How to spice up this dull forum

[Hullboy]

This topic is one for all the lovely Thai girls who have farang boyfriends.

Many farangs want to move or live in your country for many reasons, its fun, the sun, good food, smiling good natured easy going people and a higher standard of living in comparison to what we can afford back home.

However from my experience a lot of males move there as they just cannot get a women back home, or a sub standard one if they can.

Now ladies does it bother you, and what are your thoughts on the fact that in most cases the farang partner you are with is unable to get a girl of a similar standard to yourself in his homeland, are you aware of his social failings back home.

I am not saying your BF is a bad person on the contrary, but he is just a bit of a stuttering fool with the ladies, back home. Bless him.

Now men you all know there is some truth in this.

[The Punisher]

Now men you all know there is some truth in this.

Aye, yes there is. But it is nice to know that when I look in the mirror I am faced with an exception.

And let's not forget the flip-side. If many of the guys in Thailand weren't socially challenged and could get a nice girl back home, do you think they would put up with the psychotically jealous financially dependent attitude of many of the Thai girls they meet? I think not.

[vbroker]

This is how you are "spicing up" the dull forums?

...what are your thoughts on the fact that in most cases the farang partner you are with is unable to get a girl of a similar standard to yourself in his homeland, are you aware of his social failings back home....

Now men you all know there is some truth in this.

Some truth? There it is almost Cardinal Rule. There are exceptions of course.

Aye, yes there is. But it is nice to know that when I look in the mirror I am faced with an exception.

The above stated exception. Lucky (and young) you.

And let's not forget the flip-side. If many of the guys in Thailand weren't socially challenged and could get a nice girl back home, do you think they would put up with the psychotically jealous financially dependent attitude of many of the Thai girls they meet? I think not.

Is this suggesting western women aren't in a variety of cases "psychotically jealous financially dependent" on their respective boyfriends/fiances/husbands? Then you haven't been to the west coast and southern California in particular. Or that all or most Thai girls (BG's, gogos and freelancers excluded) fall into this category? I would suggest the ratio would be similar here to there. Since they make their agenda known very quickly, the point is to avoid these high maintenance psychos; where ever they are. One does that by dating a self-sustaining woman. By that, I mean she earns $100,000+ here or around 2 hundred thousand or more Baht there. Now, instead of doting (and getting jealous) on you 12 - 15 hours per day, she has a job/career to think about. That she has her own coin means she may cover the nights out every now and then or at least offer to if she is a quality girl. Don't get me wrong, the male should be paying most of the time regardless. But it's nice to feel you aren't being taken advantage of.

[sinderella]

My question for him will be like

"Do you like me because I'm Thai and you heard the rumor that Thai girls are nice and smiling most of the time,right?

if his answer was "yes"

I will say ok... BYE

[sunsnow]

My question for him will be like

"Do you like me because I'm Thai and you heard the rumor that Thai girls are nice and smiling most of the time,right?

if his answer was "yes"

I will say ok... BYE

I hate smiling Thai women and nice women in general. Will you wanna be with me, one night or eternity (or some time in between, up to me ofcourse, or you)? :twisted:

[zeusbheld]

can't believe i missed this. in what way does pointing out the obvious spice up a dull forum?

[Dekka]

You are partly right, when you say" Falangs come to Thailand to find a relationship with a Thai lady, because they cannot achieve the same back in their own Country." But lets not place everyone in the same Basket. ( Catergory)

Had it ever occurred to you that just maybe Falangs Love & adore Thai girls for their Natural beauty,their feminine charm, their delicate & polite manner & so on.

The Thai girls may only give you 90% of themselves. The Family always comes first & even the Buffalo is placed before you.You'll always run a poor second. (last) But even in saying that, the 90% they give of themselves is far greater than any Falang women would give you. Not all falang women, their are always exceptions to the rule. Falang women are more Independent. A lot of them earn more Salary than quite a few men do. So they have that luxury of choosing who & what they want.Like it or Lump It. It is the Falang women who are into one night stands. It has turned full circle in that respect. Not like before when the Falang Male had the Upper hand & interests in one night stands was their Domain. Also their a quite a few Falang women who are Butch, more Macho than a lot of Men. I haven't seen a Butch Thai Girl as yet. Have you? Butch is different from Ladyboys. Cheers Dekka

PS:- We are all different & each to their own. That is why I never knock anybody. No matter their views or Sexual preferences. I still treat them with equal respect. But if anyone treats me or bad mouths me or my Family I will also treat them equally bad.

[GoldMember]

can't believe i missed this. in what way does pointing out the obvious spice up a dull forum?

Talking of the obvious-no mention of a double Dekka sandwich either.Very disappointing.Assume it was the government health warning at the end of the message.

[Mazzy]

This topic is one for all the lovely Thai girls who have farang boyfriends. (...)

Now ladies does it bother you, and what are your thoughts on the fact that in most cases the farang partner you are with is unable to get a girl of a similar standard to yourself in his homeland, are you aware of his social failings back home.

I am not saying your BF is a bad person on the contrary, but he is just a bit of a stuttering fool with the ladies, back home. Bless him.

Now men you all know there is some truth in this.

I beg to differ Hullboy... You generalize to quickly and seem to forget that a lot of "Farangs" are interested in Thai woman (or asian woman in general) because they simply are more attracted by their physical appearance and/or manners as a matter of personal taste.

In saying this, I don't mean because asian woman are "similing" and "submissive". Any men that has ever dated an asian woman for sometime know that these easy stereotypes are deceptive... So although I agree it is sometime the case, you don't necessarily need to be unsuccessful or unsatisfied at home to look for a foreign girlfriend.

[donna]

i think that there is a whole lot of generalising being done here. some of it may be true...some of it may not. we all generalise.

i have lived in thailand for 8 years now. i know many western men in relationships with thai girls, and these are all genuine relationships (among my friends, as opposed to acquaintances). not one of my friends is dating, or married to, a thai girl that used to work in a bar.

having said that, all of these men are good looking, outgoing, not drunks, earning a good salary, have real estate back in their home countries, and are decent people. there is every chance that they could get a decent woman back in their home countries and if fate took them back there, i have no doubt that they may end up with a western woman. i dont think that they came to thailand looking specifically for a thai girl, but thats what they found when they got here i guess.

the girls, on the other hand, are all working in regular jobs - hotel, tourism, self employed, film industry etc. they are self supporting and independant women who tell their partners where to get off if required.

i am guilty of saying that men with thai girls couldnt get a girl back home, but i dont really believe this to be true. i DO believe that there are a lot of shy men out there who do not have the self confidence to approach a woman, and thats why hitting the bar scene in thailand is suitable for them - they dont really have to work for it, do they? the girls are there for the taking.

as a western woman, i do think that my chances of finding 'mr right' in thailand to be a near impossibility. i have a lot to offer a man, i am kind and i am generous. i am not after a wealthy man, nor am i after a classically good looking man. all i want is a decent man who does not lie, cheat on me, or hit me. of course i have to find him attractive, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. i dont care if the rest of the world doesnt find him attractive.

i dont think that is being too demanding at all.

i have seen many butch thai women. it doesnt take much to find a 'tom' lurking around the corner. i have nothing against gays or lesbians, in fact some of my closest friends here in thailand gay and lesbian. but if you really look, you can see them if you want to.

i mean no disrespect to thai women when i say that thais play the game a lot better than western women do. the thai girl is a good actor who can play up to what the man wants to see, and she is very good at it. western women tend to play the 'what you see is what you get' game, if you can call it a game. its just reality i guess.

i am not into one night stands. maybe when i was a lot younger but now, i wouldnt really consider it i dont think. not without any sort of 'connection'anyway. nup. just couldnt do it. i dont need a promise of marriage, but there has to be something more than just sex i think.

ok, rant over. sorry if this is a bit all over the place but i just typed as it came spewing out of my head.

[Dekka]

Donna I think you covered most of the territory & explained it well. As for ,you said it" Ranting on", you should have seen some of the comments I posted earlier on. I like to cover all bases no mmatter what the subject matter is.

Just tell it like it is & their is no limit to how short or long a comment is. It's Up to you. But generally most people like to keep it short & sweet. But that's up to each individual. Some are more expressive than others. Some can condense their comments whilst other can't. Khob khun for your contribution

[donna]

and your point is?

[Loburt]

Yes, thanks for the contribution, Donna. Great having you on the site.

[zeusbheld]

and your point is?

don't set the bar too high by expecting him to have a point. this is TF. lower your standards; you'lll enjoy the read more.