Admin_2 Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 Just try and move on. I'm not sure what circumstances made you come into a long distance relationship/marriage...but I personally think that those are doomed from the beginning...with a few exceptions of course. Not all Thai women are like that, so don't worry about not finding love over here. Things is, YOU have to ready for it. Sounds like you aren't at that point yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 Remember the Beatles lyrics of their song Revolution." If you go carrying pictures of chairman Mao you ain't gonna make it with anyone anyhow". Find yourself again and love will find you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
music Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 I am just having a hard time and looking for some light of hope that not all Thais are as evil as the cold-hearted b*tch that just decided to do what she did to me for reasons that are not explained.Sorry to hear of your circumstances. No matter how you feel now, keep your thoughts towards the light... literally. Wish your wife well but above all do the same for yourself. Cheers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalcat Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 I am just having a hard time and looking for some light of hope that not all Thais are as evil as the cold-hearted b*tch that just decided to do what she did to me for reasons that are not explained.Sorry to hear of your circumstances. No matter how you feel now, keep your thoughts towards the light... literally. Wish your wife well but above all do the same for yourself. Cheers. Although Metta is a lovely thought when somebody royally screws you over thinking "I must have done something in my past life to deserve this" or "feel bad for that person because of how they will suffer in the next life" is simply not satisfying. Go get yours :twisted: I'm so gonna get in 1000 years of bad ju ju for this buuut I cant resist... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr_Mao Posted May 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 Just try and move on. I'm not sure what circumstances made you come into a long distance relationship/marriage...but I personally think that those are doomed from the beginning...with a few exceptions of course.Not all Thai women are like that, so don't worry about not finding love over here. Things is, YOU have to ready for it. Sounds like you aren't at that point yet. This wasn't a long distance relationship. She was living with me in Korea. Thanks for the positive note! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetieBabie Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 I am just having a hard time and looking for some light of hope that not all Thais are as evil as the cold-hearted b*tch that just decided to do what she did to me for reasons that are not explained.Sorry to hear of your circumstances. No matter how you feel now, keep your thoughts towards the light... literally. Wish your wife well but above all do the same for yourself. Cheers. Although Metta is a lovely thought when somebody royally screws you over thinking "I must have done something in my past life to deserve this" or "feel bad for that person because of how they will suffer in the next life" is simply not satisfying. Go get yours :twisted: Amen ..... oops i mean Sa tuh ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exploring Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 Just try and move on. I'm not sure what circumstances made you come into a long distance relationship/marriage...but I personally think that those are doomed from the beginning...with a few exceptions of course.Not all Thai women are like that, so don't worry about not finding love over here. Things is, YOU have to ready for it. Sounds like you aren't at that point yet. This wasn't a long distance relationship. She was living with me in Korea. Thanks for the positive note! Despite of long distance relationship, your problem seem to be an universal one.whether there are a positive way of how to cheer you up or not, it is what about you to deal with your problem and please carefully choose the process that won't create the unsatisfied outcomes on the next person,I mean your next girlfriend.Anyway, I think that if u stay together, it is very rude to break up via email, or should I blaim the convenience.This point I feel sorry for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Miyavi Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 I don't know what to say really. My wife (Thai) has just told me that she wants a divorce. I am not in Thailand, but we were planning to move there in September. I am thinking of giving it a shot a still, but it has been a while since I have been single in Bangkok. Is there any hope for me? classic Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr_Mao Posted May 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 classic Despite all I have read and all of my experience, I know now what all of those stories were about! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr_Mao Posted May 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 it is very rude tobreak up via email, or should I blaim the convenience.This point I feel sorry for you. Yes, this is my biggest problem with the entire thing. She is just down the street and unwilling to talk to or meet with me. Thanks for your sympathy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 Just try and move on. I'm not sure what circumstances made you come into a long distance relationship/marriage...but I personally think that those are doomed from the beginning...with a few exceptions of course.Not all Thai women are like that, so don't worry about not finding love over here. Things is, YOU have to ready for it. Sounds like you aren't at that point yet. This wasn't a long distance relationship. She was living with me in Korea. Thanks for the positive note! You're welcome, but wow! And she did it via email? That's just strange. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Exploring Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 it is very rude tobreak up via email, or should I blaim the convenience.This point I feel sorry for you. Yes, this is my biggest problem with the entire thing. She is just down the street and unwilling to talk to or meet with me. Thanks for your sympathy. Sounds like it's time to show her who's boss... Who is the boss finally??! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faycyber Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 sorry to hear that ,but think about this you did not loss anything ... we all learn something from relationship....and we will make a new one better ... a guy who i loved said we should break up with no reason but when i asked my ex bf to break up i gave him a reason there is a reason for breaking up for sure .... but past is past ,just let it go there are alot of ppl love you and think of you and you have TFers here good luck guy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Rodinos Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 If you come to Thailand, you may find yourself in the same position very easily, especially with a clouded mind. Think of what your intentions are for coming here and then at least you can face the consequence of your actions. No turning back for you, though you can always walk forward. Good Luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalcat Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 it is very rude tobreak up via email, or should I blaim the convenience.This point I feel sorry for you. Yes, this is my biggest problem with the entire thing. She is just down the street and unwilling to talk to or meet with me. Thanks for your sympathy. Sounds like it's time to show her who's boss... Who is the boss finally??! Better late than never! and how you propose he does that... smack her around... please elaborate! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 frankly, i am what you just said either; the evil and the cold-hearted b*tch...and i'm satisfied and fully agree to be...why would anyone in their right mind be "satisfied" to be this? :shock: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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digitalcat Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 it is very rude tobreak up via email, or should I blaim the convenience.This point I feel sorry for you. Yes, this is my biggest problem with the entire thing. She is just down the street and unwilling to talk to or meet with me. Thanks for your sympathy. Sounds like it's time to show her who's boss... Who is the boss finally??! Better late than never! and how you propose he does that... smack her around... please elaborate! Not exactly. But I don't think he should just take this ... it's intolerable. Again, course of action please... elaborate! What should he do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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music Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 @Mr_Mao, I'm not sure pressing the issue with your wife is prudent. It seems she's made her decision and that's not something you have any control over. But you do have control over how you respond to this situation. Trying to win her back or confronting her is a waste of energy IMO. As somebody already mentioned, whether you relocate to Thailand or stay in Korea, you're going to have to be dead honest with yourself about your core intentions. Maybe address those first and then see if you still want to jump ship. From experience, I can say that internal issues are a part of who I am now and they don't get left behind just because I set up shop in another country. i.e. similar situation could be manifested wherever I am. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LasseDK Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 Yes, this is my biggest problem with the entire thing. She is just down the street and unwilling to talk to or meet with me. Thanks for your sympathy. Divorce on email - and shes not even willing to talk to you about it ?? whats wrong with her ? Thats one coldhearted evil woman, makes me wanna puke. Hope she is not ripping you off financially ? if you should look at this on a bright side, then she made you a favour by doing it, as you should get away from that girl as fast as possible. she obviously has no heart or any empathy at all. Better now, than wasting more time with such a person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr_Mao Posted May 31, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 31, 2009 @Mr_Mao, I'm not sure pressing the issue with your wife is prudent. It seems she's made her decision and that's not something you have any control over. But you do have control over how you respond to this situation. Trying to win her back or confronting her is a waste of energy IMO.As somebody already mentioned, whether you relocate to Thailand or stay in Korea, you're going to have to be dead honest with yourself about your core intentions. Maybe address those first and then see if you still want to jump ship. From experience, I can say that internal issues are a part of who I am now and they don't get left behind just because I set up shop in another country. i.e. similar situation could be manifested wherever I am. I just thought I should clarify. I am not planning to jump ship. My contract for work will be finished at the end of August. At that time, I need to leave the country one way or the other. I was always planning to return to Thailand. I just thought I would be doing so with my wife. Half of my belongings are there. My motorbike is there. Hell, everything is there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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