smartass Posted February 1, 2005 Report Share Posted February 1, 2005 What kinda men who can do such a thing to their partner? Why? And why some girls still stay? I learned it from my friend that his friend got beaten up by her boyfriend. The reason? Cos she said stuff that he did not want to hear. So he gotta keep her in line. And she said it was her fault!! The guy is farang, the girl is Thai. What would you do if this happened to you or one of your friends? Or what would you do if your friend happened to act like a beast like that? Kick him in da nuts, maybe?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smartass Posted February 1, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 1, 2005 wow cherry........got me speechless here.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted February 1, 2005 Report Share Posted February 1, 2005 If it was friends of mine I would tell the guy he needs a therapist and the girl too if she stays with him. No one deserves to get beaten not even a dog. No excuse for it NONE !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted February 2, 2005 Report Share Posted February 2, 2005 i am along the lines of what jimba said, but i dont have his military training in inflicting harm, but like james brown said, "i dont know karate, but i know ka-razy." that is just never ok, and there are never any circumstances where it's justified (unless the girls pointing a gun at him). my ex gf (rea, for those keeping score) threw stuff at me (books, dishes, etc) and all i did was restrain her. any guy who thinks he has a reason for this is full of ****. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted February 2, 2005 Report Share Posted February 2, 2005 I think generally persons who turn arguments in to violence, mainly are very unsecure about them self, have lack of capability to argue and debate. sometimes but i think there's more to it than this. there are a lot of reasons why ppl are violent. i have half decent debating skills but in the presence of a scumbag who would do this sort of thing i would feel a very strong urge to cause permanent, crippling disfiguring harm to the m**********r, and would have to remain focused every minute to maintain that thin veneer of civilization we are born capable of. beating the woman you claim to love is about power and control in my opinion. i cant think of too many things that disgust and piss me off more. in my opinion a person that desperate to exert power and control over someone weaker than themselves does not deserve to have power or control over *anything*. Those reasons don't at all excuse their doings, but I think they generally shout for help, and that help should be from professionals! what you say is sensible and humane, but the best i can offer is the generous advice that such ppl need to be kept away from me, as every minute i spend in their presence i would spend talking myself out of finding ways to cause crippling, disfiguring damage to them. and that's no solution either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted February 2, 2005 Report Share Posted February 2, 2005 kneecap the bastard .... just as a side note the provos (ira) used to kneecap individuals for what they perceived as "crimes". initially this was done used a handgun, but over time a black and decker drill (or concrete block) became the preferred tool for the job. reason being u could 10+ years for possession of a firearm, but construction tools were never made illegal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babyoiy Posted February 9, 2005 Report Share Posted February 9, 2005 wot can i say if my friends can handle it still.. Nothing!!! hehe and well my cousin and his gf were fighting a lot before.. u know his gf was really good in fighting hahaha .. but im glad they are not fighting anymore... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uarewotueat Posted February 9, 2005 Report Share Posted February 9, 2005 well if a girl is stupid enough to stay with a guy who beats her then there is little anyone can do, theres always a way out of a situation like that! ...i know a guy who hits his girl when he gets drunk ...she is pretty dumb though, she says its just cos he dosent know how to express his love for her :shock: ...actually i know quite alot of messed up people, one couple i know both beat each other up :? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
khun_lung Posted February 9, 2005 Report Share Posted February 9, 2005 One of my female friends has a bf and when they fight he abuses her physically. Not once, many times. I've begged with her to dump him but she says she's over 30 and is afraid she'll never find another guy and wants to marry him anyway. It's going to happen again and again and again! So bad! I have no use for guys that physically abuse women for whatever reason! Put them in jail and they'll just come back and do it again. They don't need punishment, they need a new brain! DUMP THEM! (I say that about a lot of guys, don't I? hehehe But it's the truth!) Girls, I know this isn't easy, but PLEASE try to find a guy you can love who is jai yen! You'll be so much happier! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rubkordaikrab Posted February 9, 2005 Report Share Posted February 9, 2005 You will only have more problems in the future. This with not hitting the women is just bull, off course you can slapp a girl if she is attacking you. Not the first choise but if you are getting serius hurt or others one slap will not kill her.Maybe if you stay in a apartment call the security. I will never ever alow a girl to slap my face (just maybe when she is wearing rubber suit) Set your own lines be your own boss do not listen to moral from other people or let them judge you. You know what was best in that situation and nobody else. Does anybody know why they lady should go first inside the door? Its beucase the lady was not worth anything before loooooooong time ago so she should take the first blow if something happend inside. True Story :shock: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bored Posted February 10, 2005 Report Share Posted February 10, 2005 i don't agree with physical punishment applied to the beautiful sex. however, i once had the opportunity of seeing a knife pointed at me. at the end of the knife was a drunk "girlfriend". what came after that? she cried a lot but not because of a bad smell coming from her bag. guess why? ...pooping in her handbag when she's not looking is much more satisfying anyway good one anyway. i'll remember it next time :shock: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted February 10, 2005 Report Share Posted February 10, 2005 Thinking back I'm disgusted with myself and don't blame anyone for calling women like us stupid because it's true. For anyone who read this far, I thank you. But I have a question. Since we're all in total agreement that domestic violence is a NO NO. Do you think any wife-gf/husband-bf beater would dare OWEING UP? I SERIOUSLY DOUBT IT. wow. that is admirably brave to talk about this publically. as far as i'm concerned the only truly smart ppl are the ones who figure out how stupid they've been and learned something from it, sounds like you're one of those. as far as guys who beat women owning up to it, i was in jail for a couple days a few years ago (driving while intoxicated, a one-time thing). the creepiest moments were mealtimes, there guys in there who bragged about beating up their girlfriends/wives and compared notes like it was some friggin tech school or something. as far as violence in relationships goes i generally havent experienced much except for verbal, if that counts. 2 times: one time i nearly cut my finger off. does self-beating count? i was in an argument with my then-gf, who was in the next room. i had a drinking glass in my hand and smashed it against the wall, hand and all. the other time, a girl liked to throw things at me, she was not a large person though and i generally was able to grab her in a bear hug and wrestle her to the ground until she calmed down. she had lousy aim and i wasnt injured by these projectiles, and i didnt physically hurt her except for occasional red marks on the wrist. jokes on her, the dishes she threw were HERS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rubkordaikrab Posted February 10, 2005 Report Share Posted February 10, 2005 I am so happy i do not beilive in this word called L O V E and all that other bullshit. There is NO love NONE what so ever going back to some one that kicks your head in when you pop in the door. Its not love think about it. Have you ever hear some one say "o well i love when some kicks me in the face i just looooove it" Wake up and smell the real world love does not exist its a word used to snare and make you weak. So is anthoer word called religon. So please spare me the "i love him thats why i go back to him when he kick me" beucase you got it all wrong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted February 10, 2005 Report Share Posted February 10, 2005 I am so happy i do not beilive in this word called L O V E and all that other bullshit. There is NO love NONE what so ever going back to some one that kicks your head in when you pop in the door. Its not love think about it. Have you ever hear some one say "o well i love when some kicks me in the face i just looooove it" Wake up and smell the real world love does not exist its a word used to snare and make you weak. So is anthoer word called religon. So please spare me the "i love him thats why i go back to him when he kick me" beucase you got it all wrong it's a little too easy to be judgmental of ppl in situations that you've never experienced. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rubkordaikrab Posted February 10, 2005 Report Share Posted February 10, 2005 I am so happy i do not beilive in this word called L O V E and all that other bullshit. There is NO love NONE what so ever going back to some one that kicks your head in when you pop in the door. Its not love think about it. Have you ever hear some one say "o well i love when some kicks me in the face i just looooove it" Wake up and smell the real world love does not exist its a word used to snare and make you weak. So is anthoer word called religon. So please spare me the "i love him thats why i go back to him when he kick me" beucase you got it all wrong it's a little too easy to be judgmental of ppl in situations that you've never experienced. Yes thats right i would never stay if a girl is aggressive in Thailand i learned my lesson evern if was not in love to leave as quick as possible when the thing 2 people have toghther is getting no were but fighting. And no i will not have the same problem beucase i do not think there something called love. I think u missing the point think about it Zeus you call it love to be beaten up all day long? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted February 10, 2005 Report Share Posted February 10, 2005 I think u missing the point think about it Zeus you call it love to be beaten up all day long? no i'm not missing the point, it's not a matter of logic but of compassion---or apparent lack thereof. generally the ppl that stay in these situations know on some level it isnt a rational thing to do. they are caught on a psychological hook so to speak, and like addicts, make excuses as to why they dont have a problem until they have that moment of clarity or bottom out. whether you call it love is not the issue. i might be more inclined to label it as 'toxic co-dependency' or obsession, but i dont think it matters what you label the thing that keeps ppl in bad situations. the thing to keep in mind is that like an addiction it's more complicated than just walking away, and usually requires someone rethinking their life in a serious and profound way. i'm just saying that you might do well to recognize the distinction between simple and easy . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rubkordaikrab Posted February 10, 2005 Report Share Posted February 10, 2005 rubkordaikrub, I didn't love being kicked in the face really OK, I was young, naive and with him being my firest love, I didn't know what I was doing but I would still call it LOVE. At least, I LOVED him...enough to not care what he did. Right good that your learned the lesson. I still do not think its love you feeling i think more its "stockholms syndrom" you get addicted or used to the abuse so you can not run away. The "attack" was not @ you but to LOVE it self and i still say it its spells BULLSHIT not love. i get so angry "sorry" when people mention love or good when they did something stupid like staying with him. Btw i beilive in Anger and sadness but not love Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rubkordaikrab Posted February 10, 2005 Report Share Posted February 10, 2005 Btw i beilive in Anger and sadness but not love thats good...cause thats all you'll ever get! don't know you. don't know your story. don't know why you feel the way you do. I do however feel sorry for you and hope you, like the girl in the story, can find the strength to crawl out from under whatever it is your hiding from. Your are stuck some were in Love land and you know deep inside that is wrong but you have to like the children you read when your a small boy ride out like the white knight and save some one. Come on out your self and stop pretending to be some you are not and before this get to personal lets finished this now. :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted February 11, 2005 Report Share Posted February 11, 2005 is a guy who hits his female partner any worse than a girl who hits her male partner ?i know full well a rush of guys are gonna say of course they are but it deserves looking at in more detail. why should a guy be considered worse when he cant control his temper to the degree of not hitting out than a woman just because nature made him stronger, and some women will take advantage of the fact that their guy is too much of a gentleman to hit her back to inflict whatever physical attack they want to upon them. thinking back about it now i feel that i should not have allowed myself to get into the position that allowed this to happen by finishing with her as soon as it became apparent she could not control herself and was liable to go crazy at the most ridiculous things, but there was something going on in my mind back then that is not now - I was in love with her. well andy i reckon the main reason why ppl think it is worse for a guy to hit his partner is because usually the guy is bigger and stronger and the girl will usually come of second best, bit of an unfair match if u like. i don't believe in killing ppl and i don't believe in hitting girls, but in a situation of genuine self defence i personally feel both can be justified.only u (and the girl in question) know if it was justified in this instance. however, i think u have given the simple answer .. do not get into this situation and finish as soon as violence or the threat of violence enters the relationship. but as with girls who stay with guys who abuse them, u seem to have been suffering that most horrendous of afflications LOVE ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted February 11, 2005 Report Share Posted February 11, 2005 Been there Andy, still got the teeth marks to prove it... :shock: u ***** u promised u wouldn't say anything. and never mind those little love nibbles next time cut ur f**king nails .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted February 11, 2005 Report Share Posted February 11, 2005 rubkordaikrub, I didn't love being kicked in the face really OK, I was young, naive and with him being my firest love, I didn't know what I was doing but I would still call it LOVE. At least, I LOVED him...enough to not care what he did. Right good that your learned the lesson. I still do not think its love you feeling i think more its "stockholms syndrom" you get addicted or used to the abuse so you can not run away. The "attack" was not @ you but to LOVE it self and i still say it its spells BULLSHIT not love. i get so angry "sorry" when people mention love or good when they did something stupid like staying with him. Btw i beilive in Anger and sadness but not love wow you seem to have all the answers. i had previously been under the mistaken impression that human behavior was complicated. thanks for clearing that up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oneil Posted February 11, 2005 Report Share Posted February 11, 2005 If we're talking about what is shown on TV, movies, and in the real life by most of the human beings, I wouldn't call it love, but addiction, share of neurosis, struggle for power and possession, etc... I don't like that they call it love because I really think it exist ? I can feel it inside, I can see it in others. We are so full of contradictions... in a relationship, the point is to know ? to feel ? what is the most important we share: dark or light side. Respect is the base of the light side. Violence is one expression of the dark side. When we began to fight physically my ex and I (it's not for escaping my responsibility, but, dad, she the one who begun), it came to an end for me, even if it took me more than a year to run away. Because, yes, I'm not made of just one material. If someone does know what is love, it's OK. But then, how can he understand the ones who do? And how may he try to give lessons? Love is such a marvelous feeling, for me the only important thing in life, although it's mixed up with the s***t we've been taught to have inside. I've had to learn to clean it a lot, it's an endless work, but now, when it shines in me, I know it was worthy to live for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
appun Posted February 15, 2005 Report Share Posted February 15, 2005 Have u ever wondered :? WHY girls always fall for BASTARDS..also guys always fall into real *******...?? i dont really understand for those kind of stuff.. but it happens!! :twisted: have anyone of you ever been in that place??? and how could you get through? im on a research.... :!: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
x_megs_x Posted February 25, 2005 Report Share Posted February 25, 2005 Well, every thai boyfriend ive had has beaten me up Last time I got hurt was last night, just because I went for a few drinks with my mum and came home smelling of alcahol... Hes gone now, I dont know where but got a feeling he'll be back soon... Last time he broke my stuff... I gotta use it broken now.. My mums bf is a lady-beater ( MUSLIM ! ) ... my ex was a lady beater and he beat me up once I found out he was cheating on me..... Guys... they all seem the same... :roll: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vipin Posted February 25, 2005 Report Share Posted February 25, 2005 fight never solve any problem......... things can always be sloved by keeping ourself coool compromise is the one solution and if not work better to get seprate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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