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(probably should've done this as a blog but ah well ) Considering that at the moment TF doesn't have many western women I do realise that maybe this isn't exactly the right place to say this but I need to get it of my chest. The main question is..... How do you get used to your friends leaving? I've been feeling a bit down as most of my friends are leaving Thailand in quick succession. For instance: 1) Rakhee went back to South Africa 2) Randy went back to London for a while (she was meant to go for 3 months but she's no longer sure whether she's coming back) 3) Chris went back to the states 4) Ashley went back to Colorado 5) Chelsea has moved to Chumpon & will stay there until she visits England then will go back to South Africa 6) Mariza is travelling with her bf & is gonna decide whether to go back to South Africa afterwards 7) Annabel & Jasmine are going back to England in about a month 8) Linn (my closest friend here) is going to Sweden (but it's only for a month ) 2-6 happened in the same month! 8 is happening tomorrow! None of them were tourists either (except for Jasmine) They all had been living here for quite some time, had jobs, apartments, etc... I've got a friend in Laos who has decided to go back to England as he can't deal with making friendships & seeing them leave shortly after anymore. Mind you, the bar he was working for got burnt down but I still think the options for him in Laos are far better than in England, what with the unemployment situation. lol. So yeah, I know I need to grow some balls & stop being a moaning sissy but still, any thoughts or comments are much welcomed

It's funny and sad in the same time that I have seen my friends and my mom's friends got married and their lives were totally changed. When I was young I did believe when ppl met their soul mates and got married their lives would be happy ever after but many things more than love. hrrrr.. Case 1. Promotion period....I knew this couple when I was a teenager, I helped my mom at her shop when I got semester break. My mom's friend rent my mom's shop for working as a dress maker... there was a guy who liked her so much... he worked at a garage in Ekkamai, he came to see my mom's friend every evening at Sukhumvit soi 1 (There was no BTS that time and he didn't has car) ... so he did won her heart... They got married... and my mom's friend bought a condo room with her own money at Soi Barring, she came to work every day by taking a bus, her husband requested her to buy a car so he could drive her to work and bring her home. So she did bought a second hand car for him. When Promotion was over.... I asked my mom's friend every time I met her.."where is your car? I really wanna see it" "Can you drive? Ahh you don't need to drive, right cuz you got a driver, haha" but she never laugh about it. Cuz her husband keep his car for himself. When she pregnant she still took bus to work and home. Until now she still go to work and go home by taking a bus.... Sometimes I saw she cried... my mom got only one word for her "PATIENCE" Case 2. It happened to my friend... I know this couple since I started working at my workplace...I know since they were BF/GF. They are very good couple to me. The first 2 years that I started work, I didn't have a car, when I worked until late at night, my friend always asked her BF to take me back home... and he always did that. He was a very nice man... He lived in Rangsit, he drove from his place to her place at Ladproa brought her to her workplace at Suk. before he went to work at Silom. Every evening, he came to pick her up, sent her home (sometimes dropped me at Ratchada) then he went back to Rangsit. I told my friend they should get married... and not so long they did. When promotion was over. After they got married he moved to her house... changed job. I could feel that he had small changed. When we went shopping..he called her that he arrived the shopping mall, and he didn't wanna wait. (but when he was BF he could wait). One day There was a farang trainee, he was 17 years old but his body was bigger than me.. His last day I had to take him to see a movie and dinner. I didn't wanna go with him alone... so I asked her to be with me. Half of movie her husband called said he arrived so she just left me and farang trainee at that moment. A big changed came when she pregnant her first son. She had to go back home by BTS and he would pick her up at the station until she got her 2nd son. Until now... when we work late at night I always drive to her place, it's quite far from me but I don't wanna let her take taxi... her soi is too dark, and kinda dangerous. My mom said I always think about her safety but I have never think about my own safety. Plus, one day she told me, "Neung if you wanna get married, find someone who is really really talkative, you see my husband? you know he was a talkative guy but nowaday, he just keeps his thought in his mind, and I don't know what he wants me to do...." grrrrrrrrrrrr.... Case 3. I got a friend of mine got same same story, the man who was her BF always helped her, drove her home and work, when they became husband and wife. Same story had happened. Now she has to wait for her husband after work under the express way... Why the guys changed their behavior after get married?... does every couple like this? It makes me scared of married life...