Are you with the right partner???

[BoaHan_Jan]

I came across this post and I would like to share it here, it's a beautiful message for people seeking the perfect relationship and the right person.

ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind

replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you

fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,

want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you

may begin to desire that experience with someone

else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know

WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

[kaunitz]

Hmmmm.... There are some interesting points in your post but also some - for me! - utterly senseless. Believing in god (whatever his name might be) is a private thing and I would not discuss it here. But saying that relationship is determined by god is something I would call "denial of responsibility".

But I am with you in the point that love is a kind of decision. The first feeling is "being in love" and after that, love, also as a feeling, evolves. But only, if you are committed, and this is your decision. So you are (or the article is) right in this point, 100%!

Everyone has his own experiences and, even more important, his own perceptions. Therefore, everyone has to define his own definitions of love. The given example might be a good point, but it might not be applicable to everyone. Never forget this! Concerning real love, let your heart decide - and not on a single event but on the holistic approach!

[FarangFarang]

Everything I know about love I learned from sappy love songs :-)

[BoaHan_Jan]

In my experience I follow my heart but it didn't work the way I wanted it to be, reading this article made me realised that I was wrong all along. "The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found." I will apply this to the next perdon that I will find. hehe

Yes, I agree that "Love is a decision" but sometimes no matter how committed you are into the relationship or with the person, it just doesn't work so best thing to let go and move on.

[FarangFarang]

In my experience I follow my heart but it didn't work the way I wanted it to be, reading this article made me realised that I was wrong all along. "The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found." I will apply this to the next perdon that I will find. hehe

Yes, I agree that "Love is a decision" but sometimes no matter how committed you are into the relationship or with the person, it just doesn't work so best thing to let go and move on.

I'm probably in the minority (at least from the horror stories I hear) but I'm actually very good friends with most of my ex-girlfriends. I think a big, big part of having a successful relationship is knowing what a bad relationship is. If you can't look at this person and feel that you'll be sitting on a porch 40 years from now complaining about those damn kids walking on your lawn you should just end it then and there. You're not going to suddenly want to be with them the rest of your life.