if he or she deny to be your lover.Will u be her friend ? or disappear because feel  lose face.or else angry +  feel waste time ?

if you gonna continue to be his/her friend, make sure you don't live with any hidden hope but just purely maintain friendship otherwise it will lead to some anger and problem later on.

Whatever you do however you feel know that is is christmas and if you want something more then contact me i wait and wait ok

I denied one friend.Coz he ask me to be his lover.After that, He disappear?! I don't know why he can not continue to be my friend.

I guess its hard to be "just" friends whith some one u love.U always gonna hope for more

But if u love him or she as a friend to u should give it a try

I did once and we was best friend many years

after this reject,in future something will change of course.but nobody loses the face and it s more bad if a person has regrets. i think it s always positive to talk about my emotions and i never lose my face. if the other person is open mind, you don t have any problems for restart your friendship but if other person think as lillydilly is a problem, she can t have married friends, you can immagine if she can have friend after this history that you explain

I agree with guttes2 in that I think it would be difficult to be friends with someone you love or have deep feelings for, not impossible, but difficult (at least at first). But given time and perhaps a long talk a true friend will be there for you.

My 1st gf in Chiang Mai, broke my heart twice.........I would have given her everything...... :-( Even though it was hard, still remember the 1st day I met her........and I fell in love with her.......:-) Just because our relationship didn't eventually work out......neither of us were to blame..........so we're still good friends, and still keep in touch....;-) I call her every year on her birthday to wish her the best.........

Is rape an option?

What if you make love a few times and then try to just be friends?

Like what if your trimmed pubic hairs rub him the wrong way or if your girl part isn't deep enough to take his full length or you realize that he feels sad if you don't care enough to swallow? There can be a mutual understanding that friendship is the only option when two are sexually incompatible.

The reason he may not be your friend after u refused to be his lover is likely because he wants to use his energy to find and please himself and other lovers rather than just going to movies and eating dinners and sitting around looking at you. Maybe when his testosterone levels drop he will have more time for "friendship" on your terms.

Guess I gotta go along with condotown on this one. SURE the part about certain things not being too deep and that stuff might be too specific and maybe to staright forward. BUT the point is if you are not compatible with each other you should be honest.

But in most cases it is more about the one just wanting to be friends and have some fun instead of a relationship and there isn't a real chance it is ever gonna work out. If you're both ok with that it's no problem but if one looks for love and the other just for fun... break up as soon as possible coz you're not going anywhere.

I was in this kind of situation a couple of times before, at least for me that never worked out that is for sure