From Wigi saysPassive-aggressive behavior refers to passive, sometimes obstructionist resistance to following authoritative instructions in interpersonal or occupational situations. It can manifest itself as resentment, stubbornness, procrastination, sullenness, or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is assumed, often explicitly, to be responsible. It is a defense mechanism and, more often than not, only partly conscious. For example, people who are passive-aggressive might take so long to get ready for a party they do not wish to attend, that the party is nearly over by the time they arrive. Alternatively, leaving notes to avoid face-to-face discussion/confrontation is another form of passive-aggressive behavior.I haven't seen this world before until someone said I was a Passive Aggressive person. So I started search...Well, like I see myself in mirror... quite clear. but the problem is "How to fix it?"

Here are the main traits of Passive/Agressive behaviour, for you info. It is very common.

PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOUR

Most people will use some sort of Passive Aggressive behavior at some point in their lives. It is not considered by professionals to be a mental illness. However, when it is unchecked (or the person is unaware of it) and becomes a habit, it can cause unnecessary damage in their work, personal and romantic relationships.

Below are the most common traits.

FEAR OF DEPENDENCY - Unsure of their independence and afraid of being alone, they fight their dependency needs - usually by trying to control other people around her.

FEAR OF INTIMACY - Guarded and often mistrustful, they are reluctant to show their emotional fragility. They?re often out of touch with their feelings and especially denying feelings they think will ?trap? or ?reveal? them, like love. They pick fights to create distance.

FEAR OF COMPETITION ? When feeling inadequate or insecure, they are unable to compete with others in work and in love. They may behave either as self-sabotaging, with a pattern of failure, or they?ll be the tyrant, setting themselves up as unassailable and perfect, eliminating any threat to their power.

OBSTRUCTIONISM - They won't say when, and often be deliberately slow, especially with decisions, just to frustrate you. Maybe they won't even decide at all. They tend to block any real progress they see to your getting your way.

CREATING CHAOS - They prefer to leave the puzzle incomplete, or confusing to others.

FEELING VICTIMIZED - They hate to be criticised. To remain above reproach, they set themselves up as the apparently innocent victim of your demands or expectations.

MAKING EXCUSES & LYING ? They go as far as they can to make up excuses for not fulfilling promises. As a way of withholding information, affirmation or love - to have power over you - they may choose to make up a story rather than give you a straight answer.

PROCRASTINATION - They have an odd sense of time - they believe that they can make up their mind whenever they wish ? or never.

FORGETFULNESS - By keeping you waiting, they set the ground rules of the relationship. And their selective forgetting - used only when they want to avoid an obligation.

AMBIGUITY ? They are the master of mixed messages and sitting on fences and not making decisions. When they tell you something, you may still walk away wondering if they actually said yes or no.

SULKING - Feeling like a victim when they are unable to live up to their promises or obligations, they retreat from pressures around them and sulk, pout and withdraw.

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hmmmmmmm? go see your shrink..........lol

Gosh!! so sorry my hormone is changing may be...

act like a stupidy all the time for a couple of days.