Well I?m here again man!....just nothing to do much that?s why I wanna make new journal here to share all tf members read it. Maybe it seems stupid in your sight but look!!! If you had any experienced about love you must had experienced about broken heart. Depends on whose stories sad sadder or saddest.....the reason why we are broken heart so simple! Cos some of them wanna be single(for now but after this time they won?t), some of them get a chance to meet nicer person, some of them getting bored with old fat man/woman at home who?s never shut his/her mouth up since you stepped your feet home....Or whatever reasons who cares??? Right? Well but all of those ppl never know that what did they left behind. It?s sadness!! All bullshit things come to you and finally make you have to find the way out.....what?s the best way? For me? What did I do to forget my bf? 100% it?s not so easy to forget someone who has you smiled with. But when this situation came closed to you...what else you ganna do? If you won?t try to forget him/her...I don?t know.....but I think I?m get used to with all of these bullshit things. Ppl comes and goes....its normal. Life is life. Well let?s see what I?ll try to tell you......

We feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not. We may have spent days,weeks,months,years negotiating with reality concerning particular people from our past and our present. We may have spent years trying to get someone to love us in a certain way, when that person cannot or will not. We feel empty as if part of us is gone, questioning ourselves on what we could have done to fix it and make it better. You may long for closure. There are things you want to tell her/him.....

Every few nights or so, you pop into my dreams, I just can?t get rid of you like you got rid of me.

A million words wouldn?t bring you back. I know because I?ve tried, neither would a million tears. I know because I?ve cried.

Should I hate you because you hurt me? Or should I love you because you made me feel special? (Pissed off!!!!)

Even if she/he doesn?t want me today, I knew she/he loved me yesterday, and may love me again tomorrow. (Maybe dude! or never ever)

The hardest thing to do, is to watch you love someone else. (oh poor babe)

If I never fall in love again, I?m okay with that because I had the chance to be in love with you. (Wanna through up)

But how can you get over it? How can you help yourself and move on? These are a few general suggestions that have been taken from many therapy books on broken hearts.

1. Once you've broken up, make it a clean break. You've probably done as much talking it out and closure as you need to for now. But better don?t! Today you need to think about making yourself feel better.

2. Spend lots of time with friends. (Well if I don?t have any friends? Your internet friends who you chatted with) find someone whom you can pour your heart out to.

3. This is a good time to rekindle relationships with old friends. It'll remind you of who you were before this relationship. You'll start to feel like your old self again.... It'll remind you that you had a life before this relationship and help you to believe that you can have one again.

4. When you find yourself thinking about your ex and all the great times you had try to remember the worst times. Remember how bad you felt when...... Breaking up has a way of making you highlight all the good stuff.

5. Everything is going to remind you of your ex. Every song. Every movie. This will happen for a long time. It's like you never had a life before the two of you met, but you did. It'll come back to you. You'll want to share things with your ex, just like you used to. You see something that he or she would like...This is normal.

6. You want closure? It's not closure. It's open sure. Opening an unhealed wound. Don't do it. Is there a reason to call and ask why he/she broke up with you? Yes, if you want to feel more pain. There's time for this tomorrow (and when tomorrow comes, you won't care to know the answer cos he/she gone or disappeared already)

7. How do you know when you are over it? It's not when you hate the person or you are no longer secretly holding on to hope. It's when you don't care anymore.

8. When you find yourself focusing on your ex's feelings instead of your own, force yourself to focus on your own feelings. It's natural to think about what your ex might be doing or thinking. But listen! Why should you care he/she evens she /he never care you. Waste your time to think about it.

9. Do things that you have put off for a long time. Fun things.

10. Don't over indulge in drugs or alcohol. But it can?t help! Go get it for a few days but remember that you must love yourself. If not who?s ganna love you?

11. Put pictures of your ex away! Don't look through your albums. Don't throw them away right now either. You may be sorry later.

12. Don't make major life changes in other areas. You can do things that make you feel better.what did I do? I make myself more beautiful to make ppl says that your ex is goddamn stupid to leave such a great girl like you!!!!

The best thing to do is to live your life and free yourself, allow yourself to grieve and then allow yourself to let go.....

I enjoyed your post. You should write them more often.

*nb. Anyone that starts whining that it's too long is gonna get a clip round the ear.

Be happy! Time heals all wounds. Everyone experiences love, hate, sadness & happiness. You're only human after all. I think you're better than that guy anyway. You're too good for him. You're sure to find someone as nice as you are,

Take care.

Very good advice 1-12 and I agree about everything but the only one that can really help your self is y o u and try as soon as possible to find as you said "your old self again" bcs thats the real y o u.

But it take time to heal a deep wound - the deeper the longer time needed. You are not the first, the last or the only one that will experience this - not to say a few comforting words to you.

My advice is to not try to change your self - just be your self and someone will love you for who you are. But you can always learn from your mistakes -

Yeah nice post....Interesting to read! Thanks for sharing

the TFALW avoids making any comment for fear of getting "clipped" round the ear.

this is probably the longest journal i couldn't be arsed reading ... can we have the concise version pls ??