i went out for a few drinks last night with this guy my friend introduced me a week ago... we were having very interesting conversations in various subjects (kinda philosophy!) ... then we came up to this subject... do you need a partner in order to feel completed... i said "yes, sure... its always better to be able to share things and have someone beside you or do things together" then he said like "something is better to do alone and sometimes its nice to be alone as well" so i said "well, for instance sex... can you have sex alone?" i think he went shocked with my direct statement after that!

what i am trying to indicate is that im sure all of us in this planet learn to be on our own at some points in our lives... i can be completed by myself alone for sure but asking about would it be better to have a partner to feel completed... i would say, yes... but once you learn to be completed by yourself first to be able to completed with another person... but asking about do i need a partner to feel completed i would say, its not necessarily true if you learn to be completed by yourself already! confused eh?

what do you think?

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Confused...

I'll come down on the side of needing a partner in order to feel completed.

Friends are great but they can't be there for you all the time. Being able to share what you are thinking or feeling with someone is essential to most people. Of course there are certain saints and mystics, yogis and whatnot who are perfectly content being alone but I think most people are not wired that way.

Being alone is not necessarily being lonely. But I do agree that a partnership serves a need that cannot be achieved by being alone.

my feelings on this have changed over time. i used to think that i could be completely independent, that i wouldn't need anyone at all in my life. however, i'm starting to believe that this sort of live is unsustainable and ultimately unsatisfying in the long-run, that after a while one can't live the single crazy life with no personal responsibility and expect to feel fulfilled. so yeah, i think there's a degree of need in our lives to have someone there, to have a family, and grow and develop together.

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I think a person should be able to feel complete without having to depend on someone else. However, sharing one's life with a partner can fulfill the missing piece and makes this world seems whole.

Yes I do but no rush..

Being alone is a good skill to master when you have no one. It helps but you would always feel better with someone else. Nothing feels better than a warm touch and a hug.

I love to live alone, bec i can do whatever i like ;-)

Hardly understand !!!!!!!!!!

Have you been drinking too much coffee again today, dear?

I think you need to make a distinction between being complete emotionally and spiritually, and being alone physically. When you gave the example of sex, you might as well have said "tennis," since you CAN do it alone, but it is an activity that is done most enjoyably with two (or even 4

As for needing somebody to make you complete as a person, I don't think we should look to somebody else to make us feel whole. I'm quite happy on my own, and my personality and satisfaction with life doesn't depend on if I have a steady gf or not. As for sharing with others, it doesn't have to be a partner. To me, I'm just as happy to share with a good friend, or a family member.

i feel complete alone, butTthe other is the pepper: the food will taste much better when the pepper is there .

To me, it's not a question of needing a partner to feel completed. I can be just as comfortable, and content by myself, as with someone.

What I find is simply different experiences with a partner, neither life style being more, or less complete. By myself I experience life for completeness with a different vision than when I'm with a partner. I use the same quest for completeness in life with a partner, or without. It's simply that the thoughts, and considerations, are based on a different set of responsibilities striving for the same goal.

yes you can have sex alone but its not as sensual as do with someone...

know what i mean? gimme ur address, i'll send ya a vibrator lol

i think having many partners makes u really really complete.....555....actual never understand why people need partner to fill a hole when i am whole by myself...

haha Filurina, i prefer the real thing to vibrator tho but wouldnt mind if ya like to send me one! sure!!!

lizardo: true! how can i never come up with ya idea? hehe

Jay: you are alright honey?? your words almost made me cry!!!

Mike: lets go for a tennis match next time or any activity that is more enjoyable to do together!

Khun_lung: you are so sweet always

CMG_UK: im actually confused with what i wrote too... to be honest!

chrispilok, bondjames, frits: i totally agree with you.

FXN: i heard that line before but not sure from where???

literature, A0mmy : yes, but im sure u heard this before... men are difficult to live with but we cant live without eh?

Steinar: poor ya, i was thinking to ask u out!

koolbreez: maybe when im older i will have the same idea... just cant completely see it now yet...

thank you for all the witty comments by the way

Well, I have to say this issue has come back to haunt me again and again over the years. I finally get to a place where I'm fairly content with being alone. Then I hook up with a new gf and get somewhat attached. After some time it becomes apparent that we're probably not the best match and then I'm lone again and it takes a while to feel content with that again. I think the answer to that question is no not in the short-term, but ultimately yes. I do think I eventually need a true long-term partner to feel complete in my life. I don't think I will ever be able to entirely shake that feeling, nor do I want to.

As we no longer rely on a group to get food, shelter, security and even to reproduce to a certain extend (insemination) our society is pushing each individual towards more egoism, competitiveness and selfishness. The partner is no longer a necessity but a choice.

I would think that a partner doesn't make you complete as we are all complete on our own: a partner brings you to a new dimension outside yourself 1+1=3 or 5 or 1,000,000! That's why it can be so wonderful and so moving.