I got an E-mail from an old Army buddy of mine a few days ago, Who is desperately seeking some advise on his relationship with his Thai G/F, He wrote me cause he knows that I'm also dating a Thai lady.

But I'm relatively new at dating Thai ladies myself, so I'm not the one to give advise on whats normal and whats not.

He is NOT a member of TF and neither is his G/F, thats why I'm asking you gals for your opinions.....

My friend has been dating this lady for about two years now, and he's been very kind and generous to her, he only gets to see her about three times a year but takes care of her finacially all year long....

He pays her rent, bought her a used car, some furniture, and has taken her on several trips to Koh Samoi......He also gives her a monthly allowance of about 40,000 baht.

OK heres what has been upsetting him about all this.

They talk on the internet quite often and she makes promises to do things on his next trip to see her, but she never follows through on them.

When he is there to see her, she ignores him and spends more time with her friends then with him, leaving him alone for a lot of his holiday.

Her sex drive with him is next to nothing, but when he's gone back home, she sleeps with other ppl.

To sum it all up......She doesn't mind taking his money and going on trips, but she has no interest in trying to act like, or show him she is his G/F.

He says that She really cares about him, but she just never showes it.

I think that saying it is one thing, but you have to prove it too. Relationships can't be a one way street.....It has to be 50/50 and it has to include a healthy sex life.

Are the things she does and the way she acts normal in a Thai / Farang relationship....?

Personally, I think she is taking advantage of his kindness and he should move on to someone who will care about him and actually show him that she cares.

So......Advise please.....

Should he stick it out and see if " Maybe Someday" she starts to show her feelings for him.

or

Should he cut his losses and move on to someone that will treat him as good as he treats her.

NO. End it now. This is not normal. Let me correct that. This is not healthy. Thai woman are, in many ways, just like everyone else. If they love a guy, or care for him, they will show it. They will take care of him in the ways they can. They may have some frustrating habits (concerning time, appointments, etc.) that don't jibe with ours, but if they care about a guy, he will know it. They will show it. Not just say it.

This is normal: for a leech. And there are many many here looking for a 40,000 baht a month farang sucker.

Sorry, but tell your friend to put away his wallet and get out of this relationship right away. Don't hesitate. It's a mistake. Realize it and move on before it gets even worse.

If he really wants to find a good Thai woman, he's probably going to have to come live here for a while, and still be careful.

Same as Loburt and totally against what jamesbond said (sorry, it's not personal).

Don't even think about any possibility of success here. Try to get the car and rings back, and any other stuff that he gave her.

sounds wrong since the beginning. DUMP!

he should bail. she is using him. he will never get the things back that he has given her. he should cut his losses and get the hell out while he still has some money in his pocket.

Gives her an 'allowance" of 40,000 baht! Does he realize that is more than many many many Thai's make in a month?

is your friend a musical instrument?

i hope so, coz he is getting played.

hey i'm loyal and sexy, will he give me a 40k baht allowance?

Maybe it is, maybe it isnt. But it sounds like a classic "been used by a thaigirl" story. (change the radiostation pls)

Its your friends choice. he doesnt hv to be in this situation,if he chooses not to be in it.

If he wants to be a sugardaddy? why not! But dont go complaining about it.

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

The issue of whether she is Thai should be irrelevant. In every society and in every country, there are "leeches". Just an example, Anna Nicole Smith.

The primary consideration here should be whether they have a loving relationship. If so, then supporting one's partner financially or otherwise is an expression of love. If not, then you have to question why you should be in that relationship.

That is my $40,000 baht worth.

I'd like to thank everyone so far on some great advise......This sounds like a touchy subject, But the comments so far are well recieved

Thanks again......

I'm failing to see why this guy needs other people's 'advice'??? Strange. The writing is clearly on the wall, no? :O:O:O

"He pays her rent, bought her a used car, some furniture, and has taken her on several trips to Koh Samoi......He also gives her a monthly allowance of about 40,000 baht."

lol oh my god this guy is crazy 40,000 a month.

he has to get rid of her

he is jus a source of income she is taging along.

she is takeing his money and spending it on her other bf,and friends.

he sent her way too much,and should not have to send her anything.

she was doing fine befor he met her.

if he wanted to send money her should of only sent 6000-8000 baht a month.

40,000 is a fortune in thailand.She really played him like a fool

One rule if your guys wanna have relationship with thai girl.: DON'T GIVE HER MONEY OR FINIANCIAL. Love not matter with money...BELIEVE>>>>

I agree with most of the opinions here. She's taking him for an expensive ride, and they will never be happy as a couple. I know love is blind, but for god's sake give him some insight!

My Dear Cerebus,

If she is allowing her vagina to be used as a receptacle for another mans penis during sexual activity then I view it as a totally unacceptable form of behaviour for a "partner".

Such a 'junk' kind of a friend you got man! lol

try to fix him with a narak HOT slot [lbf]machine... it may do wonders to him

.... and for waaay much less $atang, no quextion 'bout it

thx for the w-end joke anyway pal!

; D

John, I suggest he dump her right away and give me the money.