for some people its the easiest way to depend on other people , its not only in your family dear its everywhere have also in my family and ex family , and your auntie in suisse has a golden heart to send it even she dont know if its true or not

My auntie's in laws whom are non-Thai always willing to help my auntie and my uncle if they ever ask for but my aunt and my uncle never need their help, or actually they'd decline. They always careful with their financial firm, they spent a lot on holidays but they never be in debt, even the credit card.

So my aunt end up helping people..... Is it fair? well, I believe she will be more than happy to help anyone if she can but she cant help everyone forever. I for one, proud of myself that now my aunt doesn't have to worry about me.I got her worried when I was not working for almost 2 years.

»éÒ sounds a lot like ºéÒ

I just think that your good auntie is ·ÓºØ­ to your bad auntie.

ÃÃ’ actually... ÃÃ’ sound a lot like ºéÒ too?

Danny, my uncle is very understanding so thats lucky my aunt and she already freaked out to receive phone call from Thailand.

take it easy babyoiy, it is very cold in switz now, lol....

haha Mike... pls pass all my love to my aunt.. Have u seen her lately?

I don't believe there was a car accident. And if there wasn't, then I don't think you should pass the money on to people who have lied just to get money.

Anyway, they will not appreciate it - and they will ask for it again. People who spend other people's money never have an end to their "needs". Let them solve their own problems with their own money.

Have the same problem with my uncle and aunt in Thailand ( my mum's younger sister and brother ). 2 useless people, love being drunk and spend my grandparents and my mum's money. I'm paying for their kids education right now even. Don't mind doing it as it makes my mum happy. But its bother me that these people will never grow up or change. I feel bad for their kids.

I think you will know what to do... just use your gut feeling when calmed down

Know the feeling....my ex-wife ruined my life,her life and the lifes of my children for money.

After my ex i met a wonderful girl in Ubonratchatani.We can't get married because her mother want me to pay a fotune to marry her so they can settle their current debt so they can just make more.She tells me she loves me but she slave away and waste the best of her life to help her family to pay there debts.I respect and honour Thai culture but what i can't understand is why the woman of Thailand must always look after the family at the cost of threir own happiness and future.Her brother is a drunk and she must forever help him with money.I wonder what will happen if something must happen to her, were will her family will get money from.I have helped her for a period of time but as soon as they settle the debt they just go and make more.Money comes to easy and some Thai mothers will sacrifice the happiness of their daughters for money.She is 36 years old,never married and i love her to bits but it is a lost cause.Thai men (with all respect) seems not to worry about family. For some people it is a way of living to suck other people dry.

Hard to deal with family sometimes as you feel obligated and some take advantage of relationship. But even a relative can burn a bridge if they push too far.

Gee! you are having a bad day,take a deep breath dear and let your feelings come out,but don't be upset to the extent it affects the way you want your life to go.I think Eagle says it all and when you settle down make the decision you really wish to make with out breaking your self.Hope every thing be good for you.

If family doesn't help family, who else will? Happy holidays............

but at least no buffalos were harmed in the accident!!

that's the main thing!!

ask yourself how you would feel if the call had been to tell you the 'bad' aunt had been seriously injured in the accident or even killed... if you still think '**** you'- take the debt she owes you and let her rot in jail!!

(edited for grammatical purposes).

I used to help my sis since I was 10 years old :-p Just 6 months ago I stop giving her money because I want her to take care of herself and be responsible for her own self :-) It works though. Have a nice day na ka!!!

Your aunt (the bad/lazy one) is an adult, she must learn to take care of herself and not rely on other people...

Send the money back to the good aunt (in Switzerland).

your aunt hear bad news because she lives in farangland, and dhe is prolly thought of as being rich, and ready to be hit up for cash.

Many of the examples cited above are why I cannot date a Thai girl that does not have a good job, good education and come from a good family. I know it sounds arrogant and snobbish (which I like to think I am not) and I will never judge people based on their income or thier family. I just avoidr getting romantically involved with them. It is not about the money as I do ok for myself. It is about taking personal responsibility for your actions. I learned very early on from many of the expats at my company that dating girls whose familes are not financially stable is asking for these kinds of problems. Almost all of them had issues with having to give money to family. From having to pay to marry her and build homes for them to having to send them money every month and every relative coming around with a hand out. And most of the time it was because the family members where just plain lazy and irresponsible. And as a farang it is supposed to be theirr duty to provide the money. I understand that it is a culture where family takes a priority but there has to be limits.

Good luck with your problem and I hope it works out for you.

GM your a ******* **** weed, I know plenty of ''good girls'' with good jobs and all of that **** that would **** you over twice as fast and twice as hard as a jobless bar scrut.

Oiy, how much money was it?

Beej

Are you always so angry because you're the byproduct of your mom being raped by camels? Or was she just a *****..and that is why you're so angry at my post? Did it strike a familiar chord for you? Yes I realize that "good girls" can also take you to the cleaners. For you to assume from readin my post that I thought otherwise shows what a complete ******* moron you are! Are you that ******* stupid? I'm surprised you can find food when you're hungry! What an ignorant little ***** you are.

Actually when my beloved auntie gave money to anyone who are our relative, she rarely tell me what's going on when I was younger. But I can assume it myself if any aunt/uncle or any other relative stuck around with my auntie for too long then something going on in the back stage. She's like my mum, can say she's my godmother.

It's always like this, one who can take care of themselves will happened to take care of other sometime.. Very simple. It's not only Thai who live in Thailand but as I said I know how another aunt of mine is like.. She always helping people in Thailand but when she's in Switzerland, one who have to help her is my beloved auntie. It just not fair.. you know... and as we're Thai, once we hear our relative's problem, we always hope it never happened but again if you have to hear the same problem again and again and even you helped already it will not really solved permanently but just once.. It's exhausted you know..

I angry about this aunt because I dont think she deserve any help... She just born to be failed for whole life (sorry to say that, I dont know what she did in her last life, why she is so badluck).. Im not glad to see my auntie who is in her forties still living her life like this... I wish she can take care of herself and live happily but it's a life.. She lives alone over there because she has problem in BKK and have to run away.. I wrote about what happened to my cousin before.. that's why.

Steve... the above message is to clearify myself a bit more.. I feel both hate and pity on her.. but I feel more anger since my beloved auntie has to be involved... and when I heard how much money she transfered I can say that it's the best she can help her sister.. I'm sure she wants to help more but she couldn't.

My auntie work just part time and she gotta manage money of her family... you know save some for the TAX, pay the bills and save some for holidays and for daily expense.. she gained all trust from my uncle so she got to do her job very well plus my cousin will have to go to Uni soon so she need some saving money for her own family... in the past 20 years, she has to look after me. And now she still there whenever I need help.. but I try my best not to bother her with any problem.. I just speechless, I dont know how she can deal with this... I got all stressed everytime I heard the problems of my family.. I wish I could help them but I just start my life... I'm just a baby whom is going to be a girl and growing up more so I cant help them much... it does hurt to see them in trouble and I cant help at all.. but it also hurt to see that they will always be in trouble.. I just wish they can take care of themselve, don't need to give me anything but just live there lifes fine..

I just wish to see my family in a good situation... If I have a million, you know who I will give money to... but I wonder if it will be the last time.. I spoke to my aunt already.. I didn't talk much, you know I'm sad.

@GM - there was nothing wrong with your comment. The usual TF suspects believe they are top-notch. Anybody else are TF proletarians. Mr. OhsopoliteBJ can only act undercover and I doubt he really exists, too. Ignore him. Best you can do.