BJ Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 When a farang marries a Thai woman that he loves deeply and takes her to another country where cultures are different etc etc, the subject of trust always seems to boob up and what I'd like to know is, How do you apply that trust? How do you explain why trust is not within? For myself I have been a stubbin man and I try to explain that trust is not an instant sort of deal,its built up over a period of time and trust don't come from the heart as love does. I know it takes time as the culture change does so if I put all my trust in my wife in an instant click of the fingers as a magician does magic,I don't think that's real trust! I could be wrong but it's certainly worth a try to find out from Tfers? :roll: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 I think its a good idea to build the trust before you marry and move anywhere. To me thats what dating and courtship is for to see if the person is suitable for you and your needs. If you marry and still have doubts thats a problem and maybe you might want to get some marriage counciling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BJ Posted October 14, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 Eagle I'm not talking of trust with physical attractions to some one else! Im talking more of money,business and problems with in the relationship. Its ok to date as I did fo over 2 years,but how in hell can that build total trust when she resides in Thailand and myself in Australia? I just find that Thai woman are very beautiful in many ways but their culture is so different and as some one from here said they bottle the problems in their hearts with out coming out and sharing their thoughts or problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 I just find that Thai woman are very beautiful in many ways but their culture is so different and as some one from here said they bottle the problems in their hearts with out coming out and sharing their thoughts or problems. when the buffalo is sick they r usually pretty quick to share this problem with their LD bf !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 Eagle I'm not talking of trust with physical attractions to some one else! Im talking more of money,business and problems with in the relationship.Its ok to date as I did fo over 2 years,but how in hell can that build total trust when she resides in Thailand and myself in Australia? I just find that Thai woman are very beautiful in many ways but their culture is so different and as some one from here said they bottle the problems in their hearts with out coming out and sharing their thoughts or problems. that sounds like basic relationship stuff no mater what culture. My last american GF loved to spend my money and left me in debt but I had another GF I would give my paycheck too and I came out ahead. Hopefully love will get you thru it :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 that sounds like basic relationship stuff no mater what culture. My last american GF loved to spend my money and left me in debt but I had another GF I would give my paycheck too and I came out ahead. Hopefully love will get you thru it :wink: do american girls have sick buffalos also ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BJ Posted October 14, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 Another question? does trust have any thing to do with respect,and if so how? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 that sounds like basic relationship stuff no mater what culture. My last american GF loved to spend my money and left me in debt but I had another GF I would give my paycheck too and I came out ahead. Hopefully love will get you thru it :wink: do american girls have sick buffalos also ???? American women suffer from aflluenza which is spreading around the world like they told us bird flu possibly could. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 Another question? does trust have any thing to do with respect,and if so how? imo if you feel you can't trust her then you lose respect for her and you feel she is disrespecting you. Also if you can't figure this out for yourself you are deeply in love and should seek medical attention immediatly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave40 Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 I guess BJ if you fall in love with a thai woman you going to have to except her way of life and what comes with I know that's hard but it would also be hard for her as well. There is no simple solution there is a book called Thailand Fever by Chris Pirazzi & Vitida Vasant it's about Thai Western Relationships written both in thai and English I know it's available in Thailand do a google search it may be of some help to you. good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BJ Posted October 14, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 Thanks Dave,I will do that! Actually Wallace pointed out some very good matters that have helped my understanding of problems I have had in my head for quite a while and it's made me understand some things and along with others as your self I'm sure I will learn more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave40 Posted October 14, 2006 Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 No problem mate, I'm still learning ~ You and the entire male population are still learning Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BJ Posted October 14, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 14, 2006 I will read the book and make my wife read it at the same time,lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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