Ive been looking for a job since mid of last month and I’ve been to job interviews for 8-9 times since then. Yesterday, I have two job interviews, one at 2 pm and another at 5.30 pm. The last job interview went from 5.30 to 7.20pm the interviewer is a European guy who own a small company in Bangkok. I like the way he speaking about expanding his business and I like his ambition and ideas about business planning and stuff but while he interviewing me he seems to add about his personal life periodically like he has two beautiful houses, one in Bangkok and one at a beach and he has two cute dogs, he drives a nice, luxury brand car. He told me his age and he's single.

Once he saw my marital status on my cv he seems surprised but not obvious (I probably flattered myself). And when he knows my husband live in oversea he asks me how often my husband comes to meet me here and how often I come to meet him there. He also asks about my husband work, his position and the name of company my husband works, before said he has some businesses in NZ which is skeptical me alot. Oh he did mention about his gf once before the interview ending.

My question is what you think about him in the way he talked bout himself during interview.

Is this some kind of European style? I remembered my boss of my last job interviewed me he said “ I don’t smoke and I don’t drink so I am perfect†I didn’t know how to react to his remarked but opted to silence and smile because I was there for job interview not a speed dating but when I work with him there was nothing wrong. He was professional while I was working with him except he told me to massage his shoulder in the office but that was only once.

Ok back to my present interview it was my second interview with this company, yesterday and I was called again an hour ago today that he wants to have a third interview with me tomorrow at 2 pm. I don’t want to be pessimistic with the interview should’ve done since yesterday.

One more thing, I've never been nightmare for such a long time but last night I was dreaming that I woke up in bed with him and he grabs my hand to give him a hand job and I say “NO WAY†then he says “BORINGâ€. I was screaming from the top of my lung that “DID YOU DRUG ME?†I kept screaming with such question until I heard the sound of my throat squeaking and suddenly I awaken, it was 3 am in the morning and I can’t resume sleeping. I was keep thinking if my dream is a sign to tell me something or I just too over flattered myself and too worrying.

My husband said once I get a job he will book air ticket immediately and now I’m going to have third job interview but I’m scare. I keep telling myself that may be there is nothing wrong at all but my mentality..lol…

Remember, I have experienced in year 2009 that I have a job interview and the interviewer said “I don’t know if I am interviewing you as my staff or my gf because you seem like a nice girlâ€. And he goes on and on about his free time lying on a tub bath with therapeutic salt sprinkles, together with soft and light music on …….. And this is perhaps a part of experience that keep warning me when I facing strange situation like this. tell me there is nothing wrong.

And another interview it was on April 12, and the owner is Thai, the position I applied was secretary to MD I was called to have first interview and test. The test was quite basic English and I like it here but before the interview ending the personnel told me that†the MD will selected any candidate whose beauty meet his standard†my confidence is fall from head to toe, I mean how could I compete look with a young, new graduate girl. I wanted to ask the guy “and why you call me here if you want beautiful candidate?†lol..

I need neutral opinions, and you don’t need to take my side but be honest of what you guys thinking…Please!!! Thanks….

I am really, really upsetting now!!!

Well you can tell the Thai guy that you can compete with all the younger models because you are competent and not a desk ornament.

Also you have had quite a history of job interviews!!!! Bosses actually interview for mistresses? or at least imply it as part of the interview?

I would not tolerate it personally and insist that he keep the atmosphere professional. Real Talk. usually those types of guys will act like what they can get away with. But any job with that kind of tension day in and day out is not good for your relationship with your husband and it's not worth working there. Just my opinion.

Only bad interview experience I ever had was I was applying for a job and the woman interviewing me was a retired flight attendant with 25 years in Delta. She kept saying how much she hated men and they were all the same. It sounded like a ton of personal baggage and bias leading that interview.

I didn't get that job, believe that??

Well I think you should believe in your sense. It's always true. It's not the standard of interviewing at all that your future - boss has to explain how good he is to you. Moreover, why he had to ask you more after he knew you're not the single lady at all. It's totally strange. It's kidding that you reach the standard of European guy ^^.

are nt you living in NZ????

I would ask him to buy me a glass / bottle of wine once he start talking about his personal life ... (listening to someone's personal life style you dont need to be sober)

hmm, I have not had many interviews, but I remember one woman who interviewed me for an editorial job. All she did was tell me about herslef, and during this I was thinking "what the **** are we doing here? You are supposed to be asking targeted questions to decide if I am suitable for the job". And I had difficulty just getting some words in. In my other interviews I have been quite focused on steering the dialogue, but she just told me how cool she was. In the end, I got the job, I was CRAP at it (the only job I will ever admit this), I hated it, I was uninterested and she was a fool. And this is how she interviewed everyone....cos I asked other ppl...

Anyway, thats my experience of interviews that are flowing in the wrong direction ...

MD at the previous company I worked for was super pretty, although she isn't the cream of the cake. She's been working their for years and still going strong. Some company prefers look to ability, I guess there's not much you can do about it.

Working for a small company closely with the owner can be problematic, if the owner isn't professional enough. But if you need a job now, you can try to stick around for a month or two, and if things go well you stay, if not, resign and look for a job again. At least you have some money for a month or two.

If you aren't really in need of a job, don't take any of the offer. Look for a new choice.

Good luck.

i guess it depend on what you apply for.

if secretary, as it seems, it's quite normal looking for a girl who doesn't get bored in listening Boss story...hahaha

and it's gonna happen everyday, probably the same story

Thanks to all ka... I shouldn't tell you guys of my dreaming it is funny when i read it. i shouldn't scare of thing that not yet happen though...