Admin_2 Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 I mean, seriously...What's all this about keeping things secret and not talking? If something is on your mind let it out! I ask you how you are and you sit there and say you're fine...followed by 7 minutes of silence. Ok...I got that out of my system. I'm just amazed at how quiet women get sometimes when there is so much going on. I'm not saying that women are stupid or anything...us guys aren't spitting out bits of genius all the time, but how can women just sit and be quiet when they are upset about something?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply_oriental Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 It's depend on their personality of each person and the situation ..Someone doesn't want to speak anything better keep quite.she like this way..i assume that she can reduce her temper quite well..she might think keep quite better say something that will hurt the person whom she talking to. But some woman like to speak out lound .she's not afraid..she like to show her opinion..never mind if it's right or wrong..she never kept secret ..she doesn't care what another person think but she like to think this way..This is hard to tell Rob..Depends on the person and the situation. For me i sometime keep quite some time not ..As i said it's depends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DANNO Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 I mean, seriously...What's all this about keeping things secret and not talking? If something is on your mind let it out! I ask you how you are and you sit there and say you're fine...followed by 7 minutes of silence.Ok...I got that out of my system. I'm just amazed at how quiet women get sometimes when there is so much going on. I'm not saying that women are stupid or anything...us guys aren't spitting out bits of genius all the time, but how can women just sit and be quiet when they are upset about something?! wait aren't back tracking on STFU ??? she just got quiet....oh-oh here it comes.... ><! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply_oriental Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 wait aren't back tracking on STFU ??? she just got quiet....oh-oh here it comes.... ><! We never good enough for him..when we speak ..he told us STFU..when we quite..he want us to speak some thing?..He really hard to treat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teila Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 I mean, seriously...What's all this about keeping things secret and not talking? If something is on your mind let it out! I ask you how you are and you sit there and say you're fine...followed by 7 minutes of silence.Ok...I got that out of my system. I'm just amazed at how quiet women get sometimes when there is so much going on. I'm not saying that women are stupid or anything...us guys aren't spitting out bits of genius all the time, but how can women just sit and be quiet when they are upset about something?! You mean, guys DON'T mind read!?!? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 Seriously though...women need to talk more when something is on their mind!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stramash Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 Seriously though...women need to talk more when something is on their mind!! Ideally while alone in the middle of a distant forest... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitelotus Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 I mean, seriously...What's all this about keeping things secret and not talking? If something is on your mind let it out! I ask you how you are and you sit there and say you're fine...followed by 7 minutes of silence.Ok...I got that out of my system. I'm just amazed at how quiet women get sometimes when there is so much going on. I'm not saying that women are stupid or anything...us guys aren't spitting out bits of genius all the time, but how can women just sit and be quiet when they are upset about something?! Sometime being silent remedy our pain better than screaming or speak out loud, especially to someone who can't help or can't be a good listener,~~~~~~~~~~~~~. So that normally when i get upset from something or someone, i usually cry , let my tear flowing silently and talking to no one until i feel better;) Rob, who told u that guys are genius? for me, even 1 mins ,they can't be smarter than woman LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply_oriental Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 Seriously though...women need to talk more when something is on their mind!! Will you ready accept something to hurt your feeling?..I won't talk to hurt someone that i love until it's extremely unacceptable.But i have the way to tell him nicely .. which things i don't like..i don't want..him to do or to say ..things like this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teila Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 Seriously though...women need to talk more when something is on their mind!! It doesn't work. Men don't listen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaunitz Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 I mean, seriously...What's all this about keeping things secret and not talking? If something is on your mind let it out! I ask you how you are and you sit there and say you're fine...followed by 7 minutes of silence.Ok...I got that out of my system. I'm just amazed at how quiet women get sometimes when there is so much going on. I'm not saying that women are stupid or anything...us guys aren't spitting out bits of genius all the time, but how can women just sit and be quiet when they are upset about something?! This is one of the mysteries mankind never will unveil. If there is nothing to say (for us men), they can't stop talking (see also the STFU-thread) whereas nothing is heard when words would be necessary. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus - this is the only answer! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 The only smart person in this thread so far is DANNO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teila Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 This whole "women should speak up when something is on their mind" seriously does. not. work. I'm very straightforward (some people say blunt) so I always say (at the time) when I'm concerned about something or I don't like something or someone/something pisses me off...etc.. In my experience so far guys always forget & repeat the very thing that annoyed or upset me. Then when I say it again they apologise & forget (again) so in the end it feels like I keep repeating myself & then THAT becomes annoying & I guess (to the guy) it seems like nagging. Also, I remember the little things when I care about someone (friends, family, partner, whoever) so when the bloke keeps forgetting, it makes me think "he obviously doesn't care much, then" Just my thoughts........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply_oriental Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 Men listen..But they won't do it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stramash Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 12 reasons why women don't listen to men; He’s so wrapped up in trying to fix everything that he misses the point completely and we give up. His BS-o-meter is blinkly wildly and flashing lights. He’s so defensive and making too many excuses, that we know he’s just grasping for straws. Poor fool. He is yelling at us. Ears closed. He claims to totally understand what we said, but we know he doesn’t have a clue. He’s not actually listening to us. He zones out so he can focus on his football game or whatever and all we get is the automated “Right honey†or “Yes, Dear.†That’s not a conversation. He’s turned off his emotional responsiveness. If we’re discussing something that is emotional for us, and he’s being all robot-like, we don’t really feel like we’re getting anywhere and we tune him out. He gets fixated on one really bizarre, really technical point and can’t let it go. Consider us gone. He rambles on and on and never seems to get to a point. We probably fell asleep with our eyes open. He tells us the same story (or a variation of the same story) over and over again and we’re sick of hearing it. Let’s please move on from that story. He uses weird analogies that make no sense. Confusion = no longer listening. He talks too softly or mumbles, so we just smile and nod and pretend we can hear him but we’ve stopped trying. He makes us feel like he is doing us a favor by listening to us. Screw that. http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-12-reasons-why-women-dont-listen-to-men/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DANNO Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 The only smart person in this thread so far is DANNO. WOOOAHH a TF first for me !!!!!!! (must be worth an unexpiring membership ...Or at least a beer!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitelotus Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 This is one of the mysteries mankind never will unveil. If there is nothing to say (for us men), they can't stop talking (see also the STFU-thread) whereas nothing is heard when words would be necessary.Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus - this is the only answer! There is noting to say = only men perception but for woman as me, i am in mood to saying what i have in my mind. words would be necessary. = u men think it's necessary but for woman as me, sometime i'm too hurt (mostly from you) to speak anything or already known that if i keep speaking U STILL CAN'T GET IT (for me, sometimes men are really stupid) if u men try to understand us as an opposite sex and response wisely (think men can't be), no matter where men and women come from, we can living compartability Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaunitz Posted July 7, 2011 Report Share Posted July 7, 2011 There is noting to say = only men perception but for woman as me, i am in mood to saying what i have in my mind.words would be necessary. = u men think it's necessary but for woman as me, sometime i'm too hurt (mostly from you) to speak anything or already known that if i keep speaking U STILL CAN'T GET IT (for me, sometimes men are really stupid) if u men try to understand us as an opposite sex and response wisely (think men can't be), no matter where men and women come from, we can living compartability And all of what you said also can be turned exactly the other way round - and would be as correct (or wrong)! As I quotes: Women are from Venus - Men are from Mars. The (individual) question is how well we have learned the respective languages Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasie Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 As long as I know guy likes to look but doesn't like to listen or read then why do I've to waste my time to explain what I'm thinking? And once woman start talking, guy you don't wanna to listen. And I think you shouldn't wish woman to open her mouth when she's upset haha:twisted:. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 It doesn't work. Men don't listen. did somebody just say something ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chatty Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 Speak from my experience, when I had too much testosterone, I always speak my mind... and not many people like girl who talk like that. After I gained up my female hormone, I talk sweeter... be more friendly, plus, I know what time to speak, what time I should keep silence... learnt some good manners, I can make more friends. However, I don't like the PMS. it makes me feel like a drama queen. Actually, I wanna learn more about crucial conversations. but it's my exeption in cyber world lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JanisK Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 I would say it's not only about saying something, it's also WHAT you say. Let me illustrate with an example a good friend told me about her and her husband. They were driving down a road back home, with nice flowers growing alongside the road. My friend thought they would look rather nice in a vase on the kitchen table, so she wanted to stop and pick some. She told her husband: "Oh, those flowers are surely nice." Pop quiz: Did he stop and let her pick some flowers? Hell no (or from a male perspective - of course not), he just agreed to the statement that they were indeed some pretty flowers! She repeated the statement a second time, and this time his response was exactly the same, still not getting her idea of stopping and picking some. Not until the actually told him to stop the car, he did. So, who is to "blame" for this miscommunication? Why didn't she say she wanted to pick flowers in the first place, and why didn't he understand what she actually meant? Instead of getting annoyed at him for not being able to read his mind while driving, it would have been easier so say what she wanted - at least that's what I as a man think. So, she did say something, but in my mind (and I'm sure in most men's mind) not the best thing. Ladies, what are your take on this anecdote? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teila Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 Ladies, what are your take on this anecdote? She definitely can't communicate properly. I think 99% of people (men & women) would've had the same reaction as her husband in that instance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JanisK Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 She definitely can't communicate properly. I think 99% of people (men & women) would've had the same reaction as her husband in that instance. With the risk of getting flamed by the ladies here, I do think this is a typical female thing (at least for ladies from the western world), to say what they want in a very roundabout way, thinking we men know what you *really* mean. But believe me, we're way to simple beings to be able to read between the lines that way, or read the minds of women Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply_oriental Posted July 8, 2011 Report Share Posted July 8, 2011 Ladies, what are your take on this anecdote? Agree with Teila..But men and women always let each other guess what they want.. See if he/she get it or not...this anecdote things sometime become a big fight later.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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