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One of the TF member wrote me a message saying his girlfriend's parent will be in NYC from China and he needs some help about which is the best steak place in Manhattan.I wrote him back with a few ideas and told him that if he would like to impress her parents, he can take them to my place(work) which have the best view in the City, high-end, have to dress properly to get in and will cost at least $15 per drink. And I told him that I will take care of it for him. He called, we talked more about the details of each restaurants I told him to try. And mostly about the girl he have been seeing. A few days after I wrote a journal about me and my co-worker, posted my picture in the journal, he fianally got a chance to see what I look like. After that I have got a few lame comments from him and in a sudden he doesn't has a girlfriend anymore. Then he told me that he would probably prefer to go to my work alone. Which I didn't think much about it as Dpuma, Vbroker and his friends, NeeNYC, YellowSub also were there but I forgot that they are actually my friends someone whose actually know me. But this guy isn't. More likely he was just someone I'm trying to help out with all the places and what to do in the city as he said he is new here. I was just trying to be nice. He called saying he would love to bring a friend ( just friend ) to my place after their dinner in Chinatown. YellowSub and NeeNYC also planing to come visit me as well so I told him to pick one of them up and come together since she have been here before and know a few of my managers now in case they wouldn't let him in. Soon that they got in I bought everyone a drink and shots. He was very lame making a few comments in a sexual way when he talk with me, I didn't like it so I ignored what he said and kept talking to my friends, and try to focus with my work since it was Sat and the place was packed. Soon enough one of my girl who is working for me told me about one guy claiming he is my close friend showing her my phone number and try to hit on her. I told her he isn't my friend and she should ignore him. Then my securities also told me the same story which I don't know what he was trying to prove but for me it was very rude and lame for him to do such a thing when we don't really know each other and there is none of his business to tell people that he is my friend. So I ignored him totally soon enough he told one of my girlfriend that if he has a gun he would kill me. Told her everything in details of how he would kill me and how he is so upset that I told my staffs that he is not my friend. I could have just kick him out after I heard that. Seriously if you were helping someone but the person turn out to be very rude what would you do? I could have kick him out but I didn't. I ignored it.Even that I took care of his girl's drink the whole night since he wasn't around much and left her alone with my friends. After a while he got drunk and took his shirt off in front of me and all my staffs which I could just kick him out but again I didn't. I ignored it and went back to work after I made sure that my one of my security would help him put the shirt back on and make sure he is alright. I left to the office to close the place and do some paper works. One of my manager told me that he puked right next to our Karl Lagerfeld's furniture. So I told them to send him home.I was upset, I think I have my right to as what he did and said to my friends were unacceptable. I cloundn't believe someone would say something like that about me. He called again in the morning while I was in the hospital with Mason, I didn't feel like talking to him anymore as if someone start telling people that he would kill you, I think you would probably try to get away from him like I did. I gave my phone to YellowSub, as a sign that I don't wanna talk with him. He wrote me a few emails after asking about where to go for his birthday. I ignored all of his emails. And all his journals mentioning my name like he know me. It bothers me alot but again I ignored it and was hoping that he would get a sign and stop doing it.  No it didn't work.My friend NeeNYC called me and asked me if I told him to call/try to contact her as he wouldn't leave her alone and keep telling her that I told him to call when all I said to him was just I don't know any Thai community in Queens ad I don't go to the temple but Nee does so she would probably know better than me. But he would just contact her and ask random questions and tell her that I told him to do so. He wouldn't leave her alone so I told her to tell him that she is my close friend and already asked me if i actually told him to try to contact her but I didn't and we want him to leave us alone. I got more upset about it as I just don't like the fact that he using my name around. I still kept ignoring him till I couldn't stand it anymore. He just wouldn't leave us alone. Seriously ... a person like this making it hard for me to be nice to the other. I'm done with him. I do accept his apology and hopefully he will finally stop mentioning my name like we are so close and leave me and my friends alone. And not that I go around and tell people or make fun of him, honestly I only told 3 people here a they worry about me after seeing a few things he wrote. So I told them the whole story but that was it. I just wanted to know how should I handle this and they told me to ignore him so I did. Also I don't really have to try to explain about this but just that maybe those people who don't really know the whole story and giving me crap about being mean to him. Which I didn't! Think about it, you being nice to someone then the person go tell your friends that he would kill you if he has a gun. Would you like that? What would you do? Back to work now... I'm so done with this... Please don't ask me about anything in NYC again ... I don't feel like getting myself into more trouble like this one. Have a wonderful week-end, Melanie 
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One of the TF member wrote me a message saying his girlfriend's parent will be in NYC from China and he needs some help about which is the best steak place in Manhattan.I wrote him back with a few ideas and told him that if he would like to impress her parents, he can take them to my place(work) which have the best view in the City, high-end, have to dress properly to get in and will cost at least $15 per drink. And I told him that I will take care of it for him. He called, we talked more about the details of each restaurants I told him to try. And mostly about the girl he have been seeing. A few days after I wrote a journal about me and my co-worker, posted my picture in the journal, he fianally got a chance to see what I look like. After that I have got a few lame comments from him and in a sudden he doesn't has a girlfriend anymore. Then he told me that he would probably prefer to go to my work alone. Which I didn't think much about it as Dpuma, Vbroker and his friends, NeeNYC, YellowSub also were there but I forgot that they are actually my friends someone whose actually know me. But this guy isn't. More likely he was just someone I'm trying to help out with all the places and what to do in the city as he said he is new here. I was just trying to be nice. He called saying he would love to bring a friend ( just friend ) to my place after their dinner in Chinatown. YellowSub and NeeNYC also planing to come visit me as well so I told him to pick one of them up and come together since she have been here before and know a few of my managers now in case they wouldn't let him in. Soon that they got in I bought everyone a drink and shots. He was very lame making a few comments in a sexual way when he talk with me, I didn't like it so I ignored what he said and kept talking to my friends, and try to focus with my work since it was Sat and the place was packed. Soon enough one of my girl who is working for me told me about one guy claiming he is my close friend showing her my phone number and try to hit on her. I told her he isn't my friend and she should ignore him. Then my securities also told me the same story which I don't know what he was trying to prove but for me it was very rude and lame for him to do such a thing when we don't really know each other and there is none of his business to tell people that he is my friend. So I ignored him totally soon enough he told one of my girlfriend that if he has a gun he would kill me. Told her everything in details of how he would kill me and how he is so upset that I told my staffs that he is not my friend. I could have just kick him out after I heard that. Seriously if you were helping someone but the person turn out to be very rude what would you do? I could have kick him out but I didn't. I ignored it.Even that I took care of his girl's drink the whole night since he wasn't around much and left her alone with my friends. After a while he got drunk and took his shirt off in front of me and all my staffs which I could just kick him out but again I didn't. I ignored it and went back to work after I made sure that my one of my security would help him put the shirt back on and make sure he is alright. I left to the office to close the place and do some paper works. One of my manager told me that he puked right next to our Karl Lagerfeld's furniture. So I told them to send him home.I was upset, I think I have my right to as what he did and said to my friends were unacceptable. I cloundn't believe someone would say something like that about me. He called again in the morning while I was in the hospital with Mason, I didn't feel like talking to him anymore as if someone start telling people that he would kill you, I think you would probably try to get away from him like I did. I gave my phone to YellowSub, as a sign that I don't wanna talk with him. He wrote me a few emails after asking about where to go for his birthday. I ignored all of his emails. And all his journals mentioning my name like he know me. It bothers me alot but again I ignored it and was hoping that he would get a sign and stop doing it.  No it didn't work.My friend NeeNYC called me and asked me if I told him to call/try to contact her as he wouldn't leave her alone and keep telling her that I told him to call when all I said to him was just I don't know any Thai community in Queens ad I don't go to the temple but Nee does so she would probably know better than me. But he would just contact her and ask random questions and tell her that I told him to do so. He wouldn't leave her alone so I told her to tell him that she is my close friend and already asked me if i actually told him to try to contact her but I didn't and we want him to leave us alone. I got more upset about it as I just don't like the fact that he using my name around. I still kept ignoring him till I couldn't stand it anymore. He just wouldn't leave us alone. Seriously ... a person like this making it hard for me to be nice to the other. I'm done with him. I do accept his apology and hopefully he will finally stop mentioning my name like we are so close and leave me and my friends alone. And not that I go around and tell people or make fun of him, honestly I only told 3 people here a they worry about me after seeing a few things he wrote. So I told them the whole story but that was it. I just wanted to know how should I handle this and they told me to ignore him so I did. Also I don't really have to try to explain about this but just that maybe those people who don't really know the whole story and giving me crap about being mean to him. Which I didn't! Think about it, you being nice to someone then the person go tell your friends that he would kill you if he has a gun. Would you like that? What would you do? Back to work now... I'm so done with this... Please don't ask me about anything in NYC again ... I don't feel like getting myself into more trouble like this one. Have a wonderful week-end, Melanie 
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thaibel

Mel, there are always people on internet or in real life who're disgusting b*st*rds. I think I could figure out who it was. I don't know if they can ban him, like Nicky said, because he has done nothing wrong on this site. He for sure did wrong the way he behaved that night, but he could still be excused by the fact he was drunk. But that afterwards he start stalking you and your friends, there is no excuse for.We stand all behind you, Mel.

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kennyke

mel , you had a lot of patience with that person , next time , kick him out the first time dont wait so long , it only makes you more upset thats all and in the end , its just the same to kick him out . no difference at all take care and sleep well

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afook06

Nicky:

haha............I've been verbally threatened on TF by one of the favorite members via his comments in public journals and comments...........this was reported to Admin..........of course nothing was done......so it's a lot of BS, and it's not what you know, it's who you know.....you know they all have their favorites on this site!!

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afook06

ilove: i may have called you a moron, idiot, useless, pervert or whatever.........however i don't go around threatening members on TF.......you can call it maybe verbal abuse..........but not an all out threat to another....

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zeusbheld

afook: whine all you want, but threatening a fistfight and threatening to shoot someone are not in the same category.

speaking of which i've been threatened with at least 3 fistfights on TF. so far, no one's showed up. only one of them is banned, but for completely different reasons.

that said, i'm not sure banning is the answer as while he used TF to make contact none of the dirty deeds happened online. banning him from the drinking establishment, and quite possibly looking into a restraining order, now *that* i'd recommend.

no this turd didn't threaten me--he's not one of the three--but he *did* offer to meet face to face. if it means so much to him, i'm willing... but i stand by every word i said.

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CiaranM

Posted by afook06 [ 15 December 2007 | 8:00PM ]

ilove: i may have called you a moron, idiot, useless, pervert or whatever <<<<

that must have been an interesting conversation !!!

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Mazzy

Well I've read all 3 journals. It does seem like that guy messed up pretty bad. But he does seem to feel sorry about it. It doesn't necessarily excuse what he did, but maybe it's worth moving on now... I do agree a bit with PiAnt that there are usually two sides to every story, but hearing is own version of the story it would seem that he admit about what happened.

About the solutions:

- Baning him from TF : Maybe, he did use TF as a mean to contact Posh in the first place... (and I think to contact some of her friends).

- Banning him from the drinking establishment: Definitely yes!

- Restraining order: I don't know Thai law very much, but in North America those are hard to come by...It will be one person's word against another.

-Meeting him in person : bad idea... use the phone.

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afook06

Ant is correct...........to even try to pass any judgement on what had happened and not actually being there is wrong.........we only heard one side of this story........maybe we can hear the other side?

However, if there was a threat about killing someone, and there are witnesses to the fact, then the police should have been called to check this guy out? Who knows?? They're a lot of crazys out there with guns, and they lose it and go on shooting rampages!! But, this was out of TF's juridiction.......NYC is a bit far.........lol

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zeusbheld

Posted by iSprite [ 15 December 2007 | 8:46PM ]

Where is he from again? Oh China... China man.. that's why *sigh*

sorry to hear that ... hope you feel better now.>>>

no, he's american.

and pantsuit... exactly how many sides do there need to be to someone saying they'll shoot someone? assuming it's a joke it's still way over the line. there are some stories that you don't ******* need to hear 2 or more sides to make up your mind.

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steevolution

i don't envy Admin and the moderators their task. i feel that they've always dealt fairly with me, and this was in some fairly murky situations where even i wasn't sure i was behaving properly (though i always tried to). they took the time to give me good CONSTRUCTIVE criticism. i was intelligent enough to hear it and learn from it, but i still really appreciated it.

when is it time to throw someone on the junkheap? a lot of us have some fairly heavy crosses to bear, but then there are some lines that no one should be allowed to cross. sometimes some time in the doghouse will do the trick, but othertimes they've got to be banished (from this earthly paradise. HAW!)

they've got their hands full (keeping watch at the zoo). it's plenty for me just to visit.

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PosH

I am a single mother of 3 years old. Having someone saying he would kill me when he doesn't really know me is too hard for me to ignore. But I did try for a while.

Somehow I did not write this journal so that people could hate him more. It's just the other side of the story as I don't think this is funny at all and I don't appreciate when people saying that I'm such a ***** to him when all I did was very nice and calm in a way.

But seriously I'm lucky to have a few friends that would actually more mad and care about me by pointing out what should i be careful.

As I said ... It's not easy to accept o live with it when the guy still trying to be close to you after he told my best friend that he would kill me cause I told people that have been working for me over 2 years that the guy whom I just met a few hours isn't my close friend as he claimed to be.

It's also not just an online acts anymore as he is now know pretty much where to find my. And how to find my best friend.

I don't care if you would choose to believe in the other side of my story. As I said ... I have to clear out my side of story as well so people wouldn't think that I'm being unfair to him.

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PosH

It's a mazing how people would think this is funny and still making a joke out of it. BTW PJack I hope you like the restaurant I told you to try as there was no " Thank you" or anything from you. Obviously that would be my last time I'm helping people out about these thing.

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venus

be nice to people but not necessarily be friends with everyone...

loads of yobs nowsday and people with different set of values who are not meant to be our friends.

you make sure that you take good care of yourself.

you are optimistic. so, you easily get used... by people

mel,

be more careful with strangers, who you dont know go to close to you.

its for your own safety.. and your son.

take best care of yourself.

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