Kayle Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 This is my first attempt to prove my boyfriend is wrong. Why most member here are farang guys and thai girls? He said for a farang guy to say that they are here for friendship only, no other expectation is bullshit. If they want to find a friend why not try getting to know thai guy, they would have a lot more in common. Well, I could not come up with any explanation to win the argument. As I have had experience abroad. English students I meet at the uni, they don't mix with Asian. They are not curious to get to know asian students or our culture. They do not make an effort to talk to us first. So why suddenly all this farang people on the website are over friendly to us (thai girls), posting message saying they want to learn thai culture and language? Is it just a total bollock in disguise to get girl in their bed? Do you have any Thai male friend? I mean friend as you would hang out with not just people you know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 I have made many friends here on TF Thai girls and women and farangs from all over the world. Also farang women from all over. It is called a dating site so no one should be supprised if it is used as such. No dates for me but I have gotten to know some really cool Thai women and had nice times with them as friends in real and online. It is what we make of it and with everything it is as you think.......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Undercover Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 1) Yes, I have Thai male friends that I hang out with. 2) Yes, I have Thai female friends that I hang out with. 3) This is a dating site. Most people are here for a hook-up. But ThailandFriends sounds a lot nicer than ThailandShags or ThailandOneNightStand, or in some cases, ThailandGrudgeF*cks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kayle Posted March 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 His point is not that it is a wrong place to get to know girls, but to use getting to know the culture or want to learn thai as an excuse is pathetic. He always laugh when he see a post like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexanderdream Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 His point is not that it is a wrong place to get to know girls, but to use getting to know the culture or want to learn thai as an excuse is pathetic. He always laugh when he see a post like that. "Honesty is such a lonely word, everyone is so untrue..." there are some good people in TF ! i met them ! :wink: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeAussieGuy Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 Guys are here for many reasons. Some to meet girls, some to meet guys, some to meet both as being an expat living in another country it is not so easy to start a new life so for expats and people visiting Thailand and dont know it etc. a site like this is great to have. Some can do it easy, through work, going out etc. some cant for personal reasons or they just dont have a network that makes it easy for them. Not everyone wants to hang around at Nana and Patpong you can tell your bf.. This type of site provides for people to meet people one way or another for whatever reason they choose. That's their business why. What is his point anyway, has got off his butt and read Journals and Forum posts, been to a TF party or does he choose to sit on the fence and blow it out his butt? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kayle Posted March 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 As I said, I started this forum to prove him wrong. That is why I would like to see if the male members here have thai male friend. Of course, he knows there are people who genuine about getting to know people and learning the language, they go to language school for Thai lesson, they make Thai friends both male and female. He is only taking a piss out of people who post something like "I would like to learn more about thailand and thai language? anybody would like to help me with that?" Did you never be cynicle about that statment when you see it? So no need to be upset about it if you are not, OK? There is someobody I know that use it and to my surprise there are many TF girls who fall for that. They are rather naive or just pretend to be. I think it is pretty obvious, anyway, I believe both part know what the real message is, but just putting it different way make it easier. I reckon it has something to do with the "face" issue. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kayle Posted March 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 What about the unfriendly English students? Anybody has any idea why they are so different from our Friendly English TF member? Is it because only the friendly English will come to Thailand and leave the unfriendly one in the miserable England? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frankenburner2 Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 As I said, I started this forum to prove him wrong. That is why I would like to see if the male members here have thai male friend.Of course, he knows there are people who genuine about getting to know people and learning the language, they go to language school for Thai lesson, they make Thai friends both male and female. He is only taking a piss out of people who post something like "I would like to learn more about thailand and thai language? anybody would like to help me with that?" Did you never be cynicle about that statment when you see it? So no need to be upset about it if you are not, OK? There is someobody I know that use it and to my surprise there are many TF girls who fall for that. They are rather naive or just pretend to be. I think it is pretty obvious, anyway, I believe both part know what the real message is, but just putting it different way make it easier. I reckon it has something to do with the "face" issue. I don't see why previous respondants are so resistant to your boyfriends contention....your boyfriend is absolutely right...most likely 95% of the time 'those' types of posts provoke a "yaya, sure sure, what bullshit" from most members....and I think rightly so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 i'm trying to find the farang female to be friend with.. but always end up cuz they are bi. i don't mind to have "BI" as friends and i have a lot to..and we have good friendship (mostly thai bi friends, they are friendly and nice) but for farang female... somebody need to be more than friend.. lol and i'm not into the girls. :? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkk_bound Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 In the short time that I've been part of TF, I've met some very nice people. I will say that the women I've meet are all Thai & the few men that I've befriended are farang & not Thai. It would probaby be safe to say that maybe 1/2 of the men who state that they want to learn more about the Thai culture & language are using that as an angle to hook up with Thai women, but then again, that's part of what this site is about...dating. That is one of the options when doing a member search. People are here to make friends, penpals or seeking relationships. So with that said, people are here looking to date, let's not forget that. Some are just more honest about expressing that idea in their profile, others go about it in a round about way & say they're looking to learn about Thailand, etc... "will you help me?" Do they really want to learn about this? I'm sure the majority of these men stating that do want to learn something about the culture & in the process want to have someone of the female persuassion show them. If something else becomes of it, then that's just a bonus. It's like "killing 2 birds with 1 stone". And again, that's not to say that with the good comes the bad, so there will be the rotten apples trying to get a female into their bed for nothing other than activity partner doing or saying anything to achieve that. When I come across male members, it's normally through seeing who's online, forum discussions such as this & NOT doing a "male" member search. The few times I have done a male member search, they were all mainly farangs & not Thai males so you it would be hard to say "why don't we have Thai male friends on TF?" They're just not here. It is definitely a great observation & good topic for a forum... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrispilok Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 As I said, I started this forum to prove him wrong. That is why I would like to see if the male members here have thai male friend.Of course, he knows there are people who genuine about getting to know people and learning the language, they go to language school for Thai lesson, they make Thai friends both male and female. He is only taking a piss out of people who post something like "I would like to learn more about thailand and thai language? anybody would like to help me with that?" Did you never be cynicle about that statment when you see it? So no need to be upset about it if you are not, OK? There is someobody I know that use it and to my surprise there are many TF girls who fall for that. They are rather naive or just pretend to be. I think it is pretty obvious, anyway, I believe both part know what the real message is, but just putting it different way make it easier. I reckon it has something to do with the "face" issue. You've raised a couple of different issues. First, the issue of is it bs when someone says I'm here to learn language, culture, etc. I think probably your bf is right and its bs 90% of the time (I've met people who say that but have been nowhere in Thailand but Chiang Mai, Pattaya, and Phuket- for real!!)...but there is that 10% who really have a, lets say, academic interest in Thai culture. Then the issue of why aren't there any Thai males on this site. Well, its an English speaking dating site so not too much incentive for a Thai guy to join unless he wants to meet farang women (as to why Thai guys and farang women are not into each other, that's not for me to say). Nevertheless, I would like to have buddies who are Thai. When I came here I thought I would have male Thai friends but it never really happened. I would meet a guy we'd exchange numbers, agree to meet up sometime, but if I called him up to do something...he's busy, he's doing something with his family, something came up...etc. So I think the bottom line is, its much easier for a farang to make friends with a woman than a man in Thailand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mikee_Moose Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 Lucky me. I went to Uni here so I met a lot of both male and female Thai friends whom I consider brothers and sisters. To be honest though, I have found that most of the Thai guys I know often prefer to socialise after work in restaurants, snooker halls or cocktail lounges. None of those places are really my scene so unfortunatly I dont get much chance to hang out with them. And NO, my scene is NOT Cowboy/Nana etc. just pubs and cool hangouts with good music where ppl can still talk and meet each other socially. But I digress.... As for comments on the use of this site by the male farang population, I have no real opinion. Some are here for freindship (very few I think), some for meeting a gik, others are sincerely hoping to meet a good girl for a sincere relationship. The profiles and posts usually make it clear. What your bf is actually saying is this: "why are you an active member of this site dear? You have me now, and this place is for singles". He maybe expressing his feelings. He knows what most men want on this site. Especially farang men in BKK or those who want to travel here. He may also feel that because of your experience abroad (I dont know if he has any or not) that you may be interested in meeting another person with similar experiences. Overseas experience always broadens peoples minds. Sorry to psychoanalyse, I hope you dont mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pr0nmaster Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 I'm not here to make friends OR to get laid.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pr0nmaster Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 So why suddenly all this farang people on the website are over friendly to us (thai girls), posting message saying they want to learn thai culture and language? Is it just a total bollock in disguise to get girl in their bed? it's total bollocks... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 OK... Farang guys are here to date thai girls.... But what about thai girls ? They want to know thai culture ? Perhaps they want to learn culture of other country... but is there 1 thai girl here who contact a few guys from the same country (and only from this country) to know the culture of this country ? (cause it's not possible to learn the culture of all the countries of the workd). I suppose that thai girls here have farang friends from all over the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigKus Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 ..: Okay.. ok.. You guys can call me LOSER ! :x After been here TF for longer than 1 year, still do not have :- - Sweetie lovable boyfriend - Sexy fuxable shag partner WHAT A LOSER ! :evil: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ttesta Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 Well, I could not come up with any explanation to win the argument. Never mind, Kayle ... that is the beginning of understanding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
condotown Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 I'm not here to make friends OR to get laid.... so ur here to annoy the **** out of everyone.... we all know that already Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pr0nmaster Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 so ur here to annoy the f*ck out of everyone.... we all know that already I see it's working !! not everyone...just the people I don't like.....(ALMOST everyone) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thomaswd Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 so ur here to annoy the f*ck out of everyone.... we all know that already I see it's working !! not everyone...just the people I don't like.....(ALMOST everyone) Don't forget those of us who are your fans as well...No friend...Just fan...hahaha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pr0nmaster Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 Don't forget those of us who are your fans as well...No friend...Just fan...hahaha cheers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony_Sorco Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 :? Have I joined the wrong site ? I want to date some Girls and they can be my friend too if they want Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moo_noy Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 "when harry met Sally" was a movie, funny though. I have a few thai male friends, but not many. i have to learn some thai so i can communicate.Its a must, and not something i really want to do. The only things about culture i want to know, is what i need to know to avoid makeing someone lose face, and to prevent being riped off. I can only guess about Uni students abroad.To me, i see them just hanging around in groups in their own little world, and they seem to show little interest in talking to me. I have talked to some, but that was just to help lost newbies find their way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldMember Posted March 28, 2006 Report Share Posted March 28, 2006 What about the unfriendly English students? Anybody has any idea why they are so different from our Friendly English TF member? Is it because only the friendly English will come to Thailand and leave the unfriendly one in the miserable England? Hmm bit simplistic.Often very much depends on the university itself.The new ones(ex polytecnics/technical colleges ) are often populated by domestic students from low socio-economic backgrounds with no family history of tertiary educational achievement. Low entry requirements often result in attracting those of a limited educational ability,social skills and cultural savvy. The University i went to had a very high intake of maybe 30-40% foreign students (mainly American/European/Asian/African postgrads )..and we all got along just fine.It was like some happy multi cultural club.Ok, its hard to generalise:but quality of university/student is often the key . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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