FMIL (Future Mother In Laws)
I never believe in any craps they say about Mother in law can be your worst enemy. I'm still single, not married, but in a committed relationship for 2 years now. I first met my future mother in law one year ago. We took a few trips together along with my BF. She treats me nice. And I've always been treating her like she's a part of my own family. Sometime my bf even mention that his mom probably likes me a lot that's why she treats me that way. And I'm on my best behavior with her, always treat her with respects. We talk about things we like. Looks like 2 women who get along well with each other.Then a few months ago, I was shock to find out that she'll be coming to visit with her friend and a pretty single daughter. They all will be staying at my BF's place. There's a few hints here and there that his mom and her friend might try to match both of them together. I was not allowed to come by while they were there. The only time I get to meet the whole group is for a dinner for an hour on the last day before they left. I try to be rational about this. But I can't. So I shared this with my mom (who is roughly the same age as my FMIL), so I could understand what she's thinking. My mother doesn't give me much solution other than ask me to be calm. Time pass by and I just try to think there's nothing there. Her friend and the daughter just want a free stay in BKK. Funny that I become a good friend with the daughter after the 2 hours dinner we had, she even gave me her contact numbers and ask me to call her if I ever come by.Yesterday, my FMIL creates another episode. This time, I can't just act like there's probably nothing anymore when things are so clear. She has another friend whose daughter is single and doesn't seem to settle down. So she asked if my BF could meet up with this girl while she's in town for the weekend. She sent the girl's photograph along with the brief description and background. I found this disgusting, truly. And I won't tolerate this disrespect behavior. I also disbelief that she will be doing this to me after I've been more than nice to her. I don't deserve this. And I'm not such a bad person myself. I'm sure I'm a lot better than those girls she try to set up her son with. My bf is naive enough to think the girl is helpless in the city. (She travels in group...how can she be helpless??) So he thinks she need a guide to show things around. I stop him right there and tell him he can go and nurture the girl all that he wants. I just won't be around when he comes back. I also wrote a long 866 words email to his mom. Basically, I ask her honest opinion if she thinks I'm not a good enough woman for her son. I also stated how I feel proud of myself and the things I am. So I won't stand behind being a spare part while she's out shopping for (possibly) a better woman. I told her, I would step out, and she can put her son back in the market again and see if he can be any happier than when he was with me. But I won't bear this disrespect thing I don't deserve. And I wonder what takes her so long to reply me back.
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