How to Tell If He's Into You

Gauging a guy's interest level can be tough early on. Keep reading to learn the subtle clues that will give you a sneak peek into his heart.

He Teases You

"If a guy jokes with you by, say, chasing you around a tree or picking a play fight with you, it's his flirty way of letting you know he's interested," Bernstein points out. You know how guys are always pushing one another around and cracking up as they call each other dumb ass? Although it seems juvenile, men bond with others through these playful interactions. And he may use these childish antics to get closer to you.

He's Animated


One way to assess if he's digging you: Look at his face. "If he raises his eyebrows and smiles while talking to you, it's a sign you've piqued his interest," explains nonverbal communication expert Audrey Nelson, Ph.D., author of You Don't Say. "When his body is equally as amped (for instance, he uses his hands when telling a story), it indicates that he's in the early stages of enthrallment.

He Makes Himself Available


Pay attention when he breaks out his BlackBerry or Palm to check his schedule. "If he volunteers that he's going to be free on specific days, he's hinting that he wants to see you then," says psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D., coauthor of Why Can't You Read My Mind? On the flip side, if he goes on about how packed his calendar is, he may be making excuses for why he won't have time to see you again.

He Means What He Says


To figure out if he's being sincere, see if his expression matches what he's saying. If he tells you "I'd love to take you to my favorite breakfast joint," he should look happy and eager. "The truth is expressed through the nonverbal, especially when it comes to guys," explains Nelson. "You should always go with what his face is telling you, even if his words seem to suggest otherwisea"