sabaisabai Posted October 27, 2004 Report Share Posted October 27, 2004 Why we guys think too much?? Ill tell you why!! i have NO idea!! I can suggest one thing though...i think its time to talk about this issue with him. Cause this can effect future communication. He needs to respect u and trust u enough to let u have friends (male or female). The same goes for u ofcourse. listen to this: If you respond to stress or conflict with an ingrained pattern that includes avoidance, anger, denial, etc., it can get in the way of effective communication, distancing you even further from your partner. I suggests using the steps below in order to communicate with emotional integrity. Give or receive input. Be open to receiving input from your partner. You have to be willing to test and be tested. You don't have to say everything you're thinking, but everything you do say has to be accurate. If your partner asks you if you're upset, and you are, you have to be willing to say, "Yes." It's important that both partners know they are going to be told the truth. Reflect content and feelings. After receiving input from your partner, verify that what you are hearing is what your partner is actually saying. You've got to say, "What I hear from you content-wise is..." Then, to make sure you understand what he/she is feeling, you can say something like, "The feeling I'm getting from you is resentment/anger/hurt, etc." Accept Feedback and Respond. If you are the person who is giving the input, you have to clarify things if your partner isn't hearing what you are honestly trying to say. If you are the person receiving the input, you can respond once you know what you are responding to. Now that you are clear on what your partner is really saying, you can accept the feedback. Stay in the moment. Stay with the issues at hand. Do not discuss past history at any time during this process. Do not leave. Do not leave the discussion until it is completed. To keep it from dragging on, you can negotiate a time limit beforehand so that both of you know how long the conversation will last. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biachung Posted October 28, 2004 Report Share Posted October 28, 2004 Cos he in love with beautiful girl, he worry some one come to take her away, anyway don't think too much, maybe he will chill soon 8) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabaisabai Posted October 28, 2004 Report Share Posted October 28, 2004 so..less thinking more talking? what do u think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabaisabai Posted October 28, 2004 Report Share Posted October 28, 2004 less thinking, more talking -- it seems like you just wasting time with that person or you just get bored of something, but if you think of him/her more.. it would be caring ~ just my opinion though. .."wasting time with that person" ?? which one are we talking about? the 3rd party? or the BF? dammit...i think too much Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dojib854 Posted October 28, 2004 Report Share Posted October 28, 2004 Jealousy, Jealousy, the worst thing that can happen to a relationship. I honestly don't give a **** if an old bf calls my gf or whatever. She likes me ,she will stay, if not so be it. I got enough self confidence to go on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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