Hi... I want an honest answer. When dating guy and girl are dating, who usually pay for the drinks in your country?  I would like to hear specifically about Scandinavia coz I 've always heard that there are more gender equality up there. Thank you in advance.

It depends on the status of the relationship. If you are just dating then typically it is the guy who pays. If you have been going out a while then it doesnt really seem to matter. Sometimes she pays, sometimes I'll pay. Its no biggie.

Its normal, the one who wants to eat the cake must pay for it... should be the same everywhere.

I have usually offered to pay for drinks but most of the times the girl has said she will pay for her own on the first date. In Finland I mean.

Hi Teddy and Andy_bkk, you guy live in bkk now(from your profile). Is it what you usually do in bangkok?

Hi mango, what about the second and the third dates?

Thanks, I am waiting for more answer.

In the US, the guy usually has to offer to pay first, she says, "we'll share", then the guy insists on paying...that's when the truth comes out:

The girl will either insist on paying at least the tip (which is usually a fair amount), or she will back down and let the dude pay for it all. The first back and forth is just a formality.

A smooth move that I liked to do *if* I liked the girl, was to say "I'll get this one, you can get our next date." Thus, the man pays for everything, and you've got a future date locked in. Thus, you can shag that night and she thinks that there is a future.

"Hi mango, what about the second and the third dates?"

Usually split the bill or I say I pay this time, you pay the next time. Works pretty well. Quite like Japamerican said.

The girl who approaches on the bar desk and asks me to buy a drink for her is usually a no no.

This has worked also in Thailand when I have been out on a date with girls who have had well paying jobs.

Thank for your answer, japamerican. What about Japan? I wonder....Guy pay, right?

Thanks you again ja mango77.

I can't tell you much about Japan as I only vacation there for a couple weeks at a time. I assume that the guy pays most, if not all of the time in Japan.

if i'm asking a guy out, i'll pay.

Cherryberry all you gotta do is ask, I will oblige.

I am a beer drinker so I will usually consume maybe 5 pints, a good meal, a bottle of whatever in the club and then you get to pay for the taxi.

I will not even try a move at the end of the night, wouldn't want to blow the chance of you asking me again.

Ha ha ha ha

well in thaiand... it is more like gentleman manner to pay for the lady.. just a thought to guys who like to approach thai ladies... its not abt we dont want to pay but it is abt manner.. dotn know how to explain....

In USA culture, if first dating, the guy is always suppose to pay. Even if just meeting the girl and he is interested, he normally buy the girl a drink to show his interest and be a gentlemen. But there is a down side to this. Sometimes beautiful girls will take advantage of this just get a free drink.

If a girl ask a gentleman out. Is she supposed to pay?

depend if guy like to impress her he can pay though nothing harm to pay jus to please lady....Attention!!! it doesnt mean Thai ladies dont want to pay but it is abt gentleman and manner... well depend how western will judge abt this... for me i found it is nice manner..

If it's a Restaurant dinner date I would always pay the bill if it was a first date. If I was cooking dinner at my place for a date it is customary for the guest to bring a bottle of wine although it I would also have a nice bottle ready myself as well.

I have been on dates with friends that I have known for a long time and we know each other well and have split the bill. Also depends on where your date is. In the UK it is common to go to bars where people get a round each even if on a date.

As a general rule I always offer to get the first drinks whether on a date or out with friends.

if a girl ask a man out, she is not a lady

if a girl ask a man out, she is not a lady

hehehe....seriously, Geee....

i think worldwide men are suppose to pay independently from who comes the invitation.

friends share the bill.

waiters rule is to bring the bill to the guest who asked for it, but in thailand is generally brought to the man.

Geee 3 October 2010 11:42PM

if a girl ask a man out, she is not a lady <<<

bollocks !!!!!

agree with David100.

@ Gee she realizes that she's in 2010 now

and she thinks she's old enough to be the one who ask the guys 1st otherwise she will miss chance to marry.

quite a few thai women will pay for their thai boyfriends bills, not every thai guy is driving a bmw and living off daddies credit cards, some thai women propably earn more than their thai boyfriends and will offer to pay on eating out

man always pays. because he is a man