Last week I worked in the infertility clinic. There were many couples came to the clinic. All of them seemed to be really ready for a new family member but, unluckily, they just couldn't have one. I'll give you an interesting example here. There's a couple, the husband is 32 years old and the wife is 29 years old. They seem like a healthy couple who should get a baby without any difficulties, right? But the wife had ovarian cyst and tumor before. She has had left salpingo-oophorectomy (cut the left ovary and tube), and right cystectomy (cut only the cyst on right ovary) surgeries since the age of 17 and 25 respectively. So, it means she has only 50-60 percents of right ovary left. The chance that she can get pregnant is as much as that in 40-year-old women. But, seems like that's not bad enough for them. The husband had semen exam, and found out that he had only 10 percents sperms from the normal value. He had re-exam again and the result was the same.  My professor said the only way for them to get a baby was "IVF", or in-vitro fertilization. As it will be hard to use other methods (I'm not going deep in the details) because the problems arise from both of them. The cost for "each" IVF is 100,000 - 150,000 baht (this is the cheapest rate, as it's a medical school here). Some of you may think it's not expensive. But, you know what, the success rate is only 20 percents!  Those couples in the clinic are willing to pay though. As I said, they are really ready for a baby. They've got high education, good jobs, high salary ... but unluckily, their lives aren't fulfilled yet. I, myself, have a high risk of becoming infertile too. I've experienced "polycystic ovarian syndrome" (PCOS) for 2 years already. My ovaries cannot "function" normally to give a healthy egg in each month. So there are many small eggs (this is where "polycystic" come from) which are not healthy enough to regulate ovulatory and menstrual cycles (Am I using medical terms? Hope not  ). Knowing that I may be infertile really makes me sad because I wanna have babies so much. Well, I know I'm not ready now cause I am still a university student. But, you know, working in Pediatric and Obstetric departments is some kind of temptation! Babies are sooooooo sweet ...    Although some babies look bored since the first day of their lives    (This baby might be thinking "why do I have to be wrapped?") But now I'd like to ask you some questions.If you were infertile (like the above couple), what would you do?- would you do the IVF? - would you adopt a child?- other choices?  AND if the defect was from you guys, would you accept sperms from a donor? Also the same question for ladies, would you accept eggs from a donor?  Have a nice day everyone, and may the fertility be with you ...   

I Love kids......

KiSS them xxxxxx hehe

Here are some interesting facts ...

- Infertility is diagnosed when a couple have sex on regular basis of 2-3 times a week without any contraception AND cannot get pregnant within a year.

- In a sexual intercourse between a healthy man and a healty woman, the chance of the woman to get pregnant is 30-35 percents.

- The chance of getting pregnant in women decreases by age, 30-35% in women with regular menstruation til the age of 35. Around 25% in women age 35-40, and 2-10% for those who are over 40 years old.

- There should be 20 millions sperms per 1 cc of semen in healthy men.

I'll come up with something new later when I can think of it ... lol

i don't know if i would go as far as having a reversed vasectomy to try to have children again, but i have a close friend that did! it seems awful that some people have these problems, and will go to wits end for a family..........but there is always the adoption option too!

This is a very informative journal, i like it..

If I have the money the IVF is fine...If not, adoption is also fine with me. - as long as I get to pick the baby. (not really sure if that's possible).

God seems to have a sense of humor. Some couples desperately want a child and are not able....some people seem to have children that they do not want.

No Geri, luckily is not possible to chose the child to adopt, unless you dont want to go for illegal adoptions

At 36 it would be just my luck to find out I'm shooting potato water! A lifetime's potential savings wasted on Durex!

Joking aside - I wish these couples well.

this is some sad story, i have a cousins who are like that too and they are now having to go through the same thing .

my cousine had 2 kids invetro, and i misscarrage from it

I'd go for the IVF, but then in Denmark the government will actually pay the first three tries . . . Of course i'd have to be married and trying for a while, to be eligible . . .

Other than that I figure I'd prefer to adopt over getting a donor . . .

Do you really have to try for a full year ??? Shiiit . . . I'd better get started then . . .

BTW in Denmark if one of the parents ina couple is more than 40, they won't allow you to adopt . . . Furtnermore it costs one million+ to adopt . . . So difficult unless you have a lot of money to spare . . .