bigKus Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 A guy sent PM to you saying nice things, you replied being friendly then you guys keep in touch, chat sometimes. Your freindship growing well, and you feeling got stronger expecting anything further than just friend...till you met in person. The conversation went on naturally on the day you guys first met like you have been friends for so long until he told you that he crushed on your (female) friend and kept talking about her all the rest of that night. What would you do ? Will this hurts you ? pandorea 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
POSES Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 (edited) i would felt 'Ooh Hell', but what da heck ..Well Congratulation. if luck hasn't always shine on us, then some other time... :keep clam and carry on: Edited February 1, 2011 by POSES pandorea 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English_Bob Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 I wouldn't be upset because I'm not gay... (And I always keep a clam just in case.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 I guess it would naturally hurt in the beginning since you were building up feelings for him. At the same time you should also be happy for your friend if you think this guy is a nice guy. After all, things have been going well and you feel like you've been friends for a while. Try to hook em up with your friend, stay friends with him, and move on.* *if I was gay and my friend was gay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 I wouldn't be upset because I'm not gay... (And I always keep a clam just in case.) u never ever know when a clam will come in useful !!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoBeIt Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 I guess it would naturally hurt in the beginning since you were building up feelings for him. At the same time you should also be happy for your friend if you think this guy is a nice guy. After all, things have been going well and you feel like you've been friends for a while. Try to hook em up with your friend, stay friends with him, and move on.**if I was gay and my friend was gay Only if you are Nang Eak in Thai soap opera.. hmm.. channel 7 as well. pandorea 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoBeIt Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 . What would you do ? Will this hurts you ? I would tell him that I like him and it hurts to know that he likes my friend instead of me. Being honest, at least you dont have to pretend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetieBabie Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 This would unavoidable jeopardize your friendship between you and your friend. Should you be happy for your friend? Perhaps. What about your friend, why should she be dating this guy knowingly that it would hurt you? Sorry to say, but you are screwed (no pun intended). pandorea 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 Sorry to say, but you are screwed (no pun intended). actually ... she's NOT being screwed !!! that;s the whole problem !!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English_Bob Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 u never ever know when a clam will come in useful !!! Exactly - I never listen to people who tell me 'Clam down'... I keep it up at all times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English_Bob Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 If he was a keeper, he would have taken you BOTH to bed and let you fight over him in the morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janus Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 If I were you, I might feel a bit hurt cuz I expected on something out of the man. But life is what it is, so you can't avoid the fact that the others may think different from you or see things in different ways. Well, let's look at the positive side that at least you should be happy that this man seems to be sincere enough to speak out his mind (which is very difficult to find one at this present time). And believe me, in this case, YOU ARE NOT SCREWED!!! Then keep smiling and bring your self-confidence back! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duanja Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 (edited) That would hurt my self confidence a lot. But it is no big deal. If I just chatted with him and haven't have sex with him so my friend can just take him if she should fall for him too. Otherwise, I would feel too awkward, you know, that my friend and I would have had intimate experience with the same guy. Edited February 1, 2011 by duanja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetieBabie Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 And believe me, in this case, YOU ARE NOT SCREWED!!! Then keep smiling and bring your self-confidence back! finally, someone with a glass half full Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shuti Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 Why don't you tell him that if i know this i wont waste my time talking and chatting with u! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sayasiapa Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 it depends on that guy's original intention if he's trying to get to know you as a friend, and happened to see your friend, and he like her, than i think that should be just a misunderstanding emotion between you two. if he's trying to use you just to get to know your friend, then you might better leave him before he does the same thing to your friend for other reasons. if he's into you, but he changed his mind and now he's into your friend, than the chance would be he's a player. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoBeIt Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 That would hurt my self confidence a lot. But it is no big deal. If I just chatted with him and haven't have sex with him so my friend can just take him if she should fall for him too. Otherwise, I would feel too awkward, you know, that my friend and I would have had intimate experience with the same guy. Kind of agree there. You guys havent ****ed each others yet, and you've never told him that you like him, right? And obviously many guys are too dump to understand how we women think. So, just the tip, next time you chat with a guy and you feel good with him.. "Tell him!" to avoid the situation of misunderstanding/ misinterpreting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiAnt Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 One more advantage to having few friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
admin Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 It is about intention. If he made it seem like he was coming on to you that's one thing but if he was simply being polite then it's difficult to say what his intent was. When you meet friends of people you like (i.e. you are going out with or want to go out with) it can seem like flirting. You want them to like you so that they won't block you. Even the guy friends (hopefully married or male family members) you're nicer too. If you expressed anything beyond friendly banter then there's no real reason to be upset. it depends on that guy's original intentionif he's trying to get to know you as a friend, and happened to see your friend, and he like her, than i think that should be just a misunderstanding emotion between you two. if he's trying to use you just to get to know your friend, then you might better leave him before he does the same thing to your friend for other reasons. if he's into you, but he changed his mind and now he's into your friend, than the chance would be he's a player. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 You guys havent ****ed each others yet, and you've never told him that you like him, right?And obviously many guys are too dump to understand how we women think. So, just the tip, next time you chat with a guy and you feel good with him.. "Tell him!" to avoid the situation of misunderstanding/ misinterpreting. u got it nailed there .... subtle (or not so subtle) hints do NOT work with guys !! if u want him to screw U just tell him !!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 And believe me, in this case, YOU ARE NOT SCREWED!!! i think her being NOT SCREWED is the problem here ..... or have i missed something ??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janus Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 i think her being NOT SCREWED is the problem here .....or have i missed something ??? You made me feel that I have missed something too. Hahaha! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soda Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 It's going to be hurt no matter what.......but accepted it could help get better in time....we loose and we win in our live time...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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