Men who cry

[khun_lung]

So this forum entry is mainly for the ladies. What do you think about a guy who cries? Maybe at a movie, maybe at a wedding, maybe after an argument. Are they less masculine than men who don't cry? Or does the fact that they are able to show their emotions a good thing? Or not so good?

[duanja]

No. Every people gotta cry.

Actually my bf cries much more than me.

I like it first, i think it is a sígn of showing emotion openly.

But then I think he cries too often.

[lizardo]

acceptable if u get salt in ur eye whilst slammin' tequila.....otherwise....

only for celine dion records.....

[duanja]

No. Every people gotta cry.

Actually my bf cries much more than me.

I like it first, i think it is a sígn of showing emotion openly.

But then I think he cries too often.

That's why I included it under "when you're invisible".

Women just seem to have more rights, don't you think?

I mean the person (regardless of sexes) who cries too often becomes too much for me to handle.

I like to see him crying when he is sad or happy. I like to kiss away the tears.

But I do not appreciate crying after fighting. My bf like to cry when we fight. Because it is like i am the person who make him crying, it feels awkward.

I also do not know what to do coz at that time i am supposed to be angry.

I also would like to ask you guys that does a man deliberately use woman's trick sometimes?

[Ammy]

Of course, I appreciate and am touched when my bf cries for me... It shows me that he is sentimental and be able to express his emotions out. It actually makes me love him even more!!! Coz he opens up enough to let me see his weakest moment of being a guy...

It would appear to be less musculine if he cries too often though... I dont like a weeping baby!

[vacanti373]

Iguess I shouldn't admit it..lol, but i just saw the movie "the notebook" last week.

and I cried. (not a lot, but I did cry )

it is a very beautiful sad story.

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i have never seen the Titanic , nor want to because I hear eveybody cries.

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and to tell you a story i heard about my friend who went to see the titanic in the theater,

he said when the movie ended, and the lights went on,

around 35 -50 men weren't moving out of their chairs,

because they were so emberassed they were crying,

and didn't want anyone to see their wet eyes.

i tend to think men in Asia cry less than caucasians for cultural reasons, beliefs, training, upbringing, with concepts like "saving face"

[tangofox]

For guys, we cry to heal our hurt inside whether painful, emotional, or joyful... I have to admit that I cried for 6 months straight after my fiancee was put to rest. But in those 6 months, I had heal my shattered and broken heart to make me a stronger and better person now. Crying is not a sign of weakness but rather a sign of life. Too much crying is acting.. Too little is denying.

tango

[afook06]

I was one to not ever let my feelings go.........I remember at my mother's funeral shedding a tear, my then wife said to me, why are you crying? You need to be strong and show this? She was wrong.!!!! I remember a doctor telling me, what do children do when they get hurt? The answer was cry.......we are all children. Women can do this much easier than us men.....they will release their thoughts and anger with tears.......but the men are told to hold back, stay strong, etc.....it's a macho thing....but it really hurts us much more inside to keep our feelings inside.......and then you just end up a mental case! Crying is not a shame or show of weakness......crying sometimes will help us all to realize that we are all children, when hurt.......it's best to let it all out......

[cerberus1264]

:twisted: :twisted:

I cry every time I have to leave Thailand......and Bobby.....LOL :twisted: :twisted:

[CiaranM]

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i have never seen the Titanic , nor want to because I hear eveybody cries.

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and to tell you a story i heard about my friend who went to see the titanic in the theater,

he said when the movie ended, and the lights went on,

around 35 -50 men weren't moving out of their chairs,

because they were so emberassed they were crying,

and didn't want anyone to see their wet eyes.

i cried after seeing Titanic .... i couldn't believe i'd just wasted 3 hours of my life watching the biggest pile of shitttt ever !!!!!

[grezzzy_greer]

I think it is a completely natural thing to do, a normal reaction to pain, whether it is pain of the body or of the soul.

Men cry, and why on earth should they not? The guys who have admitted it here are, in my opinion, much more honest and down to earth than those who pretend they don't cry.

Yes, I do too...one of the worst days of my life was January the 8th when I had to take my kids to the airport and watch them leave with my ex-wife to live in Australia, and at the same time I had to go to Kuala Lumpur, leaving Grezzzy at home in Bangkok alone...I cried that day...for the loss of my children, and leaving my lovely fiance at home...it was too much all at once.

My daughter is 11, my son is 9, and the baby daughter is 21 months...even the memory of seeing them wave goodbye to daddy, and not knowing when I would see them again, can bring tears to my eyes.

ON a happy note - one that did not make me cry - Grezzzy and I spent two weeks with the kids in Australia last month, and it was wonderful to be together again..especially to see little Kira...so cute!

[khun_lung]

A few years ago my father passed away while I was here in bkk. When I flew back to the USA I was sure that I would cry rivers at the funeral.

But something strange happened. At the funeral, and there were many in attendance, I felt fiercely proud of my father. He lived to age 91 and had a wonderful and full life and made a difference in this world. He even played cards with my mother the night before he died.

And I had taken both my mother and father aside a few years earlier, and difficult as it was, told them how much I appreciated all that they had done for me and how much I loved them. I am so glad, in retrospect, that I did that before it was too late!

My eyes were dry throuhout the funeral. I felt truly as if it was a celebration of his life, not so much paying respect to the deceased.

Oh yes, I've been known to blubber at some weddings, and some funerals, and some movies. "Moulin Rouge" was the worst, what a terrible, sad story!

[khun_lung]

And during the nine years I spent with my ex Thai gf, I saw her cry only once, and she cried like a baby. It was the day that Princess Diana died. Diana was her idol and it was just too much for her!

[vacanti373]

crying can be part of a healing process, and to supress crying may bring on a thing psychologists call "the hydraulic metaphor"

when you push it won and bury it(crying), something else will "pop up" somewhere else .

you have to "live through the pain to heal properly"

let me state one example:

i know this guy.

he had a terrible break up with his commonlaw wife.

he cried every night.

then he stopped crying while awake...

he got stronger.

but he cried every night in his sleep for months, waking up to a soaking wet pillow.

he went to the doctor, and got anti depressants, and also took some other ilegal drugs, and was very happy for 10 years.

he NEVER thought about that girl again!

then he decided the antidepressants and ilegal drugs weren't good for his health, and quit them all.

what happened, 10 years later , 10 years without pain?

immediately started crying in his sleep , dreaming about the girl he broke up with!!!

these things are never forgotten...only supressed!

in time, he healed and there were no more dreams and no more tears, and that healing came about the natural way.

I know the guy quite well.

IT WAS ME !

[anenglishman]

There is nothing wrong with a man crying and most women accept it, maybe even appreciate it. I doubt, though, that most women would appreciate a man who cries too easily. No good reason, just part of our stereotyped view of life.

What I am sure of is that men tend to cry internally more than externally. This is probably not a good thing but true nonetheless.

[khun_lung]

i cried after seeing Titanic .... i couldn't believe i'd just wasted 3 hours of my life watching the biggest pile of shitttt ever !!!!!

If you take away Ciaran's beer you'll see him cry like a baby!

[vacanti373]

i cried after seeing Titanic .... i couldn't believe i'd just wasted 3 hours of my life watching the biggest pile of shitttt ever !!!!!

If you take away Ciaran's beer you'll see him cry like a baby!

Put Ciaran in the same bar as me and he crys even worse!

It is because he wants to buy ME beer but I won't let him!

Talk about a pansy!!! :roll:

[admin]

Maybe I'm strange but I've never cried over a breakup. I've been shattered on the inside but I never felt like crying. I'm trying to think of the things that have made me cry over the last few years and this was all I could think of:

My grandmother passing away

9/11

Movies

When I went to go see the film Saving Private Ryan I cried at the end of the movie when the lights came up in the theater and I looked around and saw all of the WWII vets crying like babies. Most of these guys have never talked about what they experienced during the war and it all came bursting out of them in a single moment 50 - 60 years later.

[CiaranM]

i cried after seeing Titanic .... i couldn't believe i'd just wasted 3 hours of my life watching the biggest pile of shitttt ever !!!!!

If you take away Ciaran's beer you'll see him cry like a baby!

every man has his breaking point Mike .... even me !!!

:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

[vacanti373]

Maybe I'm strange but I've never cried over a breakup. I've been shattered on the inside but I never felt like crying. I'm trying to think of the things that have made me cry over the last few years and this was all I could think of:

My grandmother passing away

9/11

Movies

When I went to go see the film Saving Private Ryan I cried at the end of the movie when the lights came up in the theater and I looked around and saw all of the WWII vets crying like babies. Most of these guys have never talked about what they experienced during the war and it all came bursting out of them in a single moment 50 - 60 years later.

Very understandable!

VETS have been through a LOT of pure trauma, and kept it contained inside for a long time.

It is like a sealed pot of boiling water ready to explode, or worse than that, it is like "old "sweating dynamite, or the unstability of NitroGlycerin.

One bump, and everything explodes.

[CiaranM]

I know the guy quite well.

IT WAS ME !

so the story is .... stick to anti depressants, illegal drugs and (i would suggest) alcohol .... and all is good !! 8) :arrow: :twisted:

[Zombiedriven]

Cried like there was no tomorrow when I heard my uncle was in the Hospital a few years back. He was like my father since mine was always doing ironically enough doing what I am doing but for a different firm. But he was in the hospital for almost 2 months seeing this man in the state he was made me cry to think about it the man who growing up was a giant to see the shadow of what he was just disturbing. I cant shake the images out of my head.

[vacanti373]

I know the guy quite well.

IT WAS ME !

so the story is .... stick to anti depressants, illegal drugs and (i would suggest) alcohol .... and all is good !! 8) :arrow: :twisted:

I said I quit the antidepressants and ilegal drugs weren't good for my health! (and at least currently "consider" are bad for my health.

that leaves a lot of options :twisted: :roll:

(and i never said my judgement was any good anyway!

Christ , I even like you, Piant and Tatt2dudess!

That proves I must be somewhat mentally unstable ! :idea:

[anenglishman]

I know the guy quite well.

IT WAS ME !

so the story is .... stick to anti depressants, illegal drugs and (i would suggest) alcohol .... and all is good !! 8) :arrow: :twisted:

I said I quit the antidepressants and ilegal drugs weren't good for my health! (and at least currently "consider" are bad for my health.

that leaves a lot of options :twisted: :roll:

(and i never said my judgement was any good anyway!

Christ , I even like you, Piant and Tatt2dudess!

That proves I must be somewhat mentally unstable ! :idea:

i went off the antidepressants. not cool...i was a basket case

[vacanti373]

I know the guy quite well.

IT WAS ME !

so the story is .... stick to anti depressants, illegal drugs and (i would suggest) alcohol .... and all is good !! 8) :arrow: :twisted:

I said I quit the antidepressants and ilegal drugs weren't good for my health! (and at least currently "consider" are bad for my health.

that leaves a lot of options :twisted: :roll:

(and i never said my judgement was any good anyway!

Christ , I even like you, Piant and Tatt2dudess!

That proves I must be somewhat mentally unstable ! :idea:

i went off the antidepressants. not cool...i was a basket case

anti depressants SSRI's (Selective Seretonin Reuptake Inhibitors) must be reduced slowly, very slowly...or your in for a very rough and dangerous ride.

If you "cold turkey" anti depressants, it is VERY dangerous.

Any doctor will tell you that.

I am certainly no doctor, but I was a paramedic for years.