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There are two types of people in this world, those who believe in soulmates and those who do not. The soulmate believers believe in soulmate theory while people from the other group believe in work-it-out theory. The table below illustrates the difference in beliefs. Soulmate Theory - There is one (or very few) right person(s) for me. - Love is discovered. - The right person is ideal or close to perfect for me. - Finding the right person is the most important factor in a successful relationship. - Passion is of great importance. - People are hard to change. Work-It-Out Theory - There are many people with whom I can be happy with. - Love is built over time. - Person is not expected to be a perfect fit. - Effort is the most important factor. - Passion is relatively unimportant. - People can change. If a soulmate believer believes he/she is with the right person, he/she is more satisfied with the relationship than a work-it-out believer. Soulmate believers who do not think they are with the right one are less satisfied than work-it-out believers. Insights and Predictions - Perfectionists, overachievers, idealists, dreamers will more likely be soulmate believers, while realists are more likely to be work-it-out believers. - Soulmate believers have fewer and shorter relationships than work-it-out believers. - Soulmate believers will more likely prefer romantic movies or love songs. -------- So....which one is YOU?

which makes much of the work in the social sciences a critical discipline like philosophy or comparative literature rather than science. that said, there are some human-science projects that have gotten more rigorous/scientific, like cognitive psychology. i think a lot of things are called science that aren't very scientific as a byproduct of the 19th and 20th centuries' infatuation with science. i am one of the biggest fanboys of science, but it can only do so much. there is so much we can't know scientifically about the human world especially that it's awfully tempting to overreach. that said, in principle the social sciences exist not because it is likely or even possible for them to enlighten us much, but because we're so damned interested in ourselves and our place in the world. love the way they quantify stuff by pulling numbers directly out of their dingleberry-encrusted ass.