PattayaDaz Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Your thoughts please.... As I get older I find I spend a lot of my time explaining that I am single...No..not divorced..or seperated...or widowed.......SINGLE ..As in Never Married ...I know in Asia early marriage is the norm (except maybe for the elite) Even in Europe and the USA most people have had a live in relationship or a are married by their late 20's or early thirties ( I believe, correct me if you know more) However these types of relationships have eluded me..I travel very frequently and work in a completely male enviroment so establishing new friendships or even keeping old ones going with girls is not that easy. However when I look back I've never been short of a girlfriend either.. Of course what does gall is that I am pretty satisfied with my lifestyle...I have a lot of freedom, a good salary, a nice home and a motorbike..plus lots of friends (mostly with partners) So why do I find myself explaining and rationalising to complete strangers once they ask the question....Where is your wife/GF. Everywhere I go from the supermarket to homemart..even the electricity company the assistant ask the same thing...Is it so hard to believe. Or..... do they find it imposible that male farang can exist in Thailand without a missus... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frankenburner2 Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 I may have your ID mixed up with someone else who uses "pataya" in their ID...but I don't think so. Your question is valid, but I wonder how much of your personality and character are reflected in your choice of post material...I seem to recall alot of stuff that had me thinking you were a horny 19 year old or a just another sex-tourist...I'm not trying to be insulting, and forgive me if I am, but we do in fact reap what we sow, often get exactly what we ask for, receive tenfold what we give out......and finally, must sleep in the bed we make. Does that answer your question? again...not intended as a dig or judgement, just an observation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robbie36 Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Thais rank family above the individual and so they naturally see you as a fairly pathetic individual. Your own personal philosophy is to place friends ahead of family. I dont see anything wrong with that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frankenburner2 Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 checked back....yup...its you....Dude! are you seriously confused about why you are single? have you read your posts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WiCKeDBiRD Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 checked back....yup...its you....Dude! are you seriously confused about why you are single? have you read your posts? Yes... I suppose... Its a side effect of NOT having any GF-s, fling-s or Gik-s.... only Services. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malky Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 As long as you are happy with being single then I don't think it's much of a problem. If you have already had plenty of girlfriends then great. I would be worried though, if I was approaching 40 and had only been with a couple of women. For people living in Pattaya, I doubt it is much of a hardship to be single. It is probably more difficult to have a normal relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robbie36 Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Truthfully a 40 year old guy in Thai society is expected to look after his wife, his kids, his parents and his wife's parents. Now you have managed to look after.. yourself.... Which is ok and i can see why you might be happy but I am sure you can also see why society might give you zero respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farangnbkk Posted September 15, 2005 Report Share Posted September 15, 2005 Thais got some really nifty words for spinster. But guess what??? There all for the female persuasion. Still I think they are worth knowing so you should search them out. Then when a Thai asks you, you can give them that! Then you have the joy of watching their face scrunch up as they try to think (as MOST never do!) Happy happy joy joy!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laughs Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 I've not read your previous threads PD, although I've seen the subject matter and just kinda blanked it. Not knocking you at all man, but I've read a lot of similar stuff before. I'm therefore, I guess, kinda subjective to this thread. I'm in the same shoes as you, 36 years old and single. Difference is, I'm still living in the west where the older (?) single male is far more common, compared to say twenty years ago. I occasionally get a bit of a grilling but it's water off a ducks back....f*ck them. Lifestyles and choices.....it's my f*cking decision and who cares what others think. The number of guys I knew at school who married young (20-25 years old), who are now divorced, maybe two times, and have in my opinion NO LIFE...is really really sad. But that's just my take on things... I don't know enough about Thai culture to second guess the grief you must get from time to time, but you have to respect your own philosophy and self beliefs. Good on you man. I sometimes think I'll never marry, but who knows...I'll take whatever is thrown at me and don't expect any change from trying to dictate a conscious change in direction. If its gonna happen...it'll happen. Not saying your own actions won't precipitate matters, but hell....let it flow. Is this just lack of maturity/responsibility? Yeah maybe....but that's the way it is. Each to their own and respect for all. What's your mum saying about it? Man, I get it tight.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Well I'm almost 50 and single :shock: Better single then with the wrong partner. I missed the american dream and the wife and kids Bus long ago but did have some great relationships and raised have step kids who love me still. Are you wanting a Wife man or what. Its what you want not what others think thats important. One day you might find that old love bug bite you in the ass. I've seen it happen to the most unlikely people. So watch out Buzzzzzz buzzzzz love bugs about hahahaa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laughs Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Better single then with the wrong partner. Never truer words said....unfortunately we're in the minority my feathered friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CuTieGirL Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 This topic is so in-trend......sounds like the top box office Movie, "40 year old Virgin" PD....do you finally get scare of being alone? :roll: It's ok to enjoy single life......but will you ever get lonely and want someone at the end? :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shades Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Life not only begins at forty, is also begins to show. :twisted: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Life not only begins at forty, is also begins to show. :twisted: Some worse then others and a good reason to look for the person behind the eyes. If you find her inside there then beauty is unbounded :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frankenburner2 Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Life not only begins at forty, is also begins to show. :twisted: Some worse then others and a good reason to look for the person behind the eyes. If you find her inside there then beauty is unbounded :wink: Jeez Eagle!.....any 'mushier' and i'm gonna puke! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Life not only begins at forty, is also begins to show. :twisted: Some worse then others and a good reason to look for the person behind the eyes. If you find her inside there then beauty is unbounded :wink: Jeez Eagle!.....any 'mushier' and i'm gonna puke! HAHA yea I guess but no other way to say it. OK hows this. Screw the wrinkles :twisted: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frankenburner2 Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Life not only begins at forty, is also begins to show. :twisted: Some worse then others and a good reason to look for the person behind the eyes. If you find her inside there then beauty is unbounded :wink: Jeez Eagle!.....any 'mushier' and i'm gonna puke! HAHA yea I guess but no other way to say it. OK hows this. Screw the wrinkles :twisted: eeewwww....not you're ******* fat chicks??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Life not only begins at forty, is also begins to show. :twisted: Some worse then others and a good reason to look for the person behind the eyes. If you find her inside there then beauty is unbounded :wink: Jeez Eagle!.....any 'mushier' and i'm gonna puke! HAHA yea I guess but no other way to say it. OK hows this. Screw the wrinkles :twisted: eeewwww....not you're ******* fat chicks??? haha I said nothing aout rolling in flour I shoulda just let you puke ya sick f**k Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frankenburner2 Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Life not only begins at forty, is also begins to show. :twisted: Some worse then others and a good reason to look for the person behind the eyes. If you find her inside there then beauty is unbounded :wink: Jeez Eagle!.....any 'mushier' and i'm gonna puke! HAHA yea I guess but no other way to say it. OK hows this. Screw the wrinkles :twisted: eeewwww....not you're ******* fat chicks??? haha I said nothing aout rolling in flour I shoulda just let you puke ya sick f**k sorry...aparantly....I'm a little confrontational and twisted today... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zeusbheld Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Life not only begins at forty, is also begins to show. :twisted: Some worse then others and a good reason to look for the person behind the eyes. If you find her inside there then beauty is unbounded :wink: Jeez Eagle!.....any 'mushier' and i'm gonna puke! i didnt wait i puked right away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frankenburner2 Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 sorry...aparantly....I'm a little confrontational and twisted today... And how is that different from every other day? Drink some more sangsom good point....now **** off...i need a drink! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sausage Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 I travel very frequently and work in a completely male enviroment You work in a male massage/a go go in jomtien complex :oops: the answer to this one Daz is if you wanted to settle down with a lady of the night you wouldn't have needed to travel as far as Thailand.....Kings Cross is nearer fella Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PattayaDaz Posted September 16, 2005 Author Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Well done Eagle! At least you understood the gist of my post... The question was: Why do people find it hard to believe I am not married? NOT: Why am I not married.?..... I KNOW why I am not married...Cos I don't want to be....Not because ( as several of you considerate big hearted types suggested) Ï"m some sad lonely loser .. So back to the subject... IN this modern emancipated age why is it inconcievable that you can have a fun filled fullfiling and rewarding life without a spouse. I know that Thai culture is family based...many Thai men love families so much they have more than one..... Thought they don''t always know about each other..... I have had several great relationships in the past (In Singapore, Australia , UK and Malaysia) But when I got to the stage where marriage/living together was discussed I decided it wasn't for me. Which is considered more of a sucess?....A 40 something guy married twicem, failed and divorced and looking for another relationship cos he can't survive on his own....Or someone who is independant with a good career, stable lifestyle, no debts, and freedom. Today more and more educated professionals (male and female) are delaying marriage so they can enjoy the fruits of their labour...Big problem in Singapore..Girls don't want a husband they are having too much fun... Obviously there comes a time when nature takes its course and people decide they want a family and kids...I myself might find the idea appealing in a few years but not right now...I'm not scared of beng alone as I'm an only child who's parents are deceased...but I do think about it sometimes.. After all If I wanted to get the family thing going I could do what most of the newly arrived divorcees do here....Nip down to the nearest bar and hook up with the first Noi they meet...buy a house, car and fluffy dog...and then wait for her run the bank account dry before disapearing with a newer and better heeled arrival. But I haven't....finding a girl is not a problem here...finding a good one is.. Anyhow pick the bones out of this.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 But I haven't....finding a girl is not a problem here...finding a good one is.. Last time I checked the good women don't want to play second fiddle to somebody's selfish needs and insecurity Just my two baht Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WiCKeDBiRD Posted September 16, 2005 Report Share Posted September 16, 2005 Well done Eagle! At least you understood the gist of my post...The question was: Why do people find it hard to believe I am not married? NOT: Why am I not married.?..... I KNOW why I am not married...Cos I don't want to be....Not because ( as several of you considerate big hearted types suggested) Ï"m some sad lonely loser .. Yeah Right... Keep telling yourself that... 3 times after meals... and one more time before you go to bed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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