Have you ever had feeling like this?

1.    why do we have to go to work spend all day at work (8.00-14.30 +++)?

2.    People at work they just your colleagues not really friends but you spend your daytime with them

3.    As my work schedule  so difference from other professors ,we never had time to go for lunch together.

4.    I meet friends from university only in special events like Christmas ,new year or someone going to married and want to have bachelor party , most of them married and have something to do with family.

5.    They don?t like to go out at night nor neither I,so can not meet up after work.

6.    I and friends from high school never met if I did not go to the school?s new year party.

7.     I have some friends at old work place coz we are in the same age ?here I am a young & new lecturer ? everyone are 40++ ?can not act TINGTONG and SEXY that much

8.    I spend all day online ? but I never have time to meet those internet friends  some ppl on some web societies are strange or being computer geek the don?t want to meet any one also

9.    People on TF are nice but  I am not sure that they like to meet me or not ? ppl who go to events ,most of them I have never talked,some of them I tried to talk to them but never get any feed back ? I will not bite

10.    I am TINGTONG,very friendly,and like to help others but when ppl meet me at the first time may not see this.

Today I think ??I have 200++ friend?s number in my phone list but I could not meet up?.

Really lonely

take it easy!

the person who designed and created the picture you describe is you. So...redesign the picture. Its all your own choices to be this way. So...choose again.

i do have friends just feel lonely don't know why

relax...don't try so hard...

This happens when people get caught up in the daily routine of eat, work, and sleep. Call two people you know and just invite them out for dinner...try to make it a weekly thing.

Just get out and do it!

I am getting old , maybe

Rule # 1: The admin is always right.

Rule #2: If the admin is wrong, rule number 1 automatically applies!

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I learned the hard way years ago; never, ever get involved with people at work, especially romantically.

People at work can be good people, good friends and even mates but more often the case personal relationships turn sour and you pay with your career.

I knew someone with a promising career at a large [unnamed] US computer giant who dated the friend of his boss. When it fell apart he never received another penny raise let alone another promotion. Career ended with blacklisting....

On a smaller scale it's good to not open yourself to be the subject of [always exagerated] office gossip about your previous night. You could have been in church but after the story is repeated 40 times you were strutting naked on Soi Bangala with the cast of the Simeon Cabaret and a giraffe.

There is a valuable saying that goes [something like] "A dog never sh*ts in the same place where he eats."

Allso, by having your set of friends apart from your coworkers you broaden your life vs. keeping it sterile an inbred with the same old crew.

i find this work for me when i want to meet new people and stop feeling lonely

1. find a very busy place like the shopping mall on the weekend

2. strip off all your cloths in a private place

3. run through shopping mall screaming at the top of your voice

lots of people will notice, some nice people will come to take you away to meet other nice people

who will give you lots of colored candy that does not taste good but makes you feel a whole lot better.

hope this helps let me know who it works for you

wanna meet me on weekends mai khap?

I agree with Admin's advice about dinner, and making it a weekly thing. For fifteen years, I went to lunch every other Friday with 5 to 10 friends, all engineers and geeks. We'd all worked together at some point in our careers. It was great to catch up with each other as we moved through different jobs and our families changed, and I know of three difficult technical problems solved at that table in less than 1.5 hours in casual conversation. Sometimes someone else has already solved the problem you're working on, but there's nothing published.

I think it is important to have friends both inside and outside your profession. Inside, for professional insight, and outside to prevent having too limited a view of life and work. You have chosen a demanding profession, but that doesn't mean you can't have a life, too.

trocks69: yes ,, it works

admin,newyorkd,JimnT: very good advises KA

olympos,garlic:yes i will

peemarc:i am trying now

Just a couple of things to add to the good advice above.

First, I think it's important to remember and know you're not alone - many of us feel this way every now and then. It's probably a side-effect of modern and/or urban life. And second, I think there is a change when you get a bit older - a mix of being more tolerant generally (hopefully!), but also more choosy or fussy about who you spend you social time with. It takes a bit more effort to find people you truly connect with, maybe - important thing is to keep talking to people and reaching out to connect.

this is the live.......mai pen rai and think positive

ps-mmmm....... do you always reply msg of people who try to be yours friends?

poor u...!!!

What happened to Russ?

There are many ways to keey yourself happy... let's have some hobbies or at least one.

Playing guitar, taking pictures, going to the gym (emmm never done it myself), cooking, etc...

i work from 8.30 a.m.- 4.30 p.m........ÊÙéæ ¹Ã¨êÃ

I work from 1996 - present.

mediterranean:yes if they want to be frends

supannee: hehe ... old woman like me

condotown: Russ is not just friend .... i mean ,I want to meet some friends...

cool_A: yes ... want to go to gym ...never make it !!!! ,,, i like swimming pool also coz i like to wear swimming suit

Sneaky:thank you

Admin: so I work abit longer than you as i am older...dont want to mention that to handsome man you know... lol

(hope your wife dont mind i always mention that you handsome .... but dont tell Russ)

I never be alone even my sleeping time coz i be with a cousin....You got lots of friends including me ja...

I dont think age or getting older has anything to do with being lonely.

My best friend and I are miles apart plus he has a gf and a new job that he's doing an excellent work now..so it's hard for us to catch up for the fact that we don't live in the same country any longer.As soon as I posted that I was sad on facebook, right away he came online to talk with me

The other close friend of mine is now married with 2 kids which makes it hard for us to go out..hang out without his wife or kids... or even call to tell him something cuz that might bother his family time. But I know by heart that I'm still there tho he's married and our frienship will never change.

But I've never been so lonely-I even prefer solitude so that I can sit and talk with myself. Find out what I want to do and have I completed or achieved what I have said I would want to do.

or I might be so blessed that I've got people who really love me. And that keeps my heart warm at night or when the coldest time comes. But I guess that won't come so easy if i have not invested my love and friendship iin them either. I'm loved because I dearly love them. They are there for me as much as I'm always there for them.

I'm not saying that you don't have any close friends but maybe you just don't realize that you do. And when you know it by heart you will feel secure.

I am secure though I'm alone but I' not shaken because I know I'm always loved and friends are always there for me even though I don't get to hang out with them much.

The bonus is im a good entertainer and I can entertain myself

soda : sadly my cousin is a man .... can not sleep with him

Nave : thank you you make me know that I have someone ....really do....