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One of the Stickman stories might have been mine.

I was living in Hat Yai, met a girl and agreed to go to the beach with her the next day. So I'd known her for about 2 hours and never touched her.

We met in the morning and she brought her friend, cousin, aunt and aunt's boyfriend (who happened to be the tuk tuk driver for the day!). What I'd hoped would be a nice day for the pair of us was now a family outing for six people.

We did a few errands, went to the beach and then went for lunch. Everyone scoffed a ton of seafood and drinks. Finally the bill arrived, she took it, scanned it and then passed it to me without a word. Everyone else suddenly found the ceiling very interesting or wanted to look at their fingernails for a long time.

I said, "I don't have enough money to pay for everyone." and showed them my walllet with 700 baht in it. (Actually I had 3000 in my back pocket which I'd removed 10 minutes previously, knowing this was going to happen)

Nobody even looked in the pockets or bags. Just sat there waiting for me to make more money materialise out of thin air.

I let it drag on for about 2 minutes, then said, "Oh wait. I have some money in my bag. Can I have the keys for the tuk tuk?"

I retrieved my bag, came back to the table, dropped the 700 baht down and said to the girl, "That's for me and you. I don't know who these people are."

Then I walked out and went home in a different tuk tuk.

30 minutes later she came banging on my door shouting at me how I'd made her lose face and how I 'owed her friend' because she'd had to pay the rest of the bill.

Seriously! WTF was she thinking?

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p'Dave, imagine you marry that girl, I bet the whole of her family member would move in to live with you :P

I have seen lots of mia farang do that (not everyone). My mom's friend married a farang guy, I have known them since I was a kid, I called him Uncle Art. He takes care of her family and some family members just sit around doing nothing. Time goes by Uncle Art started complaining but they never go.

And another my mom's ex coworker, she married a Japanese man, same thing happens, he take her all of her family members, built a big house in the north. Her daughter knows her step father has lots of money, so she doesn't go to school, beg for money. The worst thing I heard, she asked when would he die... cuz her and her mom would get 10 million bahts.

I'm sorry for them.

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When i told my husband that my family will visit us in DK for 2 weeks, he said "let me check my schedule, they can visit when I'm on business trip." When my mom in law calls me 3 times/ day I told my husband that I don't need that much attention from mom inlaw and she isn't my mother, I don't want to hear about her life nor have to tell her what I've been doing on FB. So, she calls me once/week now. Honestly, I think I meet her every Chirstmas is more than enough. She never bother us with money or anything like that but i don't need to be nearby her...she can be too much sometime.

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When i told my husband that my family will visit us in DK for 2 weeks, he said "let me check my schedule, they can visit when I'm on business trip." When my mom in law calls me 3 times/ day I told my husband that I don't need that much attention from mom inlaw and she isn't my mother, I don't want to hear about her life nor have to tell her what I've been doing on FB. So, she calls me once/week now. Honestly, I think I meet her every Chirstmas is more than enough. She never bother us with money or anything like that but i don't need to be nearby her...she can be too much sometime.

That's why you told me living alone is better :P

Many friends of mine who got married told me, if I get married, just move out, just stay with your husband... lol i do agree.

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That's why you told me living alone is better :P

Many friends of mine who got married told me, if I get married, just move out, just stay with your husband... lol i do agree.

Just move out isn't enough. My husband & I live far away from our inlaws, but still they get involve often.

Btw, Stay single, doesn't nesessary mean live alone na ja.

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Maybe I spend too much time in the wrong parts of town but is Stick's version of Thai women accurate?


For me, it's accurate for some group of women that may be born before me or same age as me-33 years old or above ( sorry to call this group as the old blood lol). However, i think, because of globalization, media or change in tradition or social norm, the way of thinking of the young generation of Thai women have been changed.
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One of the Stickman stories might have been mine.

I was living in Hat Yai, met a girl and agreed to go to the beach with her the next day. So I'd known her for about 2 hours and never touched her.

We met in the morning and she brought her friend, cousin, aunt and aunt's boyfriend (who happened to be the tuk tuk driver for the day!). What I'd hoped would be a nice day for the pair of us was now a family outing for six people.

We did a few errands, went to the beach and then went for lunch. Everyone scoffed a ton of seafood and drinks. Finally the bill arrived, she took it, scanned it and then passed it to me without a word. Everyone else suddenly found the ceiling very interesting or wanted to look at their fingernails for a long time.

I said, "I don't have enough money to pay for everyone." and showed them my walllet with 700 baht in it. (Actually I had 3000 in my back pocket which I'd removed 10 minutes previously, knowing this was going to happen)

Nobody even looked in the pockets or bags. Just sat there waiting for me to make more money materialise out of thin air.

I let it drag on for about 2 minutes, then said, "Oh wait. I have some money in my bag. Can I have the keys for the tuk tuk?"

I retrieved my bag, came back to the table, dropped the 700 baht down and said to the girl, "That's for me and you. I don't know who these people are."

Then I walked out and went home in a different tuk tuk.

30 minutes later she came banging on my door shouting at me how I'd made her lose face and how I 'owed her friend' because she'd had to pay the rest of the bill.

Seriously! WTF was she thinking?

One of the things that gets me is that if you tell this story to many Thais they're automatically assume you're dating bar girls. But, both times it happened to me the girls couldn't be any farther from being bar girls. Also, most of the other guys who have told me similar stories have also been out with supposedly normal girls.

And I'll hazard a guess and say it wasn't even her idea to invite the entire family. She probably told her family she had a date with this farang guy and then they all decided to leech off of it. If she doesn't go along with it then the whole family turns on her.

The other one that cracks me up (and your post reminded me of this because of the tuk tuk relative) is getting you to grossly overpay for things in order to support their family and friends. So, let's say you want to go to the beach for the weekend and you know that a taxi to Pattaya is 1500 baht one way. The girl will recommend her uncle or some friend who drives a taxi who she promises will give you a special price and they'll quote you something like 3000. When you point out that the un-negotiated fare is half that then you get the pouty look from the girl who is stuck between you and her greedy uncle/friend.

And the really messed up thing is that it's often not the girl's fault. She started off with good intention of having her uncle drive you to the beach but the greedy bastard heard the word "farang" and decided to screw you over. So the girl loses face if you tell her uncle to fuck off like you would any other thieving taxi driver AND she loses face with you. But given the choice, better to lose face with you than the family so . . . pay up.

And then to add insult to injury, when you need to go back to BKK she recommends the same uncle!?!?! WTF?!?!

A slight variation on this one is the "just pay for gas" scam. So let's say that you're making plans on going someplace where you really need a car. She recommends going with someone in her family (or one of her friends) who already has plans to go. All you have to do is pay for gas. Forget about the fact that the driver is going whether or not you go and needs to pay for the gas anyway. You agree figuring it's a fair trade and so they show up to pick you up with the car running on fumes. First stop is the petrol station. During each bathroom/meal break she asks you if you want to pay for a meal, buy drinks, etc for the driver because . . . you know, s/he's doing all of the driving. Then when you get where you're going you keep getting asked to pay for this or that because her relative/friend did drive the whole way. Of course, this is repeated the entire way back except the relative/friend skips the last petrol station on the way back and arrives back in Bangkok on fumes and fills up the tank 2 blocks from dropping you off. Oh, and while you're grabbing your bag out of the back your date suggests throwing the driver 1000 baht for his/her troubles.

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When i told my husband that my family will visit us in DK for 2 weeks, he said "let me check my schedule, they can visit when I'm on business trip." When my mom in law calls me 3 times/ day I told my husband that I don't need that much attention from mom inlaw and she isn't my mother, I don't want to hear about her life nor have to tell her what I've been doing on FB. So, she calls me once/week now. Honestly, I think I meet her every Chirstmas is more than enough. She never bother us with money or anything like that but i don't need to be nearby her...she can be too much sometime.

555555 - Oh, how I can understand you, Nicky!

Luckily, in our relationship it is different. Unfortunately, I have to say, my Thai is very, very weak. But still, if I get into contact wioth my in-laws, we are fine in a way. They know what I am doing, and I think that they are understanding what my sweet wife is doing. After the deceasing of my fater-in-law, my mother-in-law is coming to our house every now and then to support my wife for two or three weeks or so. This is great!

Good thing is that I cannot understand my mom-in-law (although I respect and like her very much!) and my mother cannot communicate with my wife. I think that exactly this avoids a lot of problems :)

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