Hey guys & girls (My very first blog! woo!)

I came across this article & found it quite interesting.

The (male) journalist wanted to find out the reason behind married women cheating.

(There was a previous article from a female journalist about why married men cheat)

What he ended up learning, I think, applies to all serious, long-term relationships.

You can read the article here (notice the '5 Ways to make a blow job more efficient' on the right? LOL)

If you don't want/have the time to read the whole thing, just skip over to the last page to find out what he discovered

Enjoy reading!

well done keep up the good work. Thanx 4 showing a little common sense and respct can go along way

Will definitely check this out properly tomorrow as I'm too tired to click and read at the moment. One parting thought is...why are men so open about the reasons they cheat, yet women are somewhat secretive about it?

Is it frequency of occurrence (men cheat more often)?

Is it society's outlook on it (it's more acceptable for men to cheat than women)?

Who knows...but I wanna check out both articles in the AM.

Haven't read it. In my opinion, married women often cheat when their husbands cheat.

Great Article, and honestly jumping to the last page would cheapen the lesson, you wouldn't get the entire gist of it. I recommend everyone read this, I have been single 95% of my life, but this is still a very insightful article for all.

Andy, that is 99% wrong dude. I knew that without reading this article. I have been with girls who were cheating and I have been cheated on and in both cases the guy was being faithful.

Summarized: "Women need attention"

Women don't wake up with a raging erection every morning, except in Thailand obviously. I have not read the article but there is a distinct physiological and endochrinal difference between us n them. And I am a slut and this is how I explain it.

Not that this really comes as a surprise, but the manly author of this article, is also the author of the following book: The Problem with Women... is Men: The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness .

Bonus: the cover of the book shows a bunch of pigs in a filthy pen.

Interesting how no ladies have commented. hmmm....

Rob - feel free to return & let us know what you think, once you've read it.

Geoff & Andy...the point is to read the article first! lol. com'on fellas!

John - It's not just attention. It's attentive attention.

For instance: If I one day mentioned that on my birthday I'd really like some flowers & my favourite flowers were pink roses (just an example - cause they're not) & on my birthday he got me daffodils.

I'd still appreciate the gift & thought behind it, but It would've been much more appreciated if he'd got me pink roses. I'd feel like he actually listened. (us women always complain that men just don't listen)

Not the greatest example, but do you see what I'm trying to say?

Matt & Law - thanks for actually reading & commenting. By reading the article you've both gained +1 Casanova skill point haha!

Just in case anyone wanted to read the other article (Why Married Men Cheat) You'll find it here

okay I read it, back page only. So you needs attention. ****, thats what I have been doing wrong all along. But I am compelled to highlight the similarities with the family dog; if you dont pet the mongrel now and again, dont be surprised when he / she is waggin tail for the neighbours....

On the other side of the coin....When couples have kids....It's the men that complain about how they feel ignored because the woman is spending most of her time on the baby.

So men want attention too, i guess, but I think it's more in an ego boost kind of way.

Any thoughts on that, anyone??

I think the real issue is women and their expectations. When a man and a woman get into a relationship and everyone is all giddy and excited at the new feeling, the woman mistakes this excitement for love and when it disappears (because it's not new anymore) she thinks the love is gone and the relationship is failing.

When a man gets into a relationship, his thought process is more "I could totally bang this girl for the rest of my life and when were not banging, she makes me laugh and thats all I really need". So when the new shiny relationship washes away, he is still content with his woman and the relationship.

If he takes you out to dinner and buys you flowers all the time, it will eventually become old and not excite you anymore. If he doesn't bring you roses all the time and one night he pops up with them, then the woman starts thinking "did he do this because of a guilty conscious?"

Plus, is the woman doing her part? Does she ever take her hard earned money and say "Hey, I bought you a nice prostitute just for the hell of it" or "check it out, I got those breast implants you really wanted".

In the 50's women were happy with a good man who paid the bills and put food on the table. This showed that he was invested in her and her well being. But over time since the less worthy men would put ***** on a pedestal and wanted better quality, he would shower women with money and gifts. Eventually women got used to being showered with gifts and this was mistaken for love. Was that enough? No! Now in the 21st century women not only want a man to pay the bills, put food on the table, shower her with gifts but also to be able to read her mind and be emotionally ready to listen to all her problems and respond with exactly what she wants to hear.

The supply and demand of ***** is never ending, there is plenty of supply but men are greedy and want ***** from outside their respective level (5's want 9's) so they go about it by trying to impress her the wrong ways, instead of working on themselves to be a better person, they work on their wallet size to buy what they want. Over time this has set an unrealistic standard and has been the demise of relationships in the 21st century.

I have no idea but from my perception men are in short market.......lol..... maybe i'm wrong!

wooo! another woman voiced her opinion! Thank you Soda!

I agree with you, Soda, & I kind of agree with you a bit Law but as far as the woman doing her part....

I once paid for my then boyfriend to have a 'private dance' at a Strip Club we were at with some friends (Me & my friend went to the toilet)

When I got back I asked him "did you like it?" & He replied "I didn't take it" & when I asked him why not he said "It would be a bit wierd cause I know you are here"

& on numerous occasions I've randomly (for no other reason than I wanted to & to show I care) bought bfs the expensive watch that they wanted, or the ferrari driving experience they wanted etc....& It was more often met with questions rather than appreciation.

Sometimes I haven't even had the decency of receiving a 'Thank You' (com'on that is just plain rude)

So I don't think it's just women & their expectations.

Ok, fair enough. It goes both ways. But the majority of the time, it is the man showering the woman with gifts.

I really don't know who to blame more though. Men who let women walk all over them and try to buy their way into love or women who feel entitled to these gifts and don't appreciate them.

Soda: If you mean men as in "a true man" and not as in "someone who happens to have a ****" then I agree with you. It seems real men are a dying breed.

Men who let women walk all over them and try to buy their way into love

Are you saying, spontaneous gifts means she's trying to buy her way into love!?

but when a man does it, it means that he's punching above his weight?

Good article and some intelligent TF comments following it.

I read the whole thing and found myself agreeing completely with the writer. I've been married and divorced (I didn't cheat). I've been single and I've been a serial seducer.

I have been the 'other guy' for married women on several occasions and what I gave them was romance, attention, excitement and someone who made them feel special again.

Now I am single, but dating a number of different girls. None of them are under the illusion that they are the only one. If I were to take one as a 'girlfriend', I wouldn't date anyone else - I don't cheat.

After my marriage ended, I understood something important... I make a great boyfriend, but a lousy husband.

If I'm someone's boyfriend, I feel the need to impress them every single day - surprise gifts, romantic meals and getaways, a good confidant, an entertainer, an exciting lover.

If I can't keep making a girlfriend feel she is wonderful, she always has the choice to leave me and find someone else. So I always try the best I can to make sure I do the best I can.

On the other hand, if I am married (and I think it applies to many people), the necessity has gone. I don't NEED to be lovely all the time. I don't NEED to impress her every day. Because we have a marriage contract, that GUARANTEES she will be there when I get home.

As for marrying again, I can only say, 'never say never'. BUT I would need to find someone that fits me so perfectly now and changes at the same pace and in the same direction as I. She'd have to be totally amazing, and I'd have to feel that she would ALWAYS be this amazing to me...

...So far, I don't feel confident that I'll find someone like that.

So I continue with 4 or 5 exciting relationships per year that (usually) end amicably and maturely. I'd love to find someone who can interest me longer, but that doesn't seem likely at present.

Are you saying' date=' spontaneous gifts means she's trying to buy her way into love!?

but when a man does it, it means that he's punching above his weight?[/quote']

No, I am saying both are pertaining to men.

Well said EB

Disney ruined it all for the male population!

Disney ruined it all for the male population!

Not necessarily... I've knocked out out over Pocahontas AND Mulan...

EB - that was very well said & rather insightful. (your first comment btw, not what you get up to watching certain Disney films lol)

EB[/b'] - that was very well said & rather insightful. (your first comment btw, not what you get up to watching certain Disney films lol)

Thanks... I have hidden (non-gay) depths.