since I had posted free thai lesson on TF.yesterday comments on my  16th lesson really make me sick.I did something wrong?.why those farrang blame me?http://www.thailandfriends.com/index.php?name=Journal&view=journal&jid=63597&juid=55052all i want to say is THOSE THINGS I POSTED ,THEY ARE NOT MY OWN OPINOINS!!!! I DID SOME RESEARCHES ON THAT,that why i take more than 3 days for each journal PLS I WORK VERY HARD ON THAT!!!i did not put the ref. on becoz here is just informal talk ,,isn't it? i just want  you feel like friends talk to friends as i said on my first journal.DONT SAY THAT I HAVE NARROWMIND OR I AM NOT A GOOD PERSON.and NOT ALL THAI PPL THINK ALL THAT TRUE OR BELIEVE IN THE SAME WAYi just put all things that PPL MAY THINK about you.some will think about you maybe 5-10 items that i post ,some may not think about that or some will think all about that.I dont know ,I just gave you some idea to deal with thai family.doing research in social sci. is diff. from other kind of reserach.I do this thing just prove that i am not just a teacher and programmer.I know all ppl are the same they are good or bad not becoz they are farrang or thaihonestly,I had never dated thai men since I graduated ,IS THAT MEAN I SEE SOMETHING GOOD IN YOU??should i stop my thai lesson here and spend my time do something else make alot of money and get rich as someone mention??and i have to say MY MOTHER NEVER ASK anything from my BF.all she wants is "get married and find some nice place to live"Yes i am a very good girl "no smoke no drink no sex before marriage" but my life is always fun without those things.

I wouldn't worry, its only JudgeGiles, he's a bit of a Jew.

I think what you said went over the heads of some TF'ers. Some seem to think the "Thai attitude toward farang son-in-law" section is your opinion of farangs. There are stupid people everywhere, don't let them get you down ;-)

I hope you don't give up on your journal. It's one of the best things on TF and many people thoroughly enjoy it and appreciate your efforts :-)

Everyone loved and agreed with what you had to say except for one person.

Your journals are very informative and helpful...thank you for them all. They are MUCH appreciated!

Kun kru Fay:

Please continue your journals

King

Fay, when you post an opinion on the internet, there will always be people who either agree or disagree with the opinion.

For those who agree with your views, they will heap praises on you, but those who disagree with it, they will heap scorn on you.

It is just part of life on TF.

I, for one appreciates your journals.

Keep up the good work.

It's all just noise. Storm in a tea cup.

just do whatever you feel like it ja

I read your jurnals and I know you have put a lot great effrts on it. I use to make a lot of journals as I found that it is a place to release things in my mind.

Your journals are very interesting and I don't want those small issue stop your great works ... It is god that you should give the credit for the information that you have got ... it can be the informal journal but to credit the people you borrow his/her idea is the manners.

I thank you for all the good journals that you have posted here ...

Alll comments just the feedback that there are people pay attentions to you... I am such a bad people who read your idea but I was so lazy to comments. Those comments are useful ...Thus the opinions of people who we have NO IDEA who are they. They can be sick people, they can be well educated people or they can be a weirdo people who has no friends & narrow mind. They can be a Psyco people or they can be a very nice people who cares about you ...I would like you try to open those comments and find the good things inside those words.

Maybe you almost forget that some word can be in the "trash"

Hug Hug and Big girls don't cry. Jub jub

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Your journal great! LOVE IT!! But you can't cry over freedom of speech... I am same - same "no smork, no drink, no sex before or after marriage"... drinking/smoking/sex highly overrated anyway... why smoke and cry - when u can sniff and fly? DON'T STOP YOUR JOURNAL.. please... All the best. Cheers.

advice

dont take internet SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hey it's fine it s just their opinions you know this is community and each person have their opinion , including you.

But when you open to let them know you have to accept what people thinking also. Cheers gal

I really enjoy reading your journals and I appreciate the time you put into posting them. I hope you will continue.

No matter what anyone posts on this website, there'll always be someone who has a negative opinion. I only post photos in my journals, and still sometimes get nasty comments!

Look at the *many* positive responses and forget about the few negative ones!

dont worry keep up the journals,good to read

You should not take it personally. I disagreed with your list. Based on my experiences it did not ring true. That is not an indictment on you. I just thought it bought into too many stereotypes. Any posting on the net, no matter how benign, is going to get a variety of responses. You have to have thicker skin.

Putting yourself on a chopping block, you might as well get slaughtered by some. As far as the lengthy of the presence on a community site like this, would have figured to be immune to negative energy. Yin-Yang ... A good blogger should be able to take a positive and negative comments and turn it into something stronger and even greater. Of course there's always be people who would disagree with you in anything and everything. Nobody is 100% right or wrong. It would be quite propaganda-ish and quite absurd to be in search for compliments and to have people 100% agree with you all the time.

thank you very much for all comments here

I know i should not care what other say as i post my lesson in public place like this.I was just abit upset 18 years online i have never been rude to anyone, I dont expect only "good comments" i know some bad comments are good for me to improve my journal.if you read those comments you will understand how i feel.some ppl just want to upset me at all they have another way to discuss but they use that way....

i know something on that are sound stupid ... but can help i just put all that others thai think and i said maybe some of those items are true for some thais but NOT ALL...

sorry that i also make some ppl here upset with me crying....I woke up and saw those comments what should I do

be frank!!

I dont mind any comment like that but I DO mind as someone said like they were my opinions as THEY ARE NOT.

MAKE some of MY FRIENDS misunderstand me!!!.......

AGAIN .... not my view.... and not all true for all thai ppl.... maybe your gf and your gf parents never ever thought about this but some ppl DO,

Don't care too much for someone.

If care too much for everyone in the world, u won't be happy in ur life.

You did very good research for your posting. What so many on this forum forget is that the women that are active here are not representative of the majority of Thai women. From my experiences most Thais are considably more conservative for the most part. Sure there are exceptions to things, just as there are exceptions to everything in life, but for the most part your research is very accurate.

Keep up the good work:))

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I read that journal and I found it great. Very good lessons, but then again, this can prove the quality of many farangs on TF. Don't get yourself bothered by the bad comments, you did the right thing. Kudos to you

Firstly I never said you were a bad person, in fact, I actually said you must be a good person as you were taking a nap so early. I did say you were narrowminded, or that you posted comments that were narrowminded. Well, I rarely post comments and I rarely share my opinions, I mostly read through some when I have time, but the freedom of speech on this site means I can add my comments should I show wish, you have to accept that. I read through a lot of your other posts and some I found a fair representation of Thai society etc etc, if nonetheless a little weird, I am not sure how interesting it is to learn pillow talk or some foul-mouthed Thai words. Well, I don't know, some people perhaps enjoyed that.

You shouldn't post at all though if you can't take criticism. I think you posted the thoughts of others to a degree... although if you thought they were incorrect why would you include them? All that said, if you are trying to educate and inform people then I thought the content of that post was not good. I was not negative, I was simply pointing out I disagreed, and that if it were meant to be factual, I found it not to be from my own experiences and opinions.

I find it weird that you'd cry over it, and post another journal to show it. I don't know you as a person and I wasn't trying to upset you. As someone said above, it's the internet, I wouldn't take it too seriously. I wouldn't have responded had I thought you would take it to heart, I am not here to make people unhappy.

Have a nice day, and continue your posts. But, I may comment again, unless you are strictly asking me not to?

I've learned what "drum solo" is from you so you should keep posting and enlighten the dark corners of my primitive mind.