, 2011 Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 2 questions here...Have you ever have the feelings that you don't want to have or feel? For example; - I don't want to feel sad, if my dog died. But I do feel sad.. - I don't want to feel stupid when you cheated on me. But I do feel so freaking stupid. etc... Thoes unwanted feelings are annoying, How do you deal with it? Accept it that you feel that way or do something about it to make yourself feel better? well u can accept that u feel that way and still try to do something to make urself feel better !!! ur dog has died u feel sad ... go out get drunk feel better !! ur partner has cheated on u, u feel stupid ... go out get drunk and shag some slut feel better !!! easy !!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
admin Posted January 20, 2011 Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 You can't really avoid negative emotions. It's simply how your brain is wired. But you can choose how you respond to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoBeIt Posted January 20, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 . Don't try to control. Those feeling won't happen so long, they will be end at some point. I like this, thanks P'Nueng Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoBeIt Posted January 20, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 2 questions here...Have you ever have the feelings that you don't want to have or feel? For example; - I don't want to feel sad, if my dog died. But I do feel sad.. - I don't want to feel stupid when you cheated on me. But I do feel so freaking stupid. etc... Thoes unwanted feelings are annoying, How do you deal with it? Accept it that you feel that way or do something about it to make yourself feel better? well u can accept that u feel that way and still try to do something to make urself feel better !!! ur dog has died u feel sad ... go out get drunk feel better !! ur partner has cheated on u, u feel stupid ... go out get drunk and shag some slut feel better !!! easy !!!!! ******* Irish! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted January 20, 2011 Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 2 questions here...Have you ever have the feelings that you don't want to have or feel? For example; - I don't want to feel sad, if my dog died. But I do feel sad.. - I don't want to feel stupid when you cheated on me. But I do feel so freaking stupid. etc... Thoes unwanted feelings are annoying, How do you deal with it? Accept it that you feel that way or do something about it to make yourself feel better? well u can accept that u feel that way and still try to do something to make urself feel better !!! ur dog has died u feel sad ... go out get drunk feel better !! ur partner has cheated on u, u feel stupid ... go out get drunk and shag some slut feel better !!! easy !!!!! f*cking Irish! u can if u ask me nicely !!! :wink: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetieBabie Posted January 20, 2011 Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 I'm feeling sexy, but i don't want to :oops: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoBeIt Posted January 20, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 I'm feeling sexy, but i don't want to :oops: Need any help? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morther Posted January 20, 2011 Report Share Posted January 20, 2011 You never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have. -Anonymous Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiAnt Posted January 28, 2011 Report Share Posted January 28, 2011 Unfortunately dogs live much shorter lives than we do, so they will die in our lifetime. It doesn't make it any easier to deal with to know that, but at least it helps us prepare for the loss of a loved one, though one thing that might console us in our grief is that the life was well lived and happy while it lasted. Infidelity, on the other hand, is a much deeper pain, and hard, if not impossible, to overcome. Best played by ear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelseaeyers Posted September 28, 2011 Report Share Posted September 28, 2011 (edited) I like this, thanks P'Nueng (The link is deleted by Pandorea : Please do not spam the forums) Edited September 28, 2011 by pandorea spam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaunitz Posted October 22, 2011 Report Share Posted October 22, 2011 2 questions here...Have you ever have the feelings that you don't want to have or feel? For example; - I don't want to feel sad, if my dog died. But I do feel sad.. - I don't want to feel stupid when you cheated on me. But I do feel so freaking stupid. etc... Thoes unwanted feelings are annoying, How do you deal with it? Accept it that you feel that way or do something about it to make yourself feel better? That's a bit strange, what you are asking here! If your dog dies, you feel sorry. That's a natural thing. If someone cheats on you, this is not the time to feel sorry. It's (in your case) his decision and you have to find out what to do. If you forgive him, yes, ok; but if you tell him to f*ck off, also ok, as you think! Yep, I see the point that you feel humiliated by him once he cheats on you. In this case, up to you, either talk to him or dump him immediately, according to your personal feelings. Anyhow, i would suggest to listen to him anyhow - but not yo follow him necessarily. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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