well, I have been told this from many TGs , so it is time to listenand take the slow approach, no questions about a gal's marital status until you've been seeing her for about a monthonly see her once/weektry the whole "friends" thing to start out.... 

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Are you hoping to be a gig? Wouldn't you want to find out if she is married or not before you waste your time. Maybe some guy will come after you with a machetti if you don't.

Good luck. You seem really interested in this girl.

yeah well, I used to try to the direct approach and just ask if they have a BF/husband, but that seems to scare them away here in Chiang Mai