Last week I got an e-mail message from a girl that I dated (more like a 4 month very passionate affair) about 3 years ago. She wanted to get in touch and ?just see how things are going?. I had heard that she was married about a year and half ago, but figured it wouldn?t hurt just to talk to her so I gave her my number and she called me last night. Yes, indeed she is married (to a guy in the U.S. Army), but I could tell in her voice that she didn?t sound happy. We just laughed and joked about our past and talked about each other?s current life. Then she asked if I would come visit her in California (about an 8 hour flight from where I live near Washington, DC). I asked her if she would tell her husband if I was to visit her. To which she answered ?no?. I think she has more on her mind than just a visit.

I always thought it was just the guys that were unfaithful, but I guess a married woman can have those intentions too. I figured perhaps her marriage is starting to lose some of the passion. After a year and a half, I guess it isn?t new and exciting anymore?and perhaps she?s looking for something exciting?she remembers how steamy our affair was and wants to try and recapture some of that flame. But then what happens? Will she be torn between her husband and me? Or perhaps she?ll just satisfy her desires and then return happily to her husband?

BTW, I haven?t answered whether I will come see her or not, but I doubt that I will. I?ve never fooled around with someone else?s wife?and I can?t think that any good will come from it?other than a few days of some complete and total erotic sensuous fun?okay, I have to stop thinking about it right now.

I am one of married women too ...you know it right?

There are something similar about that girl and me ..but not 100% .

It is on contrast with your...I get so many calls from guys who I ever dated with , after they know that I got married

Well, and I just like ppl to fall for me ...that's it....But to be frank , I am not yet used to with my marriage life though. Marriage life are some parts not so excited ....

Getting used to marriage, for both men and women, is tough. It is a completely different existence. i remember getting back from honeymoon and thinking...ok....so what happens now?! U see the same person all the time. U get used to their toilet habits. U go to the supermarket together. it's ok..u are in love. But..sometimes u think...is there something more? then kids and that is a whole new existence. Some of us are made for marriage. I have doubts that I am one...but I applaud all who succeed.

maybe some of you married people can answer this...and my apologies if you find this question crude...but i gotta know. ok, we all know (or want to believe) that there is a difference between making love and having sex. but what happens after you've been having sex...oops, i mean making love to the same person day in and day out (or after a while i would think week in and week out, and then month in and month out...and then once a year, maybe)? after a while, don't you get tired of the same person? don't you desire to try it with someone new? i know love is supposed to sustain us, but physical desires are pretty strong. what happens then?