Chatty Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 It was my curiosity... I got some friends who disappeared from my life, all of them are guys... when they came back to my life, they got the same reason, "they got GFs, and Thai GFs are so jealous" after them broke up they can start talk to the other girls again. A friend of mine, he did something like that about 3 times... so the third time that he was back I told him no matter what happen to his life, if he broke up just don't contact me again ever cuz it's so annoying. I know it's really mean to do this cuz I felt uncomfortable to have friendship like that, I was his friend, i wasn't his "mia noi" What's the reason? For the girls, you will let your BFs contact with the other girls? or they need your permission to do so. For the guys, you still contact with the other girls (as friends) when you have GF... If not, you do it cuz the girl tell you so or you just think it doesn't seem right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pandorea Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yamahacrasher Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 I never had that problem with my gal. In fact I think I have more female friends now than before I met her. One just got to show who the boss is, tihi... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted February 16, 2010 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. Hmm i quite understand about priority indeed... if they got married I understand... However, I have some friends who got married already, both guys and girls, they still have life with friends...but they take the whole family (i mean their husbands, wives, kids...) to get together... i don't mind that, actually I quit like it. lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. I think this is correct. I started a new relationship late last year and I do still keep in touch with my inner circle of friends and so does she. But really, our new relationship is the priority now, especially while its in that wonderful early period. I actually found that a few regular online 'friends' stopped contacting me when my status changed, and one even deleted me on FB! lol So it does work the other way too. But at the end of the day, the people I consider to be my real friends are all still there, so all the rest don't really matter at all. People come and go and I don't take it seriously. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 It's unhealthy if a someone stops seeing their friends because of a relationship. Relationships are for support, not for control. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetieBabie Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 A friend of mine, he did something like that about 3 times... so the third time that he was back I told him no matter what happen to his life, if he broke up just don't contact me again ever cuz it's so annoying. I know it's really mean to do this cuz I felt uncomfortable to have friendship like that, I was his friend, i wasn't his "mia noi" What's the reason? He's just using you for emotional pick up / comfort. Only want your company when he/they are in bad time, and when they are in good time, they disappear. Not real friends in my book. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted February 16, 2010 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 I never had that problem with my gal. In fact I think I have more female friends now than before I met her. One just got to show who the boss is, tihi... I think I met her before.. right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 A friend of mine, he did something like that about 3 times... so the third time that he was back I told him no matter what happen to his life, if he broke up just don't contact me again ever cuz it's so annoying. I know it's really mean to do this cuz I felt uncomfortable to have friendship like that, I was his friend, i wasn't his "mia noi" What's the reason? He's just using you for emotional pick up / comfort. Only want your company when he/they are in bad time, and when they are in good time, they disappear. Not real friends in my book. agree totally. And therefore not worth thinking about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted February 16, 2010 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 A friend of mine, he did something like that about 3 times... so the third time that he was back I told him no matter what happen to his life, if he broke up just don't contact me again ever cuz it's so annoying. I know it's really mean to do this cuz I felt uncomfortable to have friendship like that, I was his friend, i wasn't his "mia noi" What's the reason? He's just using you for emotional pick up / comfort. Only want your company when he/they are in bad time, and when they are in good time, they disappear. Not real friends in my book. Ohh dear, it's exactly I feel...that's why I told him don't bother... There was another one... we were friends 5 years ago when I first join TF. he stopped contact me when he found his 2 ex gfs... then he disappeared and came back to me after he broke up... and back to join TF recently... this time he keeps quiet.. i think he found someone (why's that so easy for men, unfair!! lol) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 A friend of mine, he did something like that about 3 times... so the third time that he was back I told him no matter what happen to his life, if he broke up just don't contact me again ever cuz it's so annoying. I know it's really mean to do this cuz I felt uncomfortable to have friendship like that, I was his friend, i wasn't his "mia noi" What's the reason? He's just using you for emotional pick up / comfort. Only want your company when he/they are in bad time, and when they are in good time, they disappear. Not real friends in my book. Ohh dear, it's exactly I feel...that's why I told him don't bother... There was another one... we were friends 5 years ago when I first join TF. he stopped contact me when he found his 2 ex gfs... then he disappeared and came back to me after he broke up... and back to join TF recently... this time he keeps quiet.. i think he found someone (why's that so easy for men, unfair!! lol) Are you talking here about online 'friends'? or real friends? If they are just online 'friends', why are you so concerned? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoBeIt Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 For the girls, you will let your BFs contact with the other girls? or they need your permission to do so. For the guys, you still contact with the other girls (as friends) when you have GF... If not, you do it cuz the girl tell you so or you just think it doesn't seem right? My bf still keep contact with his ex ex ex gf.. She rang sometime to say hello and ask how is everything. Another one of his ex even came to visit us from Austria and we had really good time together (No sex involved, thank you..) It's totally fine with me. I even like one of his ex gf. She is a nice girl. I think it is all about "trust" and you have to be confidence enough to know that he will not choose other girls but you. And for me, if my bf met someone else who is better than me and wanna leave me.. Be my guest.. there is no point just keep holding someone if he/she wanna leave, I think. "Thai GFs are so jealous" - abit jealous is kind of cute but if it's too much it's just annoying... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted February 16, 2010 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 A friend of mine, he did something like that about 3 times... so the third time that he was back I told him no matter what happen to his life, if he broke up just don't contact me again ever cuz it's so annoying. I know it's really mean to do this cuz I felt uncomfortable to have friendship like that, I was his friend, i wasn't his "mia noi" What's the reason? He's just using you for emotional pick up / comfort. Only want your company when he/they are in bad time, and when they are in good time, they disappear. Not real friends in my book. Ohh dear, it's exactly I feel...that's why I told him don't bother... There was another one... we were friends 5 years ago when I first join TF. he stopped contact me when he found his 2 ex gfs... then he disappeared and came back to me after he broke up... and back to join TF recently... this time he keeps quiet.. i think he found someone (why's that so easy for men, unfair!! lol) Are you talking here about online 'friends'? or real friends? If they are just online 'friends', why are you so concerned? peeMarc, if i so concerned I would post this a couple month ago.. I'm just curious jing jing kha... Not only my online friends, we hang out for years... then whene they got someone they just disappear and as I said they came up with the same excuse.. just curious that is normal things when the guys do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 just curious that is normal things when the guys do? Hmm... ok. For me (guys point of view), for real friends, this is not normal. GF or not, I still love my friends and always be there for them. Sure we all go quiet sometimes, or get really busy, but that's ok And I agree with Rob, relationships should never be about control, so if it's a problem they've got a jealous GF, and that's their excuse to you, then they've got a serious problem anyhow. i would just cut them and not bother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted February 16, 2010 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 For the girls, you will let your BFs contact with the other girls? or they need your permission to do so. For the guys, you still contact with the other girls (as friends) when you have GF... If not, you do it cuz the girl tell you so or you just think it doesn't seem right? My bf still keep contact with his ex ex ex gf.. She rang sometime to say hello and ask how is everything. Another one of his ex even came to visit us from Austria and we had really good time together (No sex involved, thank you..) It's totally fine with me. I even like one of his ex gf. She is a nice girl. I think it is all about "trust" and you have to be confidence enough to know that he will not choose other girls but you. And for me, if my bf met someone else who is better than me and wanna leave me.. Be my guest.. there is no point just keep holding someone if he/she wanna leave, I think. nice post indeed, I remember once I met my ex gf... (no sex involve too) It was fine and she was nice to me.. no jealous feelings "Thai GFs are so jealous" - abit jealous is kind of cute but if it's too much it's just annoying... agree na... My Thai guy friend, he also my classmate, his ex was nothing but annoying. When they were together, she just like to keep him with her only, and got mad everytime that he was with me just for working on our project, sometime I stayed over night at his office... she was totally mad.. I said, "I met him before you did, if he want to be my BF he would, but he wouldn't... and I don't have that kinda feeling with him at all, so why don't you trust him? he is really nice and honest man who not play around" but they broke up anyway.. hrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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yamahacrasher Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 I never had that problem with my gal. In fact I think I have more female friends now than before I met her. One just got to show who the boss is, tihi... I think I met her before.. right? Yaa, I think u met her. She thinks people are reluctant to talk to her, cos she thinks she look unfriendly. But she isn't unfriendly, really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pandorea Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 It's unhealthy if a someone stops seeing their friends because of a relationship. Relationships are for support, not for control. Good point Rob. I did stop seeing some friends when my late husband pass-away. Just wanted to be with my own pain. When I met my (now)husband I stopped seeing friends also, cuz' I wanted to spend more time with him until after I got married I start go out with friends again. Sometime it has nothing to do with controlling or not, it's just a matter of life style choices. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pandorea Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. I think this is correct. I started a new relationship late last year and I do still keep in touch with my inner circle of friends and so does she. But really, our new relationship is the priority now, especially while its in that wonderful early period. I actually found that a few regular online 'friends' stopped contacting me when my status changed, and one even deleted me on FB! lol So it does work the other way too. But at the end of the day, the people I consider to be my real friends are all still there, so all the rest don't really matter at all. People come and go and I don't take it seriously. So you're in relationship. :evil: That's why you stop visiting my profile. Must de-friend you now. Agreed, real friends will always be there! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. I think this is correct. I started a new relationship late last year and I do still keep in touch with my inner circle of friends and so does she. But really, our new relationship is the priority now, especially while its in that wonderful early period. I actually found that a few regular online 'friends' stopped contacting me when my status changed, and one even deleted me on FB! lol So it does work the other way too. But at the end of the day, the people I consider to be my real friends are all still there, so all the rest don't really matter at all. People come and go and I don't take it seriously. So you're in relationship. :evil: That's why you stop visiting my profile. Must de-friend you now. Agreed, real friends will always be there! haha... actually you went quiet long before I started relationship my dear :wink: and what happened to our very useful get together? Was looking forward to seeing you and comparing ideas :idea: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pandorea Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. I think this is correct. I started a new relationship late last year and I do still keep in touch with my inner circle of friends and so does she. But really, our new relationship is the priority now, especially while its in that wonderful early period. I actually found that a few regular online 'friends' stopped contacting me when my status changed, and one even deleted me on FB! lol So it does work the other way too. But at the end of the day, the people I consider to be my real friends are all still there, so all the rest don't really matter at all. People come and go and I don't take it seriously. So you're in relationship. :evil: That's why you stop visiting my profile. Must de-friend you now. Agreed, real friends will always be there! haha... actually you went quiet long before I started relationship my dear :wink: and what happened to our very useful get together? Was looking forward to seeing you and comparing ideas :idea: I'm coming in April as planned. Hope you drink wine from box. I have some in stock! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. I think this is correct. I started a new relationship late last year and I do still keep in touch with my inner circle of friends and so does she. But really, our new relationship is the priority now, especially while its in that wonderful early period. I actually found that a few regular online 'friends' stopped contacting me when my status changed, and one even deleted me on FB! lol So it does work the other way too. But at the end of the day, the people I consider to be my real friends are all still there, so all the rest don't really matter at all. People come and go and I don't take it seriously. So you're in relationship. :evil: That's why you stop visiting my profile. Must de-friend you now. Agreed, real friends will always be there! haha... actually you went quiet long before I started relationship my dear :wink: and what happened to our very useful get together? Was looking forward to seeing you and comparing ideas :idea: I'm coming in April as planned. Hope you drink wine from box. I have some in stock! aaah... chateau cardboard...hmmm...I have been known to do that at some points in my life....Me thinks I better stock up on a few bottles for you here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pandorea Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. I think this is correct. I started a new relationship late last year and I do still keep in touch with my inner circle of friends and so does she. But really, our new relationship is the priority now, especially while its in that wonderful early period. I actually found that a few regular online 'friends' stopped contacting me when my status changed, and one even deleted me on FB! lol So it does work the other way too. But at the end of the day, the people I consider to be my real friends are all still there, so all the rest don't really matter at all. People come and go and I don't take it seriously. So you're in relationship. :evil: That's why you stop visiting my profile. Must de-friend you now. Agreed, real friends will always be there! haha... actually you went quiet long before I started relationship my dear :wink: and what happened to our very useful get together? Was looking forward to seeing you and comparing ideas :idea: I'm coming in April as planned. Hope you drink wine from box. I have some in stock! aaah... chateau cardboard...hmmm...I have been known to do that at some points in my life....Me thinks I better stock up on a few bottles for you here Burgundy please, don't forget Epoisses. Off topic Sorry Nong1.. Old (friends) people get together, you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted February 16, 2010 Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 He wants to spend time with his g/f? My ex-boyfriends are disappeared after they got married and have kids. No Skype no email!!! Bastards!!! :eh: Seriously, it's all about priority Nong1. When one has a partner, a friend is not really the first priority. I think this is correct. I started a new relationship late last year and I do still keep in touch with my inner circle of friends and so does she. But really, our new relationship is the priority now, especially while its in that wonderful early period. I actually found that a few regular online 'friends' stopped contacting me when my status changed, and one even deleted me on FB! lol So it does work the other way too. But at the end of the day, the people I consider to be my real friends are all still there, so all the rest don't really matter at all. People come and go and I don't take it seriously. So you're in relationship. :evil: That's why you stop visiting my profile. Must de-friend you now. Agreed, real friends will always be there! haha... actually you went quiet long before I started relationship my dear :wink: and what happened to our very useful get together? Was looking forward to seeing you and comparing ideas :idea: I'm coming in April as planned. Hope you drink wine from box. I have some in stock! aaah... chateau cardboard...hmmm...I have been known to do that at some points in my life....Me thinks I better stock up on a few bottles for you here Burgundy please, don't forget Epoisses. Off topic Sorry Nong1.. Old (friends) people get together, you know. so... there you have it N' BCool.... See?...friends can still be friends... even after some lapsed times... and even when new relationships start or not. And thats how it should be :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted February 16, 2010 Author Report Share Posted February 16, 2010 I never had that problem with my gal. In fact I think I have more female friends now than before I met her. One just got to show who the boss is, tihi... I think I met her before.. right? Yaa, I think u met her. She thinks people are reluctant to talk to her, cos she thinks she look unfriendly. But she isn't unfriendly, really. hmm seriously, i didn't feel that way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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