condotown Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 I'm wondering what other TF members would do if they had a bf/gf who talked about killing themselves or you whenever they got upset about something. Is it worth trying to keep the relationship going? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr_Sassy Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 I didnt take my ex's statement seriously.. and he did kill himself, unfortunately. I don't think I could either have saved him if I took it seriously. Without thinking rationally, people can say "whatever" they want when they get so stressed, pissed, emotional... not nice if they say it repeatedly. It's killing you...and the relationship. I'd try my best to cheer him up if I see some potential treatment (at early stage). Some people's attitude is dangerously incurable!! (leave it // take it) Gotta see how often that killing threat has been mentioning. I don't normally give the 3rd chance after a serious agreement's been made. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 I'm wondering what other TF members would do if they had a bf/gf who talked about killing themselves or you whenever they got upset about something.Is it worth trying to keep the relationship going? Suicidal people rarely talk about their plans to anyone. If they succeed the first time, it's usually just because their plan worked too well. I'd tell him/her to go ahead and do it. Don't have time for whiners who think every little thing is worth flinging themselves off a bridge for. If the reason was mediocre, I'd offer my help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ammy Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 No I would have zero tolerance to a weak guy who threaten to kill himself when its not even the end of world yet! I cant imagine dating a guy who is that negative tho... Killing myself thought has never existed in me since i was young... Would rather kill someone else :evil: kaunitz 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vacanti373 Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 my close friend poisoned himself with arsenic 3 days before we were to go to our high school reunion. my cousin walked into the forest and hung himself from a tree. usually, but not always, the ones that threaten it are eather trying to use it as mental/psychological "control leverage" ( or it is a real cry out for help) the ones that are depressed, but don't say anything are ones to worry about...i think... both should be looked at...but not manipulated by! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smoggie Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 5 separate answers, yet only 2 votes. How does that work? eh? Which part are you confused about? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smoggie Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 5 separate answers, yet only 2 votes. How does that work? eh? Which part are you confused about? Now you're following me around. What is it with me and stalkers today? eh? Just online and bored at the same time as you, don't be thinking too much about stalker status with me, just think about the questions posed, previous posts and topic of the forum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 5 separate answers, yet only 2 votes. How does that work? eh? Which part are you confused about? Now you're following me around. What is it with me and stalkers today? u know u've finally made it on TF when u got ur own personal stalker .... or two !!! :twisted: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_love_som_tam Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 i'd immediately leave that person. so that's what happened to our wonderful relationship. now you tell me :roll: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Punisher Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 I'd do that person and the world a favor and go noose shopping :twisted: Better to put them out of their misery. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_love_som_tam Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 I made the mistake of getting involved, briefly, with a long time friend a while back. She has a successful insurance business in Thailand and is very driven. I had known her for about 4 years and would always stop in and say "hello" when I was in town on hoilday. On one trip we got together as she had just divorced her husband. One afternoon, while having lunch by the pool she related to me that she had gotten into an argument with her husband and that during the course of the argument she picked up a knife and stabbed him in the shoulder. I began to rethink as to whether or not I wanted to remain involved with her. That night, while having drinks with some friends of mine, she told one of them that if she ever caught me cheating on her she would kill my friend, me and then herself. I ended things that night. The next thing I know she stalked me to BKK. I had gone away for a few days and when I returned to my hotel room she was in there waiting for me. She had somehow convinced the hotel staff that she was my wife and they allowed her access to my room. I had hotel security remove her immediately. It's bad enough that I choose to face the hazards of my job. I don't need the additional hazard of a psycho-*****-from-hell :shock: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
macca_tirana Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit, she says that crap all the time, apart from calling the police few times and crackin the shits from time to time, oh she thretens genital mutilation if i *** around, but as i never have and does habitually ........i put it down to transference of guilt :roll: or havin an arsehole for a bf, just a thought Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danny_blueeyes Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 I had an ex-girlfriend that would pretend to cut her wrists in front of me...as in hold a knife to her wrists and make a slicing motion, but not actually draw any blood At first I reacted with a lot of concern, but soon I realized it was just a ploy for attention And as soon as I stopped reacting to her "cutting"....it soon stopped, which just goes to show u how desperate some people can be for attention Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anenglishman Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 I'm wondering what other TF members would do if they had a bf/gf who talked about killing themselves or you whenever they got upset about something.Is it worth trying to keep the relationship going? Suicidal people rarely talk about their plans to anyone. If they succeed the first time, it's usually just because their plan worked too well. I'd tell him/her to go ahead and do it. Don't have time for whiners who think every little thing is worth flinging themselves off a bridge for. If the reason was mediocre, I'd offer my help. sorry but no. suicidals often talk about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vacanti373 Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 I told my girl in korea I didn't love her so she swallowed 80 sleeping pills in front of me. I am a cruel bastard so I just laughed at her, and said I was going to leave when she fell asleep, and say I was never there. I waited for an hour until she was going to go to sleep for good, and then i drove to the close police station (where they know me well) and we went back with 6 officers and carried her to the hospital. did i do the right thing? to this day, i am not sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
condotown Posted December 1, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 I think I made the right decision in letting her go. The key point is that anyone that talks or acts negatively brings the whole relationship down. And I think that's about as negatively as anyone can talk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
L0nelyLife4eVeR Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 i would rescue them by taking them to the psychologist ... checking for the borderline disorder or let them kill themself if thats what they exactly wanna to do may be before that you can say "alrite babe, i'll die with you" don't let go if you love them...help them... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Foboss Posted December 10, 2006 Report Share Posted December 10, 2006 I think condotown must have done something to hurt that girl.. like cheated on her and she just wanted some attention from condotown. :twisted: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabaisabai Posted December 10, 2006 Report Share Posted December 10, 2006 I'm wondering what other TF members would do if they had a bf/gf who talked about killing themselves or you whenever they got upset about something.Is it worth trying to keep the relationship going? i dont think its healthy to be in such a relationship...but ill stick around to make sure she does the job well when she is in her selfdestructing mood again... poor little clarice cant seem to stop hearing the crying of the lambs... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
haiku_newyork Posted December 10, 2006 Report Share Posted December 10, 2006 I really love a crazy gal that wears black leather and whips and tie's me up! Then spreads gallons of peanut butter all over my figgly bits.... Oh sorry y'all.. This doesn't really have anything to do with this thread right... I'm so sorry.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
haiku_newyork Posted December 10, 2006 Report Share Posted December 10, 2006 I'm not afraid of crazy chick's! Atleast thier commited.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
condotown Posted December 10, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 10, 2006 I think condotown must have done something to hurt that girl.. like cheated on her and she just wanted some attention from condotown. :twisted: If u wanna know what inspired the thread, just contact me. Too bad u have a bf already. Ur so damn cute!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 I'm wondering what other TF members would do if they had a bf/gf who talked about killing themselves or you whenever they got upset about something.Is it worth trying to keep the relationship going? Suicidal people rarely talk about their plans to anyone. If they succeed the first time, it's usually just because their plan worked too well. I'd tell him/her to go ahead and do it. Don't have time for whiners who think every little thing is worth flinging themselves off a bridge for. If the reason was mediocre, I'd offer my help. sorry but no. suicidals often talk about it. successful suicidals don't. they're dead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 I think I made the right decision in letting her go. YEP. The key point is that anyone that talks or acts negatively brings the whole relationship down.And I think that's about as negatively as anyone can talk. either they are manipulative shits, and that is no basis for a relationship, or they really ARE psychos who want to kill you, and that is just no basis for a relationship. only one solution: Erase, Replace, Embrace New Face. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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