Since I quit my job, I stay home a lot so I got to hear many ****...... I have one female cousin who I'm very close with since I was just a little girl, she's married with 2 kids and a few years ago she ran away for another guy, let call him "Mr.N", however, she got back together with her husband who is the father of her kids.. Her husband really love her, I'm sure he will never ever leave her unless she dumps him and yes she just did it again. I feel gross! as it turned out that she hang out with a guy who is a younger brother of Mr.N and it seemed that only me who didn't know what's going on, all I heard from her was they are just friends. Since I'm like her lil sister I didn't ask her anything much coz when I have done some mistake she never blame me anything even she can as she's like my big sister. I'm not in the position to complain or lecture her anything, she's already in her 30's.

Lately, she would stay in only when she got no money, when she got some she will be gone and when come back home she just stay in bed, sleeping all day all night. I believe she uses drug (again) and what I hate the most is that she doesn't take care of her kids at all. They are in the dangerous age, 17(m) and 13(f), I feel sorry for the younger one a lot, I always tell my niece that she must start learning to take care of herself now, she knows what's going on, she might still have the memory of what was going on when her mum left her and her dad for Mr.N. I always tell her how I grown up, hoping that she will absorb something as I was raised by my grandma (passed away 12 years ago) and my beloved auntie (lives abroad since I was 5) thus I look after myself since my grandma gone, my aunt can only talk to me and send me money but she's not here with me and I turned out to be not bad. I'm just trying to tell her that it will be ok even if her mother will not be with her.4.30am. last night, I got a phone call from my uncle that this cousin of mine which went to work with him only since yesterday evening ran away with his money. I was speechless.. actually I still am. I don't know what is in her mind but it's not really her. I even heard she spent lots of money coz she's buying drug for that guy she hang out with, we guess that if she doesn't have money that guy won't welcome her to his place. Just last week, she was gone for a few days with money her dad sent to her kids, her brother got really upset and told her not to come back here again.. anyway after a few days she came back, of course she ran out of money. No one said anything, actually we just didn't talk to her at all. I coudn't even look at her. I always avoid seeing her. I'm very disappointed that she did the same mistake again.She got me scared of having children... I don't wanna see my kid being like hers.. I feel sorry for them.. and it got me depressed coz I have my own problem already. I'm not in the stage that I could help them that much and I don't really know how to drag her out of this crap... It's just totally f**ked up... and I feel terrible. I couldn't close my eyes.. I got the insomnia again, still all awake since last night... sometime I think why wouldn't I was born in a better family?! but again, my beloved auntie been hearing too many craps from our family for whole life and she's doing ok so I gonna be ok too.. just once in awhile I gonna need to shout out.One thing to keep me smile is that my cousin's gf just give birth to a baby girl on Saturday. I went to see her at the hospital already, she's so tiny... it's good to have a baby in this house again after a long while.

In my eyes after reading and considering what you have said I would think she is hooked on drugs and needs money to support her habit.Drug addiction goes hand in hand with stealing & crime.

Feel very sorry for you and her family.

You take it easy & take care of your self.God Bless!

sorry to hear that!! nothing i can add that you didn't already say!!

good that the baby makes you smile!!

Yes...i agree...for sure..not easy for U,

pity..how can someone do that and not have enough respect for themselves..their kids..

i feel sorry...hard time for them...maybe you can take care a little...good luck!

Drugs is a big problem in this country its cheap and easy to find. I think you know how to raise our kids do not worry.

I don't know the laws there but your cousin's husband should take sole custody of those kids and raise them himself if he's able to. The kids should be priority one esp. when one of the caretakers shirks his or her responsibility by abusing drugs. The kids will take the brunt of the abuse. As you said they are at an impressionable age but it would be a lot worse if they were younger. At 17 and 13 they should be able to understand quite a bit. They still need to be shielded though. I hope things work out.

I'm only impressed that when ever you are really serious about something you manage to write with the most perfect usage of words, tense, and spelling O_O !

you have already said it all i wanna say.... keep smiling and be strong.

Life's go on ...Keep smiling na kha..

the fact bthat you already thibk of her kids and the harm that she's doing to them seperates the type of parent you will be compared to the lack of a parent your cousin is. It's a very sorrowful tale when those you love and care about cannot be helped as theyare not willing to be helped. I hope yopu find the strength to see a way through this mess

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No, the father usually live here or I heard he just stay over at his office if not here... here is his home otherwise he's homeless.. The sad thing is my cousin still get money from him and he let her.. he loves my cousin like crazy. Every baht goes to my cousin and she rarely give to her kids.. Oh well, the fact is that I'm here, I won't let the kid starving or no money to go to school..

She's lucky she got a guy who love her so much.. and I really feel sorry for the guy..

Its very sad, and I feel for the kids especially. Luckily kids are stronger than we give them credit for, and they often bounce back well from such stressful situations.

I am speaking from experience in that my ex and I have three kids, and when we got divorced I was terribly worried about them. My ex took them to Australia, where they are now, but I have been extremely fortunate in that Grezzzy and the kids get along fantastically well.

They have adjusted well to their life, living in a foreign country, going to school there, but they will come home to Thailand soon, and I now see that they are easily taking all this in their stride. So don't worry too much - the kids need love and understanding - with that they can pull through anything.

Your cousin is wasting her life with a loser drug addict, throwing away the love of a true and dedicated husband, sadly she deserves what she gets. Just be there for the kids...but whatever you do...don't let this all get YOU down...if it helps, try to take a break, go to the beach or away for a day or two if you can...and get hold of the strength that is inside you.

Get back to being you.

As much as it is a family thing, it is also not actually your life - it is theirs that is affected...even though it is unpleasant to try to distance yourself from it in some way...

I think you may need more counselling than the kids will....! Take care.

yeah, I have to cheer myself up...

yeah that's a sad story... take care Oiy