where on earth do i start?

Onlnyx, darling, i'm flattered that you would actually spend your time on my journal, when you - the busy man who is constantly late for dates due to "business appointments" - would surely have far more important things in hand to manage. Methinks you're not thinking too straight (due to hectic schedule? or your "advanced age"? or the apparent 'stress' you're under?)..in your first reply you moan about the woes of dating a 19 year old (hmmactually i'm 20 this year, but scrap that), then whoa - later on you mention that some 19 year olds can be far more mature than 30 year olds..?? then you swear off 19 year olds again? tsk tsk. Contradictory statements - some men never seem to grow out of it eh? reminds me of Clinton, that. *grin*

ooh ouch, i'm hurting so bad from that statement, (can you see the sarcasm? no?)

"not only am I swearing off girls as young as you but I am also hoping to be lucky enough not to have gfs who enter relationships based on looks and sportiness"

...teeheehee...hun, no need to hope to be lucky, cause any girl who enters a relationship with would clearly not be entering the relationship based on those reasons. so no worries.

so dumped your 20 year old yet? or still flattered at the illusion that she apparently has "no real interest in money"? tsk. oldest trick in the book. give or take 2 months. get back to me on that one.

actually a thought just dawned on me...perhaps reasons why some men actually prefer to date us "rich-*******" is because we're truly the ones who posses a real form of financial independence? Perhaps our persona, being free of insecurities or the need to cling desperately to any Westerner we can get our claws on to "rescue" us from the lives we lead in the poor, impoverished lands of South East Asia make us seem like the "*******" other men label us as? Its not really fair..but ah well. What can we do? These are the men who would choose to date girls who earn less than 5% of their income, who cant get a sense of power/control/authority in any other form i suppose. Hey if you're not going to be better looking, or as good looking as your girl, you better be helluva lot wealthier than she is. like 95% richer. at least.

And i suppose you think your relationship isnt in the category of "unhealthy relationships" you mentioned? Okay lets do some math shall we.

20 Year Old Girl + Puppy Love + Earning very little = X

Y = 35 yeard old "bastard" (quoting you here), who will be more likely to cheat on her + contradictory statements + cynicism + male chauvanism - punctuality.

ookie i failed algebra but i'm thinking the common factors X + Y = unhealthy relationship? Do correct me if i'm wrong?

Onlyx, lookie here. I am not looking for sympathy. If you read through my journal, its hardly filled with "OH WOE IS ME!" statements. i ***** about my weight, yes. I ***** about men, agreed. I ***** about family, experiences, and life in general. Dont ever see any bitching about myself (which is what people who look for sympathy do).

Are you still reading this? Dont you have work to do? well i do. so i'm doing to stop here for now.

Slurms, thank you. Modesty, yes i suppose i could do with a dose or two more of that. working on it! *laughs* Perspective...now thats one thing i think i posses, though clearly not enough of, but methinks it'll grow with age. Hopefully i wont end up a cynic, but if i do, i know i'll have you to fish me out of that unfortunate pool.

take care, people. off to the gym, then Uni application, then final shot of Xfresh TV! wish me luck, have a great day.

ps. onlynx, had the liberty to copy this post before sending it through in case it get screwed up, JUST for you.

B R A V O ! ! !

sorry, i didn't mean to be part of this argument, i just love this journal so much...

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that is one of the best journal i ever read.... have a good day andrea.

You guys crack me up...thanks for the entertainment Andrea this goes to show Malaysia Boleh...boleh tulis, boleh gaduh, boleh main-main and I am sure you can boleh other things too....way to go girl..-KK

um have to agree with you onlynx. i removed this girl from my msn contact list coz she had such an annoying superiority complex. you should read her blogspot off tf shes a bit in love with herself. lol. the last straw was I made some comment to her about not being bothered on either side to continue the interaction given the way it had developed and she smugly said "that would be an interesting line to try". she could only interpret it as my trying it on! straight off my contact list and never missed. lol.

you obviously touched a raw nerve with your post - nothing hurts like a bit of truth too close to home.